My Sub Thought His Punishment Didn't Fit His Crime .. thoughts pls

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    #26 MadameJs_boo, Mar 14, 2022
    Haha, that's quite the awesome record!!

    And, yes, that was my thought regarding golf... It's just golf lol. Now, a cage while playing rugby or gridiron football doesn't sound like a very good idea but I can't imagine golf being too irritating while caged. To each their own, though! :)
     
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    #27 Jessica Alexander, Mar 15, 2022
    I’d just change the rule to no unlock except for cleaning. Abuse a privilege and you lose it.
     
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    #28 youngy63, Mar 15, 2022
    @MistreskatieG Thank you for my punishment and i deserved all you gave me .It will never ever happen again Mistress. It was just one weak moment and i now know that i have done wrong and you punished me as you wanted to and i deserved all you gave me .
    your ever loving sissy nigela x
     
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    #29 youngy63, Mar 15, 2022
    oh i can vouch it was real :(
     
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    #30 Lady&sub, Mar 15, 2022
    I guess it all boils down to how serious and hardcore you are in your D/s.
    Personally I think it was a little too harsh, but others might think you should give him an hour extra for saying that....

    Mr. sub.
     
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    #31 John, Mar 15, 2022
    Seemed like a very gentle punishment for what he did. He should learn to obey with or without a cage and follow your command. So punishment should make him think twice about not doing what you said. Maybe tell him if he repeats it would be even worse. It's about being in total control. So maybe he thinks it's too much but he stepped over the line in the first place. You need to teach him! Don't feel bad he will thank you in the end.
     
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    #32 DonnaSue, Mar 15, 2022
    I play golf a lot while wearing my cage. I don't see the need for removing it for that reason. As for the punishment, IMHO, it fits the crime! And, you are the Mistress, after all.
     
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    #33 Junebug15, Mar 15, 2022
    Your desire is all that count
     
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    #34 Doug Scibor, Mar 15, 2022
    I'd just like to add that I hope he was praised for accepting his punishment, carrying it out as instructed without push back and forgiven when it was over. You cannot forget that after care.
     
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    #35 Guest 6019, Mar 15, 2022
    You should meditate on why it happened, I think that is important, but also don't give yourself too hard a time. Learn and move on
     
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    #36 Mistressmandi812, Mar 15, 2022
    Punishment is what you make it. He had no opinion. Cutting someone’s hand off for stealing a piece of bread seems unreasonable to us but in some countries that’s a fitting punishment. If the punishment you chose fits the crime to you that’s all that matters. And at the end of the day as Mistresses we don’t actually need a reason at all now do we? I just enjoy it lol. That’s the only reason I need.
     
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    #37 Guest 6019, Mar 15, 2022
    With respect Mistress Mandi, Cutting off anyone's hand is deplorable, no matter where in the world.
     
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    #38 Mistressmandi812, Mar 15, 2022
    Of course it is. It was an extreme comparison. The point still stands.
     
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    #39 Guest 6019, Mar 15, 2022
    Completely agree with the rest of what you said. The difference, and what separates loving punishment, from that which is dealt out by the state is consent.
     
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    #40 Mistressmandi812, Mar 15, 2022
    consent is agreeing to the lifestyle and relationship they chose together. So I’d the punishment too harsh? No. He got what was deserved and that’s whatever Mistress wanted.
     
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    #41 Mistress Katie G, Mar 15, 2022
    Ofcourse, aftercare is extremely important and one of my favourite parts of submission. To connect with my sub on a deep level, to help him understand why he was punished as he was aswell as showing that his submission to me pleases me as much as it does and I am grateful for his submission. Submission is a gift , as much as femdoms preach about what we say is final, that's ofcourse the fun part. The sub has to choose a person to lay it all on the line for and give over all control and trust that we will decide what's best for them. That's the gift. To have someone choose you, to be the person they want to surrender to. When that's achieved ... there's no better feeling. So yes, what I'm saying is my aftercare game is strong
     
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    #42 Guest 6019, Mar 15, 2022
    As it should be.
     
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    #43 Guest 6019, Mar 15, 2022

    Something in what you said reminded me of the Viola Voltiarine podcast. Search for "Obedient Love" She has a very interesting and insightful view on service and dominance, among other things. Well worth a listen, whether D or s if you haven't found it already.
     
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    #47 youngy63, Mar 16, 2022
    @Mistress Katie G
    So beautiful and so powerful words and this is why i trust you and lay it all on the line for you and give my submission to you Mistress
    i feel your love and care you show me every minute of the day and you do make me feel so special and i know how lucky i am that you chose me as your sub .
    I will serve you and you will have my love and care for ever Mistress .
    your ever loving
    sissy nigela xxx
     
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    #48 Xileh, Mar 16, 2022
    You are a dominant woman. He is in a relationship with you. How did he think you would respond? I don’t think your punishment was out of line.

    Do you think he should get consideration for being honest?

    Now, you have set a bar for his obedience, your challenge is to remain consistent.

    My personal experience is he should not require unlocking for golf. It is just not that physical.
     
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    #49 Disciplined Boyfriend, Mar 16, 2022
    Sounds like the original question has been answered @Mistress Katie G . @youngy63 has appeared to accept your punishment in good grace. The matter should now be closed apart from the all important "I'm sorry I had to punish you, but...", "I'm sorry Mistress" and the embrace.

    A
     
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    #50 valesk25, Mar 16, 2022
    I've loved the responses from Mistresses Katie G and Mandi 812.

    Both are clearly thoughtful and responsive Mistresses.

    Much depends on the type of relationship the slave has with their Mistress -but ultimately, it really is about Mistress and her needs.

    I'm seeing my Mistress after 2 years this weekend - she lives abroad and Covid really has been a meeting and vibe killer these past 24 to 26 months.

    I know that once we are through Mistresses door, my chastity cage will be locked on for the next week , no questions or argument from me - it's just whst Mistress has decided for me plus lots of bondage, restraint and humiliation.

    Given this blog, I suspect that the topic of punishment will come up too -all I know is that I've had it relatively easy these past two years - life from this weekend going forward is likely to be Very different. Thank you Mistresses for your perspective.
     
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