My fiancee just eagerly agreed to full-time orgasm control...

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    #1 Laynex, Feb 28, 2020
    We broke our record a few months ago with 71 days, and then it sat on the nightstand for almost 2 months. We agreed to lock me up again a few days ago, and I had been super scared of asking if she would be interested in having control of when I'm locked and unlocked entirely, and what i can do if she leaves me unlocked for a while.

    I was expecting some hesitance from her, as she's not into kink nearly as much as me, and there's some aspects of tpe or lifestyle D/s with what i was asking, but she said yes almost before I could get it fully out of my mouth! She also made it pretty clear that if I'm out, I'm still not allowed to do anything.

    I may have just done something crazy. I'm excited as hell and scared shitless for this, but had to tell someone about it. Been dormant on here and thought it would be appropriate! I'm actually more scared of the idea of not being able to ever masturbate than anything... This is going to be a ride! Seriously on cloud 9!
     
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    #2 Consensus, Feb 28, 2020
    Wow! Really pleased for you! Hopefully it goes well, just remember to enjoy it and not push things, communicate rather than wheedle or demand. Saying this, your post makes clear you have a wise head, so the advice is moot!

    Seriously, well done and so pleased for you as a stranger on the internet!
     
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    #3 Laynex, Feb 28, 2020
    I don't know about "wise", but I try to keep it real with us... Had too many failures fuelled by fantasy in the past, so I at least have a playbook on what not to do. It's just interesting to me because our sex life isn't hyper-active, and yet her enthusiasm for this was unquestionable and intense.

    Thank you for the kind words! She just left town for the weekend, so now I get to stew on it for a while.
     
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    #4 MissyB, Feb 28, 2020
    Good luck with your adventure. I assume she's fine with you caged, since you went so long before.
     
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    #5 Cumschot, Feb 28, 2020
    Lucky you
     
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    #6 jvabox, Feb 28, 2020
    Good luck hope it works out one thing I am learning is to be patient I am kind of in the same boat after a good lock up and Valentine's day nothing so I self locked during the day still doing my chores and giving foot massages. Felt a little guilty self locking so the opportunity came up and I told her, she took it well and suggested I keep doing it. Last night I went to give her her foot massage naked and locked she told me she didn't want my naked butt on her couch so I knelt on the floor. When I was done she thanked me and said my chores were done I could unlock. She was a little frisky with her toy when we got in bed making me hard. Then she sent me to heaven by patting my balls telling me to roll over and reminding me she liked me locking up first thing and also told me she would be keeping the keys and she would only unlock after my chores were done. I am now all excited locked and unsure of how this will go . I have to keep telling myself to calm down and be patient, sorry for the long response but like you had to tell someone
     
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    #7 jvabox, Feb 29, 2020
    Well got home and the keys were still sitting on the dresser so I was a little let down, was going to take the cage off stopped myself . Made a nice dinner see how the rest of the night goes she said she was a little sore from the gym earlier. Hope she wants a bath and massage , patience boy patience ...
     
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    #8 Guest 0938, Feb 29, 2020
    How you doing?

    masturbation is over rated I think

    I am on day 13, 10 days since last o.

    it keeps me from thinking about sex all the time. And never seen my sac this full-lol

    But my body is buzzing w good energy

    good luck

    ML pet
     
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    #9 Laynex, Feb 29, 2020
    My brain is spinning right now, honestly. With her going out of town for the weekend, I can't talk to her about all the stuff on my mind.

    She knew I was kinky as hell when we got into the relationship, I never hid that from her. However, she shot down several things I love revolving around chastity right at the onset of our relationship too, and I really stopped trying to push more kink. Even chastity became an occasional thing instead of regular. Now we're getting more serious with chastity and she's acting eager, at least with me being locked, and it's got me wondering if I should be introducing her to my tumblr, or pulling the restraints back out, or just shutting up and enjoying what is going on.

    Basically, I'm the typical melting pile of man meat that is a locked male. Losing my mind and going along for the ride!
     
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    #10 rwpLocked, Feb 29, 2020
    Congratulations!

    If I could offer any advice it would be to be patient and let her lead.
    • Communicate your needs, but try to avoid topping from the bottom and attempts to manipulate her.
    • Focus on her needs, and resist the urge to try and transform her into your tumblr dream mistress overnight. If you feed her dominance organically, you may find her inner mistress is better than you could imagine.
    • Enjoy the ups and the downs of living your fantasy!
     
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    #11 tvalex, Feb 29, 2020
    Things are looking up. It might take her a while to get used to the power she has. But when she does, watch out!

    My wife has just brought me a new cage. Taken the keys. And told me this is 24/7 now!
    Over the last month, she has become more assertive. And for something she was not too keep on, initially. Really run with the idea.
     
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    #12 Jessica Alexander, Mar 1, 2020
    Dude, don’t dump too much on her. Overload her and she will be overwhelmed and shut down. Keep things simple til she hits her comfort zone. You will know when you are there when she totally takes control and you start wondering if you created a monster. Simple rules. She’s obligated to do nothing and unlocks you when she wants. If she wants to add rules from there just go with it.
     
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    #13 madams-sissysub, Mar 1, 2020
    Good luck on your up coming journey!
     
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    #14 Mactastic, Mar 2, 2020
    Keep us posted I can't wait to see where this goes!
     
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    #15 Laynex, Mar 3, 2020
    Day 9, and struggling some with this whole situation mentally currently. We rarely get to see each other due to conflicting work schedules, and even our weekends have been shot these past two weeks.

    I saw a caption last night that said that each day without an orgasm wasn't a day of postponing the pleasure, but a permanently lost chance of that orgasm ever happening. Kinda has my headspace fucked up, but it'll pass.

    Also fighting that mentality of wanting to just dump my pile of fetishes back on her still, like I mentioned previously. Been doing good about not blowing her up with everything, but I'm grasping at thin air for something right now. Do I buy some books on tease and denial and chastity techniques, do i work on captioning again? Do i self play until I'm going mad? My head's spinning. Usually i don't get this desperate until a month or more in.

    I think knowing this time that chastity and orgasm denial is now the status quo has me scared shitless.
     
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    #16 Jessica Alexander, Mar 3, 2020
    Don’t buy or send her anything unless she specifically asks you to without you manipulating her into it. It would probably do you good to avoid the porn, fantasy, captions, etc. for a while. If I was going to lock a man, I would ensure that he couldn’t access porn on his computer or phone and make sure I have admin rights to keep him from erasing history.

    Porn for men is the digital equivalent to junk food. It should be a treat and not a daily thing.
     
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    #17 Consensus, Mar 3, 2020
    Whilst i have zero experience here, i do feel that you do right by hanging back and not thrusting books and fetishes at your fiancée. Also, yes, maybe hang fire on consuming porn and the like. That said, a creative outlet may be helpful, it may just enflame things.

    Also, again, i have no experience, be wary with my advice. It has no basis more reliable than my own rambling experience. Wear sunscreen though!
     
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    #18 Lockedmuscle, Mar 4, 2020
    You need to accept you won’t masterbate again if she is to take you seriously.

    Otherwise it’s just a load of fantasy thrown at her, leave that as a past tense.
     
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    #19 Crowe, Mar 4, 2020
    Don't even bring anything up or you might just piss her off and everything goes out the window. Trust me, it gets easier with each passing day. Going on 83 days now with 380 to go.
     
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