My KH journey

So, here we are, sat in the village pub after the most amazing afternoon I can remember for a long time.
I got to spank, whip and paddle naughty Debbie the teenage schoolgirl, ending with using the 8" black strap-on for the very first time.
It was yet another step change in our relationship, and I loved the whole event.
To see the look of satisfaction in my wife's (KH) face was just so euphoric I'm struggling to put my emotions into words.
Hope I get to see that expression on her face many times going forward.
I'm so lucky that she is allowing me to live out my fantasy.

 

My caged ruin was a very welcome release. Who knew that I would come to crave such a gentle spillage. It had been 12 days since my last ruin, so that's our new record (not that my KH is hung up on such things!).
Over the years PIV sex had become quite infrequent. I assumed it was because my wife didn't really like the act, but having seen the joyous look on her face when we use the 8" faux cock, I now realise that she loves being fucked and it was just my 5" & 2 minute performance that wasn't working for her.
I now have a dawning realisation that I may never feel myself inside my lovely wife (KH) ever again.
At the moment I fully accept that this is for the best and that I can much better sexually serve my KH in other ways.

I try to thank her every day for allowing me to live out my fantasy. I'm so lucky that she has become my KH.

 

This is great that you've been able to work through this and find mutual pleasure using aids that enhance your sexual intimacy! As long as it builds your connectedness to one another in mutual acts of intimacy and doesn't become just about the physical activity, your relationship will thrive and be amazing! Continue to pursue her outside the bedroom emotionally, intellectually and spiritually! It will make all the bedroom activities even more enjoyable!

 

Wow! That's really pretty amazing! Well done @CraigDM !

But can you articulate why you love being his KH most of all? What thoughts & feelings does that engender in you?

 

I'm sorry to report that I have disappointed my KH at the weekend. Went to a party and over indulged on the alcohol.

I did suggest a harsh paddling might be in order (not normally part of our dynamic), or even perhaps some time in the small cage. She discounted both options on the basis that I might enjoy the experience rather than show any increased remorse.

I fear that my brownie point total has been reset and that my next reward could be some time in the distance.

Having said that, she did engage in some serious cage and ball teasing this morning, so perhaps her disappointment was all an act!

 

Oh it was probably real, but I bet she gets aroused from teasing you. She'd be denying herself also if she didn't get you aroused and leave you frustrated!

Teasing me is foreplay for my wife. I recently misbehaved and the penalty was severe; no sexual stimulation for a week. I learned my lesson! The disappointment I caused her and the loss of intimacy for a week affected us both, not just me.

 

The next step in our new dynamic.

@Sazz has just sealed the emergency key which will be kept on the ribbon in our bedroom wardrobe.

FYI the lock is one of the proper Berg-Wachter ones, so there's only two keys.

 

That looks so amazing, like an official sealed document, usually meant for royalty.

 

Just curious, please forgive me if I’m being to direct; is there a special reasoning for the red and the black lining?
Red for your pleasure and black for his?

 

I had a great birthday, one of the best I can remember!
@Sazz treated me to a lovely lunch and a nice bottle of wine, before we retired to our bedroom for some fun times.
A great time was had by all parties, Leroy made an appearance and put in yet another great performance.
I was even granted my first full orgasm in 11 weeks!
Was instructed to put the cage back on though straight away

 

So, three days later from my full orgasm and I think I'm just exiting the sub-drop that I have read about from the more experienced lockees.
According to my lovely KH, I have been a bit of a cocky-bollocks since she granted me such a lovely birthday treat.
The change in my attitude following this 'experiment' does not please her, and she has suggested it may be quite a while until she decides to grant me another full O!
Pretty sure that means monthly full orgasms are the best I can hope for in 2024

 

It perhaps may, which I think is a fairly common path that the KH must experiment a bit to see what is the right combination of length between. Best of luck to you and have fun! Thanks for sharing

 

So following our initial 3 month chastity trial, the numbers are in.

KH: 35 orgasms; 7 of which were assisted by Leroy.
Me: 1 full orgasm; 6 ruins and 4 cage ruins.

Rough guess suggests that my KH has increased to around 4-5 times her pre-chastity norm, while my count has decreased to around 20-25% (even counting the ruins as proper orgasms).

But the numbers don't tell the whole story; during the trial we have been having 'sex' much more often, and it's been immensely more satisfying for the both of us. Chastity is a great gift to our relationship, and I'm thankful everyday that @Sazz has embraced it so enthusiastically.

I hope we will be continuing with chastity, exiting the trail, and entering a new long-term dynamic. Although I am considering forgetting about tracking the numbers moving forward. They have been a good pointer, but long term the right amount of 'sex' is obviously the level that most suits my Queen.

Missing from the count was Full Sex (PiV), as that never happened.

I don't really expect that situation will change as last week @Sazz declared herself Black & 8"+ Only from now on (dildo, not dudes; we're keeping things real!).

I'm happy with this as I accept that I'm simply not well enough equipped to satisfy her in the way that Leroy and his friends can. I'm just grateful that I get to be his warm-up guy

 

That sounds like a good arrangement.

 

I just read this and have a similar situation with my wife.
We have been using the Doc Johnson Vac-u-Lock series and have 3 dildos. My wife has always lusted for black men and when we were younger, she made no secret about it.
A few weeks ago we played and I watched her use her Magic Wand as she orgasmed a couple of times. We were resting and she told me to put "Marcus" on. She then got on me and as all 7" of Marcus disappeared into her, I saw a look of pleasure on her face I haven't seen. She rode me and Marcus hard! She came multiple times. I got so excited I came with no stimulation.
I told her I want to be her cuckold to our three friends.
In 42 years of marriage we are still learning new ways to bring joy to one another.

 

Thought I would revive this thread with a check in at the 6 month point in our chastity journey.
Things are still fabulous! We have had a few big life events recently (all positive), yet through out all this @Sazz has maintained our FLM and grown even more into the role. She now leads with authority; her happiness and desires are the main focus for me, in return she ensures that our relationship continues to flourish.

I've stopped tracking orgasms; content that @Sazz will do what's best for us both. I was granted a full O last month though (my second one on our 6 month journey).
PiV score is still zero; I can't really seeing that happening again any time soon, I simply can't compete with Leroy and the box of toys!

I'm quietly confident that we will make it to our Chasti-versary!