Long initial lock-up - did it work for you?

You know me. Love science.
But if I hadn’t committed to the cage and submitted to my wife I’m sure I could break free and pleasure myself. Half a bottle of lube and some creativity with some needle nosed pliers I’m sure I could get free!!
Are we not just shifting our dependency to the cage itself. Maybe I’ll look into it, but for now… I am caged. I do not masturbate. I do not know when this will end. Problem solved

 

That was/is essentially our philosophy. There was and continues to be ending and teasing, but the first time I went in for 90 days, she would tease in the cage but the cage never came off for any playtime.

 

My post got you thinking?

Well we're going to try th 90 days. The wife is already reading me and sending me photos of the new cage. I'm willing to try. Might regret it though lol

 

Locks only stop the honest people but no locks at all stop no one.

Not sure if that applies here but .....

 

I did some research when we first ot started and the 90 days thing came up.

You can read some of the findings here:
https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...120-days-of-denial-but-why.42665/#post-472953

Enjoy

 

Hmm. I’m still not convinced by the findings in a sense to changing male behaviour… however you did get me thinking with some of your remarks. And I’m making these suggesting from my experience, I appreciate every couple is different. There is some benefit to doing it…

Personally, I think the 90 days period is a good sell. Initially a key holder tends to feel the need to release very quickly. Feelings of guilt etc after a period of 1-2 weeks and wanting satisfaction themselves. Suggesting this long lock up as beneficial allows the Sub to get what they want from this. A real period of denial. You’re right, it’s fulfilling the fantasy.

Flipping the script on this one. Let’s be honest. How many men have actually been put into chastity at the hands of their partner? It’s the minority. It tends to be driven by the desire to be locked up.
The 90 day period is a good tool to create behaviour changes not in the compulsive masturbator, but instead in the KH. No longer feeling the need to release too early (if at all). Becoming more assertive. Realising what they can get from this. Seeing the benefits to them.
We want them to take control, it could increase the chances that they will.

So, maybe there is something in it after all.

 

My thoughts, it’s not a one size fits all. My wife prefers not to grab hold of a cage, so I stay locked while she’s away. She teases me if I’m not caged and doesn’t tease if I’m caged. I guess one has to discover there personal dynamics within there relationship, which seems to take time, trials and a lot of errors

I prefer being caged, and prefer being teased. Hopefully someday it will be both

 

I first l

I had a plastic cobra cage from kink 3d that I skipped out of. The wife said she likes the look of steel. So, we got one from the house of denial.
I'm looking forward to trying it out and seeing how much the wife likes it.

 

Thanks, this is what I was curious of as well and why I am willing to give 90 days a try.

 

That was the cage my wife first picked for me. After a while it became too big…
But her choosing the cage is the first big step along the road to controlling this.

 

This isn’t the case for “all” hetero couples…we have a strapon harness I wear and a dildo that is nearly exactly my dimensions and that’s what we use primarily for PIV sex. Wife stays satisfied and I stay denied. Sometimes we use a cock sleeve. Rare occasion I’m let out to fuck with the real one but still rarely allowed to cum.

 

this is my thought as well. Not sure we will try the 90 days. It is up to her. But I think the biggest thing to be “gained” from it is more related to the confidence of the key holder.

 

I think you’re spot on…most chastity relationships start with the guy asking. - part of the “be careful what you wish for” deal, but many women really embrace it once they figure out things and the various benefits etc. Some unlock their inner domme some just enjoy the role reversal and control. This isn’t “one size fits all”, and there are many ways to play the game so to speak. Just like my wife and I aren’t into the sissy thing, nor cuckolding, but she absolutely LOVES having control over “her” cock and gets off on the control. I get off knowing she’s pleased and satisfying my inner sub. Something in it for all. Also doesn’t mean you “have” to lock up for 90 days at the outset, but if you’re going into more of this becoming a part of your lifestyle then it might be a good idea.

 

I agree with the poster who says that stating an initial long period to a new and reluctant KH gives her time to breathe and relieves the pressure on her to give release.
I did not and Madame Vanilla kept feeling guilty after a couple of weeks. .. so now I've told her that I don't NEED to cum at all but have suggested some 3 celebration dates in the year (our anniversaries of meeting, fucking and marrying).
Shes totally vanilla but hates it when I tell her Ive masturbated: I've promised her to stop it if she'll keep the cage locked.
And that I'll be more attentive...and that seems to be the deal maker so far.
Oh boy do I do a LOT of listening these days!
90 days of listening!

 

Well I am a week into my 90 days. We are trying a new steel cage. I said to my wife I'll give it a test spin and if I don't like it, I'll switch back. My wife quickly replied back" Who said you get to decide?!" Gave me a a little chill!

She's still just playing aong but doing so quite well!

 

I am 4 months in. Had one release in that time. T&d is anal or with my nipples. I don’t think I will even have an erection for some time. I am/ have lost the feeling my penis is for fun. Odd thing is I am getting to a point where I am increasing ok with that. If I got T&D unlocked I think being locked 24/7 would be harder. Chastity is such a mind fuck

 

It was my suggestion simply to see if it had any effect on either of us.
She is neutral to not in favor of the 90 days but willing to see what difference it makes.

I'm not interested in permanent denial, so 90 days without edging sounded honerous.

But more than one person has indicated it has just as much an effect on the key holder as it does then locked .....that's my biggest reason for giving it a try.

 

The tease and email unlocked is far more intense.....teasing locked is just pleasant......at least to me. Not everyone is the same.

 

A little over a week into this l, I'm not sure how I'm going to go 80 more days!!

 

I would also worry about skin damage trying to start out with such a long time locked up. I have gone through a lot of different devices trying to find one that did not damage the skin and risk infection. I can understand staying chaste for 90 days but having to try to wear something your body is not used to wearing 24/7 probably will not go well.

 

I have been wearing a device off and on for two months , so I am past the break in period. I did have a ring-cage combo that the ring was comfortable soft but not aroused. Night erections did exactly as you suggest. I am on a larger more comfortable ring. And can sleep throughout the night unbothered