Key Holder to Key Holder: My basics

Are you a new Key Holder?
Are you unsure what to do?
Are you unsure of where to begin?

Hopefully my basics will help you find YOUR way.

First, this does need to be YOUR way. Find what works for you. If you try to be a Key Holder the way someone else wants you to be, it will feel like work. I'm not saying that you shouldn't consider what your caged/sub/pet likes. You can always work that in. I'm saying, that you should start with what you feel comfortable with.

For my live-in pet, I LET him tell me and show me what he likes. However, I slip those things in where I choose; where I feel comfortable.
For my live-in pet, he has chores that he must complete every day. I also assign him random tasks. When he doesn't complete a chore or task, he is punished. When he does complete them I reward him.
The same will apply to my Virtual pup/pet.
I make sure to choose tasks that will please me. Clean the house, laundry, cooking, massages, etc. I know those first three aren't exciting, but those are things I personally don't like doing. So it pleases me when I don't have to. I also have him do the fun tasks, because, let's just admit it, those are just fun.
As my profile states, I do my best to be FIRM but fair. I am not cruel. I don't punish for fun. I don't make unreasonable demands of my pet. However, I do stick to my rules. So, not matter how much I care for my pet, he obeys the rules. And if he breaks them, he is punished. Of course I don't LIKE this, but why are there rules if there are not punishments for breaking them. But I will say, because I am generous when I reward him, there isn't very much rule-breaking on his part.
Because I please him with the rewards I choose, he tends to strive harder to please me and complete chores and tasks.

Health and safety are paramount. No matter what, I make sure my pet is well, mentally and physically. If he is not healthy, then we don't continue until he is. This should be your most important concern. You are an important role to your caged/sub/pet. And they are an important role to you. Without you, they are alone without anyone to help them with their male chastity desire. Without them, you don't get to fulfill your Key Holder role. So you should cherish and take care them. Just as they should cherish you and strive to please you.
Part of this includes grooming and cleaning. I make sure my pet stays groomed. I make sure that he keeps himself and his device clean. I have him remove his device once a week to clean it and groom himself. He is not allowed to please himself during this time, and I do monitor him. But this is a must. My pet has a metal cage that allows him to use the restroom freely so he is not sitting in his own waste. This also helps him to clean each day in the shower. But I still insist on once-a-week cleanings as a precaution. Better safe than sorry. My pet is very appreciative of this.
Other than these times, I will also allow my pet to remove the cage if he gets rubbed raw, gets a sore, or anything of that nature. Again, his health is most important to me. As should your caged/sub/pet should be to you.

Being a Key Holder is not difficult. It does take time and caring on our part. We have to care about those we hold the keys for. We also have to take time to make sure they stay safe, healthy, clean, as well as fulfill what it is they need. But again, our way.

I care for my live-in pet. He is very important to me. I thoroughly feel appreciated by him. And that pleases me. I also care about my virtual aspiring pet. Although we have never met in person, he puts his trust in me. He trusts I will not give him a task he isn't capable of completing. He trusts that I will not harm him in any way. And that is not something I take lightly when it comes to either of them.

I hope this gives you at least a basic idea of how to begin your Key Holder role.
I am available if you would like to message me to ask more questions.

 

Thank you so much for the honor.

 

If you would like, you could have her message me, and I would do my best to help.

 

I completely understand. And although I'm a stranger, sometimes it's easier to talk about these things when you're not looking someone in the eyes. It is completely anonymous. I would never know who she was even if I bumped into her on the street. So I do agree with you, I feel that is the vanilla I her. And it may just take time.
But if she changes her mind, I am here.

 

Thank you for your kind words.

 

I completely agree, obviously.

 

I completely agree. I've had some subs/caged tell me that they've had KHs (not their own) treat them harshly simply because they are caged.
I don't operate that way. I feel it takes a lot for a someone to decide to hand over their keys.

KeyHolders guide to T & D- wanna cowrite it?

 

Thank you for your kind words.

 

Thank you.

 

I found that last sentence entertaining.
Honestly, I enjoyed reading your thoughts. It was interesting to see it put that way, in those terms. Great point of view.
Thank you.

 

Sure thing.