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My God. No. Some of you guys are making wild and disrespectful assumptions. I'm talking about constant, neverending stream of excuses that make it VERY clear where a guy's priorities really lie. Where they are constantly BUSY with their lives and totally slacking off. Where you hardly ever see them even though they live really close by. That's when a woman knows its a kink itch they are using a woman to scratch and they're not at all serious. Obviously stuff is going to come up from time to time and that's ok. But it's inexcusable when it happens a lot in a very short space of time. He kept his dating profile open and updated it with new pictures, but blocked me so that it looked like it was closed. I can only assume he was using his time elsewhere. All of this makes it impossible to believe anything a man says. After a while none of it is real.

I am an FLR Queen which is what he was into. This particular sub was turned on by some really extreme D/s stuff including utter selfishness and women who as he put it, "don't give a single fuck about him". That doesn't turn me on like it does him, but I wasn't going to judge him for it and I like that he was so kinky. I liked that he wouldn't judge me if I wanted to try something wild. I could tell I sometimes did things that were too nurturing for his tastes and it disappointed him. So the very thing you guys are accusing me of, I was not doing, even though I knew he was losing interest when I didn't do it. It's not my style and I won't become a totally different person to the desires of a sub.

If I was completely selfish and didn't give a fuck, that would be ok too, because it's a consenting relationship between adults. So all of this discussion is moot.

Some men on this thread are making a lot of wild assumptions and acting threatened. There are all kinds of subs on CM who have every right to explore what they want to experience just like the rest of us, even if they are turned on by FLR, or utterly selfish women. Even if other men disapprove. There are all kinds of Dommes too with different styles that don't care if you think they're too soft or too selfish or too submissive or too anything. There are men in the outside world who would be appalled that you like to be locked up and judge you for it, and make wild assumptions about the women involved, and judge them even worse. Please bear in mind that these accusations about selfishness are shaming many men on CM who are into it.

I find this threatened behaviour silly. There are barely any women on the planet who are naturally interested in chastity and even fewer naturally into FLR. It's not like there's going to be this huge wave of selfish women kicking down your door and forcing you to do anything. Most of us have to be BEGGED to do the stuff you guys are into. So unknot your nickers. Let consenting adults explore what they want, and focus on what makes you happy.

 

"Simply asked"? Come on dude. There wasn't a single question or any genuine curiosity in either paragraph and you know it. Any time a person starts off with "So, what you are saying is..." they are extrapolating from their own imagination and projecting entirely from their own unique life experience, then solidifying it as fact in their minds and saving error-ridden data to their memory banks. Then making further judgment calls on total fiction. Here is the misquotation followed by the judgement:

In black and white we can see multiple judgments made on a situation you didn't have the backstory to. I mixed it up and was careful not to use all of his exact excuses in case it revealed his identity. The excuses he made were all a string of lies anyway so it doesn't matter what examples I used. That was the entire point. It's sad that you're far too invested in being right to see it, or to apologize to fellow human being you don't know at all for making such a mischaracterization.

By respect, I meant human decency. I don't go around misquoting people I don't know from a bar of soap, then declaring judgments, then telling them its totally fine because they don't deserve my respect since we don't have "an arrangement". They'd think I was bonkers!!! It's actually so ridiculous I just had to laugh!

And that's all the time I have to waste on this topic.

 

Talk about spoiled! She sounds perfect for you. I bet you must be pinching yourself to make sure you're not dreaming.

 

@Unlucky . I am a software engineer at my prime. I earn a six-figure salary. I take pride in being completely self-reliant. If you work a lot on your personality and manners, you won't be so lonely and cynical and you won't have to pay women to touch you. Quit trolling women. It's unbecoming.

 

It seems like there still needs to be some education around here on what an FLR is. It's a Female Led Relationship, where the woman is the Head of the Household. In traditional cases, the woman is naturally dominant in her real life with a career that involves high responsibilities. She is usually the primary bread-winner and the male is the house-husband. He takes care of her every need when she comes home from work. He usually spends Her money. Lol! We really don't like, or need to be in relationships with guys who control our earnings or control anything about us really.

Speaking of personality and manners I'm really heartened to see how many happy, content men there are on CM, in long and loving relationships. All of the most content men on CM (that I've noticed) are witty, have wonderful manners and great personalities that are very attractive to be around. Your wives, KHs and girlfriends seem to be really enjoying how you treat them in and outside the bedroom most of the time, and the lifestyles they are living as a result. Big props!! A few of you lucky guys with KHs who aren't feeling so happy still seem to be struggling a bit with issues related to giving up control, but at least you guys are working on yourselves and efforting.

Although it would be great if FLR men came fully trained with a manual , I realise that my first serious FLR sub (and hopefully, life partner) will require a lot of training, and it looks like it can be a bit exhausting. But seeing the results all over CM gives me great hope. I love knowing I can ask for advice and help here. So many are sharing their stories and uncertainties with such bravery. So, apart from a few sad sacks commenting every once in a while, I'm really loving CM so far

 

I honestly don't care anymore @Alceste . I apologize if you guys have genuine learing difficulties, I don't want to stigmatize by saying this, but you guys are really starting to bore me with your bizarre thought processes and inability to learn anything.

You're taking up a lot of space on this thread going on error-ridden tangents. Move along now!