My name is Tom. I have a healthy relationship with my girlfriend. Our sex life seems on the verge of an exciting new turn, but I'm having trouble finding the courage to take the next step. From time to time, my girlfriend Marcy will joke about having me wear lingerie or a chastity cage -- but deep down, I think she might be serious. I get so flustered by these comments that I miss my chance to respond, and the conversation quickly moves on. I think Marcy and I have a chance to build a more exciting and intimate relationship, and I really want us to have these experiences together. But I need help coming out of my shell.
If it was me next time she jokes about a cage call her bluff and say okay lets look for one and if she isn't joking then hey enjoy
Hello, first of all hello and welcome. I wear both lingerie and cage and I personally feel fine. I also know that this is not everybodys thing. I would try it out and Maybe you like it and make your wife happy
Hello and welcome. Kidding around like that may be her signal she is interested. Rather than wait, perhaps make a joke about it yourself, sort of show her you might be interested too. If she's already mentioned it before and you didn't respond, there's no guarantee she'll say something again. Since you got flustered when she brought it up, if you mentioned it, you'll be more prepared and can better judge her reaction. Good luck, whatever direction you go.
Okay, just talk about it. You're both probably on the same wavelength, so just talk it through. Good luck to you both
The question is if you find things like chastity or wearing lingerie arousing? Or it the idea of her dominating you the part that you find appealing? Although, in some cases, chastity can lead to (or perhaps facilitate) wearing women's clothing, they are still mutually exclusive. Nor does chastity have to mean being locked 24/7 for long periods of time. You can be locked for a few hours, a day, a weekend, whatever you and your girlfriend find works for you two. If chastity and/or wearing lingerie is something you want to explore, then talk to your girlfriend about it. Perhaps do some reading on sizing, order a cage, and present it to her. If it's not something you want to do, say that. Open and honest communication is critical.
Hello Tom and Welcome! Here's my twopence worth: What is it about her comments that gets you flustered? To echo the comments of others: Do you want to wear lingerie? - there's no shame if you do. Do you want to be cock-locked? - there's no shame in that either. The vital questions are do her little comments give you a thrill? Do you think they give her a thrill? If you fancy the idea of wearing some panties, next time Marcy makes a comment, run (don't walk) run to her knicker drawer, grab a favorite pair, hold them up against yourself and parade up and down in front of her saying things like 'Like these? Do you think I'd look cute in these?' If you really want to do this thing, make it fun and silly and have a bit of a laugh! You never know where it might lead.
Buy a cheap Chinese cage, next time you are away from her for any length of time more than a few days, mail her the key and ask if this is what she wishes? If so lock it on, and shop for a better more secure cage when with her next.
You just need one phrase you are ready with, the next time she jokes about this. "There's many a true word, spoken in jest." Sometimes a joke is the best way to get the truth out there.
Hello and welcome, I’m sure you’ll get all the advice and support from these brilliant people on this site. Fairly new to this myself, I’m single, live alone but still self lock, why?? Don’t really know but it does feel amazing.. don’t fight it, you may well be very very happy in you new, caged role... just give it a go, and good luck!