My struggles with a vanilla wife

I remember almost a year and half ago when I first proposed chastity to my wife. I was so nervous and excited. It was a win/win for both of us. She would get the most adoring husband and all the sex she wanted and I would get the denial I craved. I thought she would jump on this like ducks on a junebug. NOPE. Didnt happen. I've read of other couples facing the same struggles. The guy wants chastity and the wife hesitantly goes along and things fizzle out or dont work. I've been there and its extremely frustrating. When we first tried I would ask to be let out because of device problems. Something sore or hurting. She would give up the keys and then I would hear nothing from her about it. She didnt seem to care. I would bring it up again and her response was typically, yes go ahead and lock up and give me the keys. No enthusiasm. Then while locked up she would just go on as normal like nothing was going on. No teasing, no talking about it. NADA. That just doesnt work for me. I need her to get me worked up somehow and then deny me. And I wasnt getting anything remotely close to that. So we struggled on and my desires for chastity started to wane. I started to think the whole idea was kinda dumb. What was the point. So the masturbation continued. I knew it was wrong, but I didnt care. We rarely had sex and this was my way of dealing with that. I thought my dreams of chastity were over. Or at least I just didnt care anymore. Things had gone back to they way they were prechastity.
Then two weeks ago it was our 13 year anniversary. We had plans to just go out for dinner, maybe come home and watch a movie, kid free. So we went out and had a nice dinner, kids were at the grandparents for the night. Came home and watched a movie. After the movie, it was still early, and I suggested another movie. It was still early for me anyways. She said lets go to bed. I wasnt in the mood for bed, though I think she was hinting at sex. Whoa! Sex? Its been like almost two months. No thanks I'd rather watch another movie lol. I didnt say that, but its what I was thinking ha ha. So a fight ensued. She complained that she didnt want to stay up late because tomorrow would be filled with homework and laundry. The fight got worse. We differ on parenting techniques. I told her to just tell the kids(or i would) this is what needs to be done, get it done or there are severe reprecussions. Her parenting style is to tell them what to do. When they dont do it she yells at them. If they still dont do it she yells louder lol. Never any reprecussions. They have caught on to this and you would be surprised how much yelling they can take. So she went to bed mad and I stayed up and watched another movie. What a disaster.
A few days later she came home from work and said she wanted to talk. She looked at me and smiled. She said tell me the truth. Have you been masturbating? I said yep. She said when? I said specifically? lol. I think the last time was on friday the day before we went out. She smiled even bigger. She said you know I dont like that. If there was ever one thing she liked about chastity was that it stoppped me from masturbating. The root of all evil in a marriage. She asked if I still had a chastity device. Yep I got one, why? She said your going to put it on and give me the keys. Now even though my desire in chastity had waned I was still fascinated with the devices. So I kept looking for more secure and comfortable devices. So I put on my steelworxx tube jacket and gave her the keys. She didnt say much and the conversation about chastity was pretty short. A few days later while working I get a text message from her. She said her silky panties were driving her crazy at work. It kinda felt like she wasnt wearing any panties at all. I was busy so just replied with a heart emjoi and a thumbs up. Those statements started creeping into my thoughts while I worked causing an extreme hard on. I was kinda embarrassed. Mostly cause I was afraid someone would see the tent in my pants. The rest of the day I couldnt stop thinking about it. I texted her back and told her. She said good, that was my intention. Now I dont know what got into her but I was liking it. That evening she came home early so I could go do an evening appointment for work. As I was getting ready to leave she asked me to get her hitachi out before I left. I was like are you serious? She was like yep, these panties have me all worked up and I need to take care of it. Can you wait until I get home so I can help? Nope. Cant wait. I was sooooo horny. Popped a tent on my way to work thinking I have to get rid of this thing or the customer is going to notice lol. I get to the customers house and recieve another text, "taken care of". I'm so horny. This must be pay backs for the masturbation.

 

@zebra, sorry I cant help you as I'm not even sure what got my wife interested lately lol.

@Billus, good luck with that. I think you'll enjoy it even if it isnt the perfect scenario.

 

@Mascara^Snake , wondering if this unrelated event made you angry? Made you want some payback? lol.

 

@Mascara^Snake , hmmmm.....very similar story indeed. I dont think my wife thinks its a game this time either. She seems more into it. More of its her way or the highway this time around. Regardless i'm not sure if I should be happy or scared lol. I am getting what I want so to say but I have a feeling she may well push me beyond my comfort zone too.

 

@allaboutHer, well said. I admit in the beginning there were many times that I tried controlling the situation. I knew it was wrong but I felt that I needed to guide her. Maybe that was my mistake. I see alot of similarities between our wives although my wife has no bisexual desires or any need to see my dressed like a woman. She prefers me being the man and in charge, just not in charge of my penis lol. But I think your right, for this to work you have to kinda give up on what your fantasy of chastity is and let her decide what she wants it to be. Sounds like a plan .

 

@salonslave, quite the opposite, in fact

 

@allaboutHer , yeah we all have our own kinks. I know my wife has said in the past she wanted to see me eat my own cum. That was a shocker for me.

 

So the other day my wife texted me that she was looking for to a back rub later that night. Back rub around our house is code word for sex though she does like the back rub too. I had a very long exhausting day. She was working late and so I had to make dinner and do homework with the kids. this took until about 9pm and I texted her if she was still working. She said yes but she should be leaving soon. I did the dishes and made sure the kitchen was clean. I do these things normally so I wasnt trying to impress her lol. Around 10pm I kinda realized nothing was probably going to happen as 10:30 is usually her bedtime and I tend to stay up later then her so I resigned myself to just watching the walking dead and going to bed. She comes home and says its time for her back rub. I was no longer in the mood and asked if we could reschedule. She said maybe but she still needed some relief. Like an idiot I said I would be in the mood tomorrow and make it up to her. What can I say? Us guys can sometimes not be in the mood too lol. So the next day I texted her and said I felt bad about what happened and asked if I could make it up to her. She said maybe but it was going to cost me. She said we couldve just used the hitachi and done it quickly and you couldve just held me, be with me. I felt like such an idiot. So she came home early that night as we had a football banquet for one our sons. We came home to start homework and she said she would do it since she wasnt home the night before. I said I could help. So we got the homework done and just chilled for a while. At 10:30 she looked at me and said back rub time. So we went in to bed. After some kissing and fondling my fingers made their way to her pussy. Wow she was so wet. I was so turned on and her pussy was calling to me like a tractor beam. Its hard to describe but going down on her was all I wanted in that moment. She stopped me and said hold on, we still need to discuss what your going to give up to be able to go down on me. She said do you want me? I said YES. Well what is it worth to you. A vacation? Yes you will lose a vacation she said. ( I had her read something on tumblr explaining that a mans orgasm is like a vacation. Once he cums he is selfish for a week. So when deciding how many full orgasms a chaste man should have, think about them as weeks of vacation. ) So she says ok that sounds fair. I'll leave the rest to your imagination but suffice to say when we were done we were both satisfied. She laughed and said I think you left just as big of a mess(precum) on the sheets as I did lol. So lesson learned. I need to stop being selfish even if I'm not in the mood. If she is willing to invest in this, I need to invest in it also. You get out of it what you put into it as the saying goes.

 

@Lockdown, yeah i can imagine your wife has other priorities now lol.