All, Longtime lurker in the chastity world, but finally admitted my innermost thoughts on chastity to my spouse. I feel it is better to communicate and be open about such desires than trying to move someone in a certain direction without their awareness. However, the reception could be best described as confusion. For now, this is play, but I see that it has become much more for those who similarly started as play. I’m interested in learning what others have done to show their (consenting and aware) partner why on earth one would want to be under another’s control in this way. What actions, activities, or gestures have you used to ensure your partner that the continuous suspense of being denied is better than the crash after frequent releases. Also, I have discovered that I have many fantasies about chastity that my spouse may or may not decide to participate in. How did you abandon those fantasies so you could find out together what you really enjoy? We shall see where at his leads
hello and welcome. Hope you both find a way to make this work so that it meets both of your needs and desires. There's always a bit of compromise
Sounds like a great first step. I'm inexperienced, but I think if you just make it about her and all about her it will work. Good luck. J