We've been at this, on and off, over 20 years, over half my life, and nearly my whole adult life. We don't use devices much, opting for the honor system/mental chastity. Sometimes, the goal has been duration, or different forms of it. Over the last two years, the trend has been limiting my options. First, it was no wanking and no orgasms outside her presence, then things focused a lot on ruined HJ's. Now, the goal might be, when she authorizes an emission, then only when she is on top, during PIV, which doesn't happen that often. We will see how that goes.
From your description it seems it is totally her choice for your orgasms, which is fine. But are her orgasms restricted to PIV with you too, or does she please herself? I think in a FLR that the woman shouldn't be limited as the man is, because that is a privilege of being in control.
She has no restrictions on pleasure. PIV doesn’t give her orgasms. In all honesty, most of her orgasms happen when she’s using her toys, alone, which can be a few times a week. I’m lucky when I am involved.
She also find an over emphasis on me (or anyone else) giving her orgasms unappealing. It’s not easy for her to orgasm. It would play into a sub/cuck fantasy if it was merely an issue of me, but to make a long story short, that’s not the issue. She likes taking things into own hands.
Almost two more weeks have gone by. She reminded me that i am not allowed to initiate, and She will let me know when She is ready for sex again. It’s been about a month total. I’m not allowed to initiate sex, only affection.
Exactly how my Wife feels, she does however paddle me and have me worship her bottom daily, but she chooses when we have any sexual activity, sometimes she just isn’t in the mood and we just spoon at bed time...... I wouldn’t dream of initiating anything
I feel mildly worried/paranoid she is losing interest in sex. She says it is not personal and her mood could/should/will turnaround soon. But for 5 weeks it has been “not today, maybe tomorrow”. We’ve put a lot of restrictions on what I can do unless she has directed otherwise. This all plays into my denial kink, but I am also feeling paranoid/insecure.
My Wife and I both work long hours.... we play when we can.... we also have three tween/teen kids at home so.... other than the teasing, She descends on me like a hungry lioness when She is in the mood.
The denial has been pretty strict since the middle of December. She’s talked about keeping this up until Summer to work on “our moods and touching”.
Many women go through a hormone rollercoaster before menopause which can be hard on a couple. Just be patient and allow her to maintain control which will keep her comfortable.
We’ve been playing with this on and off over 20 years. how we do depends on our moods. When She is patient and views things as “fun” my patience goes a lot further. When we are caught flat, it’s harder. a friend (no idea about kink) told her it is abnormal how much we like each other after this long. Maybe we are getting more in sync.