Hi everyone, This is my first and hopefully not last post to the group. I've been lurking for awhile. This group has helped me to decide to explore chastity. I'm a happily married male. My wife and I have been married for 7 years. She is awesome and so far, has happily indulged me by participating in all of my kinky behavior. I like to be dominated, and that has led me here. I was really struggling with how to present chastity to my wife. Not because there's anything wrong with it, but because it seems odd at first thought. We have good and maybe even great sex, but when things don't work out, it's usually because I have an issue with keeping my erection. I have a medical issue that impacts this plus I like beer. That's not a great combo. Also, I masturbate a couple of times a week. I'm generally pretty satisfied. So, sometimes I'm not as enthusiastic about sex as I should be. Prior to disclosing my chastity desire to my wife, I order a Rigid Chastity device, which still has not shipped, and a Holy Trainer 3 Nano. I wore the HT for a week, and decided that chastity was for me. No issues wearing it whatsoever. The only thing that I did not like is that it was easy to defeat. I have a PA and even so believe that this is not the answer. It is too easy to defeat and to totally lock it down would require two locks and two sets of keys. PITA. So, I decided to wait for the Rigid Chastity device before committing to more chastity. Ultimately, I decided to be totally honest with my wife. I told her about the masturbation, and porn watching that goes along with it. I also explained that going without orgasms ultimately increases my desires for sex , and that I would like to try to limit my orgasms through not allowing orgasms. We could still have sex, but I would not be allowed to orgasm. I told her that I wanted to go a month without an orgasm and that I should not be allowed to orgasm until I begged for it. However, I admitted that I likely could not control the masturbation without help, and suggested a chastity device and reporting, in the event that I was successful at having an orgasm. She listened and was receptive.. So now, we eagerly await the delivery of the Rigid Chastity device. So far, so good.
Welcome to the group. There are a lot of us here that are locked up because of a masturbation habit. You have done the best thing possible by being honest and discussing why you with your wife. It is great that she is willing to go along without you having an orgasm for a month. I would suggest if she changes her mind on this subject agree with her and give her what she wants. She will likely lose interest if she feels you are locked to keep her away and you are in control.
Welcome, and congratulations on your double bravery -- coming our honestly to your wife and deciding to post here after 8 months of lurking. There are numerous husbands here who have struggled with intimacy and sexually satisfying their wives because of their masturbation habits and related issues, yours truly included. It takes a real man to accept that he needs to change, that he needs to lock up his dick, and to share that with his wife. We're all here to help you, feel free to share and to ask questions.