It was a long time of freedom for me before December. My Wife/Key holder has her ups and downs. Before Christmas I told her I was going to lock up for her gift. I have never been locked longer than 2 weeks, even then I was let out for cleaning. So I told her I would stay locked without any "out" time until Feb 14th or whenever she wanted. So far I have been lock without a break since Dec 24........ We will have to wait and see when she lets me out
She was very accepting. I didn't lockup and tell her. We talked about it. She seemed to like the idea. The duration so far has been OK. I do really miss the freedom of being able to chose when we get to be together. She has been keeping me engaged and feeling wanted so that part is great.
That's how we started - a planned month or so of lockup... six months ago. I think some keyholders dislike the fuss of keyholding, but are very happy to have us locked.
My wife and I had a good conversation about this tonight. She seems to be genuinely conflicted. She wants to give me the kink and denial I crave. She likes being "in courtship" again (her words) and sees that this comes with denial. But she doesn't get a particular thrill from teasing then denying me, and indeed said she feels a bit unhappy about denying me (even knowing that she knows that at least at one level I want it). And, she misses it when I don't orgasm -- she said she finds it exciting and satisfying. Lots of dofferent feelings at play!
I think we can all relate to her enjoyment of your orgasm. It is, after all, what motivates most of US.
Some similar things were expressed by Mrs Chaste in the past. She found it difficult to deny me orgasms for to long, she felt a bit guilty about it almost. The teasing was fine she always has liked that. But things have changed over the years and the wicked Mrs Chaste has come to the surface! Keep the communication going and see where it goes. You might be surprised. The wicked Mrs Chaste has no problems with waking me from my sleep and teasing me during the night, and then stopping and going back to sleep!
Absolutely! My mantra has been "patience and communication" and I have been steadily surprised and pleased with how things are developing. Patience comes first - pushing for communication before she is ready doesn't help. But I am working to be very straightforward and honest in *my* communication, while letting her develop at her own pace. She is loving and supportive, and step by step embracing the new dynamic more.