New to wearing charity

Hello everyone, I would like to share a bit of my story and ask for few advices.

Me and my wife are talking about doing chastity and spicing our sexual life with it for few years and I have bought several cheap AliExpress or Amazon cages but wasn’t able to wear any of them longer then few hours for various reasons. It never fit me well and it always turned me away from trying more so it always ended up with only talking about it but not actually doing it.

Recently I’ve decided to finally try it for real to see if it’s something we would enjoy actually doing. I’ve been always submissive and the thought of someone owning me and my cock is huge turn on and from all the talk I had with my wife it seems like she is really interested and she could be amazing keyholder. I tend to masturbate a lot (3+ times a day) and I really want to get rid of this habit and focus on my wonderful wife.

Thus I’ve decided to spend a bit more and buy a real device. I’ve read a lot of good things about kink3design devices and after some discussion with them about sizing I’ve ordered one.

It has arrived yesterday and I immediately put it on and from the first moment felt the difference between this and the various plastic and steel cheap cages. It felt extremely comfortable without any issues which made me really excited (and horny).

After a while I’ve noticed that the cage is probably a bit too long, my flaccid cock has around 1 cm of space which from what I’ve read is not ideal. I also noticed that I can easily fit a finger between the base ring and my body therefore I can easily pull my dick out and back in which kinda bothers me. I know that no device is 100% safe but this was way too easy. The bigger issue happened during the night when I woke up and one of the balls slipped outside the ring causing pain so I had to take it all off.

The last problem I’ve encountered is peeing. Since my foreskin is crumpled in the device, urine tends to stay all around it inside the device. I work from home so I could always have a quick shower but that is far from being optimal and I don’t know what would I do when not home.

So I feel like I should get a smaller cage with smaller base ring which sucks cause the device I have was not cheap especially with the import tax and travel cost. So it would not solve the hygiene problem. This is the first time in my life I find having circumcised penis is a bit better.

I’m even considering getting PA piercing and a ring less cage to not having to feel with the sizing, hygiene, and security problem.

 

Thanks for your feedback everyone!

I have ordered sizing rings, maybe I should start trying those much more thoroughly.

The ring size of k3d I’ve ordered is 54 mm. I should try around 50-51 I feel.

Didn’t know that if I get snug fit around the cock it will stop the erection and base ring pulling.

Also didn’t know about not being circumcised prevents PA. Definitely something I should consider.

 

I thought I do know but talked to a guy at customer support at k3d and they suggested the larger size comparing to a specific cage i had.

 

Thanks, will read it.

 

I have some follow up to share.

I remembered that I have ordered MM sizing rings a year ago so I tried the largest one (2 1/8'') and it was obvious that it is way too big, so I tried one size smaller (2'') and I could still fit more than index finger (barely but I could) so I went even one more size smaller (1 7/8'') and wore it for several hours without any problems thinking I finally found the right size of the base ring. But when I was trying to fall asleep, the ring started being way too uncomfortable to wear. Now I don't know which one is the right one. The size 7 (1 7/8'') that's uncomfortable after several hours or the size 8 (2'') which I am wearing and testing right now that seems a bit bigger than it's recommended on the MM sizing guide.

 

That's exactly my thought. I am wearing the 2'' one since morning to get used to wearing it and soon try the smaller one again.

 

I would like to share our progress so far.

Although me and my lovely wife talked about chastity for years now, it’s only now I’ve been determined to find the right cage for somewhat longer wear.
While I’m trying out different sizing rings, waiting for cheap k3d knockoff cage from eBay, I’ve been orgasm less for 3 weeks now. I’ve confessed to my wife that I’ve been masturbating more than once a day for past several years and want to stop doing that and engage in chastity asap. She agreed and forbid me to touch her cock.
During our teasing sessions where she never let me cum and only edges me (I have to tell her I’m getting close since it’s hard for her to know how close I am) she told me that I can cum only after I complete several tasks (cooking her dinner, do a pedicure and give her 20 orgasms). I did the first two by tasks and am at 2/20 orgasms, so for someone that was used to cum several times a day it’s really hard to not cheat after 3 weeks and some more time ahead. Not sure if it’s harder now without the actual chastity device or when I would have one and have no temptation to masturbate.

 

I decided to "train" my body to wear something on my private parts by wearing MM sizing rings and to learn more which base ring size is the best for me. I wore 1 7/8'' one for several days (only during the day, off during the night since the erections are causing pain since they are not stopped by the cage) and it seems like the best fit so far. Without an errection I barely know about it and the only thing that sucks about it that the top of the penis shaft around the base ring is a bit irritated, not sure why. My theory is that it was caused by the high temperatures combined with the small seam that's on the sizing ring.

Can't wait for the cheap k3d fake cage to come so I can test some more, get the cage size right aswell and order new proper k3d cage hopefully with the correct fit. The delivery fees and import fee kinda sucks when living in EU tho.

 

My testing kink3design knockoff cage arrived today and I encountered several new issues.

First, I might fit even in smaller 1 3/4'' ring, need to test this. I would have never guessed I can fit in ring so small.

Second, I ordered the smallest cage from this seller on ebay (https://www.ebay.com/itm/325073032090) and when my penis is in its smallest state, it's still a bit too large. I don't know what to do.

Third, the main problem is that I am uncut, that means I need to get my foreskin back before inserting penis inside a cage which is not a problem. The problem is that then the foreskin is in the way near the base ring and it's almost impossible to connect the cage to the ring since there is just too much skin around. Here I am completely clueless how to solve this outside of let myself getting cut which I don't fancy doing.

Fourth, the gap between ring and cage is probably too small. My balls started to get blueish color and the balls made a bulge around the cage which was uncomfortable while walking or sitting.

I am starting to think that getting the PA and ringless PA device is the only way. I would not have a problem getting the piercing done, but I am uncut and read somwhere that you can't use PA cages without being cut. Is that so?

 

I wasn't expecting that cage to fit well and be done with looking for ideal cage, I bought that to size properly to know which size of original k3d cage to order next time and not spend too much money on wrong sizes. My goal with this one was to get right the base ring size and also the cage width and length. And that's what the problem is about. I have no idea which k3d cage to buy now since the length is somewhat ok but width is not since the foreskin is in the way.