I have been wearing chastity cage on and off for over 5 years. My wife discovered it a few months after I started. She is not a big fan but allows me to wear it as much as I like now and I wear it all the time except showers in the morning and sports, I also have a 1 or 2 days free per week to restore the area. I use a very small cage because of my size (…) but also because I find that it is better to be restrained as much as possible. The cage being tight means it marks my testicular area which is sometime painful hence the 2 days free per week. I would love some advice to keep it longer without risking my health. Is my cage actually too tight ? Should I change ? (I have already tried about 10 different models) Is it really true we can keep it uninterrupted for a year ? Is there a risk of becoming impotent ? Also, I have now become very quick, I only last a few seconds when I have sex with my wife. Is that the same with everyone with long term chastity ? Thanks for your help !
Welcome to our community and I think you'll get answers to most of your questions from the members. Of course, there is variation among the group, but that can be good too.
I can tell from how you have it secured in that picture that the ring around your sac that right way. Also the metal coming from the ring toward the cage seems to have no particular design with the cage... I am not sure if this is the right cage/ring combo... To know more about the ring chaffing I would need to see the cage in the locked position from the side off your body... Shoot me a message, if you want more help.
Well spotted ! The ring is from a different cage. This ring I now use is a little bent which fits me much better. I can wear this combination for days and sleep relatively well. The original ring was hurting the left testi. Picture attached. What do you think ?
Once again I need side views of the cage without your junk in it lol. I shot you a private message on messenger.... hit me back
Yeah that is what I thought.... this might sound counter intuitive but that ring is far to wide in diameter for you. What is happening here is it is moving around an rubbing you raw. 99% of guys can squeeze into a 45mm after spending a little time in the 50 mm.
Welcome. Do you need to put pressure on yourself to make this long-term"? It doesn't seem to be an issue for your wife, so do you need to put yourself under such pressure for long-term lock up? Can't you just go with the flow and enjoy it? Anyway, good luck
Thanks LesterBallard. You are probably right however when you read about people keeping it safe for 365 days or more I would like know whether there is something I could do keep my cage a little longer. I think that if I wear it all the time my wife will more likely take it seriously rather than see it as a time to time weird envy.
One advice I got offline was to to put moisturizing cream before going to bed. Have done that for 2 nights and it works well. I have now spent 7 nights in a row in cage and it actually feels great. Had sex yesterday with my miss. She is quite supportive with the whole thing even not her thing at all. Please continue advice and support !
So... Your whole post is about needing advice for long term chastity... Why are you wearing chastity? Who are you doing it for? Why are you trying to wear long term chastity? You said that, you have been wearing it for 5 years and your wife found out just after you started... A relationship is a delicate thing... Both sided give and take... For some people chastity is a lifestyle... But if you are doing this and she's not into it, then you will be disappointed and she will be hurt. I would seriously be considering if you are giving your wife what she wants, because if she isn't into it... It's just a damaging selfish thing to do to the person that you love... THIS IS YOUR FANTASY... NOT HERS... So you want advice... Here is my advice... Put away your device. Go on the honor system. Ask your wife what she wants. Ask if she likes the idea of chastity and where you both are sexually. Ask her if she is OK with your inability to last sexually... Ask her what kind of man she wants and start being her fantasy for a change... ASK HER WHAT HER FANTASY IS. You may be surprised to find that you were her fantasy, and now, you are annoying the heck out of her. Look... I'm not trying to hurt your feelings or be mean... It's just that, there are a lot of men who think they have found this new thing... Chastity... It's going to be great and it will do so much for their partner... But they never stop and listen to what their partner is telling them... When they say this isn't what they want...
Aaaaaaaaaaaah, fianally, the voice of reason, and sound advice!!! Thank you for your input, macmagna.
Yes you are of course right macmagna. Wearing a chastity cage in my situation is a selfish thing to do and I don’t want to harm my relationship with my wife doing stuff she does not want. I am now only wearing it during the day when it can not be noticed. I hope she changes her mind...