My first 90 Days of Chastity

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    #1 Billy J, Apr 22, 2020
    Today marks my first 90 days of 24/7 chastity and FLR with my Wife/KH. I would like to share some of my experience with you. Sorry this will probably be a long read.
    It's been a wonderful experience for me so far. My Wife/KH was put off by my decision to do this but when I explained my reasons she was supportive. We are both working out our rolls in this new lifestyle and I think there is a rewarding future for both of us. She is definitely enjoying the pampering and watching me doing all the undesirable chores. Typical newbie issues have occurred, like finding correct base ring size. Starting in the winter was challenging because I am outside alot for work. The cold would cause my scrotum to try and ascend into my body and cause excruciating pain. My cage came with 5 base rings, I initially started with the largest and over time I have worked down to the 45mm ring being most comfortable. In the begining two things were problematic, constant precum dripping and sleep erections.
    Dripping was so bad in the first few weeks for me that I had to tape up the holes in my cage or wear a large finger cot over the cage during the day. That has since stopped except for when I'm doing my choirs nude. Sleep erections were horrible in the beginning, 3 or 4 a night. The pulling on my scrotum hurt alot. For a while I would swap out to the largest ring at night. It took about 10 weeks to get down to one semihard erection at night. I affectionately call it kick standing. LOL
    Overall it been great, my Wife/KH loves that she can have an orgasm anytime She want and there is no expectation to reciprocate. She enjoys watching me deal with my blue balls after Her orgasms. My Wife/KH has allowed me to have 4 orgasms in this time. I am refraining from giving myself any relief spills. I find this makes the orgasms I do have mind blowing and body trembling. I should have done this long ago.
    For those new to this or have reluctant partners, the only advice I can give is to be open, honest and patient with your partner. Forcing someone to do something they aren't ready for will only lead to disappointment.

    Lastly, I would like to thank everyone here at Chastity Mansion who have offered their advice and encouragement. You all definitely made it easier and it's nice to know there are others in the same situation going through similar hurdles in the lifestyle.
     
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    #2 njcuckold, Apr 22, 2020
    Wow Congratulations on waiting for three months that is an awesome achievement! I am only a little over a month so I can respect it. Thank you for sharing your issues. I think it will help teach us newer members useful information.
     
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    #3 jvabox, Apr 22, 2020
    Beautiful, congratulations I had the same sort of experience , communication,patience, and being able to post on here has helped and my Wife/ Goddess has really started to embrace the FLR style and she really is enjoying her power keeping me locked. I still have moments of mental frustration because I want to please her sexually so much but it's about her desire and she was pretty vanilla before this, my last orgasm was Valentine's
     
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    #4 Billy J, Apr 22, 2020
    Congrats to you too, 1st month was hard for sure.
     
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    #5 Billy J, Apr 22, 2020
    Thanks, looking back it was kind of funny when I would wake up in the middle of the night. I would go into the guest room and dry hump the bed to try and cum, with no luck at all. Frustration is part of what I enjoy about this.
     
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    #6 njcuckold, Apr 22, 2020
    TY. Yes it is.
     
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    #7 RC-Oz, Apr 23, 2020
    The tearing at my scrotum during sleep erections has been the hardest part for me, partly because it was so unexpected. Things I thought would be major problems have turned out to be pretty easy.
    Thanks for sharing.
     
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    #8 madams-sissysub, Apr 23, 2020
    Congratulations on your mile stone!
     
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    #9 Billy J, Apr 23, 2020
    I applied Vaseline before I went to bedtime which eased the pulling but I stopped because I sleep nude and it got on the sheets.
     
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    #10 Billy J, Apr 23, 2020
    Thank you
     
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    #11 MissyB, Apr 23, 2020
    Good for you and your wife. Getting started is always the hardest part but it takes a lot of determination to keep it going that long. I have the feeling that your wife is beginning to fully realize how nice it is to be in control. Hope you have continued success. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    #12 Billy J, Apr 23, 2020
    @MissyB Sharing here is a nice outlet, I can't talk to about this topic with anyone in my circle of friends. Wife is enjoying this more, but She is uncomfortable with me calling Her my Mistress, Queen as well as referring to me as Her gurl or anything fem like that.
    This is a slow process and we are trying not to load too much on at once.
     
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    #13 MissyB, Apr 23, 2020
    Sounds smart to me. Have to go with mostly comfortable with a little uncomfortable as you both adjust.
     
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    #14 Maid__Heather, Apr 24, 2020
    Wow! Great write up and congrats on the 90 days! The most I've gone is 30 days consecutively so I am familiar with the frustration!! Taking it slow is key and you two are on the right track. Keep having fun! :)
     
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    #15 HisFreakySide, Apr 24, 2020
    Congrats on the 3-month milestone! You mentioned a rewarding future... do you see this lifestyle enduring permanently? Also, do you have any other milestones/goals that you'd like to achieve (e.g., # of days without unlocking, # of days without orgasm, etc)?
     
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    #16 Raymond P., Apr 24, 2020
    Billy J,
    Congratulations on your 90 days! I am "only" at 7 weeks of 24/7 locked, my longest lockup ever. My wife/KH has allowed me no releases and no orgasms during the entire time so I know how frustrating it can get. I certainly applaud your success thus far.
     
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    #17 tvalex, Apr 24, 2020
    Congratulations on your achievement. Sounds like it's working out really well for you both.
     
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    #18 Rectrix, Apr 25, 2020
    Listen to her. We husbands have been thinking about this years, but it's newer and potentially threatening to our wives. And we want to kink it up while she is more interested in real relationship improvements, in seeing you change some of the behaviors (or absence of behaviors) she's talked to you about in the psst. The point is you show submission, and your appreciation of her acceptance of the key in your humility and your behavior, not in fetishizing your relationship -- she's your wife not your prodomme..
     
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    #19 Billy J, Apr 25, 2020
    Thanks, in my case after the 70 day point I lost alot of desire to orgasm. That has quelled much of the frustration.
    You keep up the good work too!
     
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    #20 Billy J, Apr 25, 2020
    Thank you. I see me continuing indefinitely. We discussed next goals prior to my 90 days and well marked it with Her orgasming but none for me. I may be rewarded on my 100th day, "we'll see" is what She said. After day 100, I would like to be orgasm free until my birthday in July.
     
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    #21 Billy J, Apr 25, 2020
    Thank you and Congrats to you too, 7 weeks is a challenge.
     
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    #22 Billy J, Apr 25, 2020
    So far so good. Thank you
     
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    #23 Billy J, Apr 25, 2020
    Sound advice, I appreciate your encouragement.
     
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    #25 On the Edge 247, Apr 26, 2020
    Wow 90 days is absolutely amazing, respect for managing that!
    The longest I have managed is just over 2 weeks and I found that hard.
    I keep the same size ring on all the time, day and night!
    I remove ones a week for deep clean and then lock up again.
    I too find night time erections hard to cope with.
    I generally also sleep in night dress tights and also wear a penis gag for good measure (I just hope my wife does not ask me a question at night because I cannot answer her) its dark so she cannot see it.
    The last time I was locked day 14 I ended up having a massive wet dream. (A bit messy unfortunately)...lol
    So it can mess with your mind, so I’m well impressed with your 90 days (how do you do that). I must try harder!
    My wife is extremely Vanilla and won’t even go near me or cuddle me when I’m caged, so you are lucky to have a wife that is prepared to be your KH. I have been trying for ages but she just will not do it!
    My next plan is to crack the 3 weeks and practice for a full month in Loctober, but 90 days Wow ... impressive !!!





     
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