How to get wife to cuck me?

I’ve been reading through the post and thought I’d put my two cents in. Before you go into your sexual fantasies and desires work on fixing your issue with premature ejaculation. Talk to a Dr or suggest to your wife using a sleeve or strap on to satisfy her desires for penetration and then move onto subject of chastity. Going right into a discussion on being a cuck sounds like a long shot. Better to take small steps. You married her because you love her so take the time to work through your situation.

 

You may be right about being happy with the way things are but that’s something you can easily talk to her about. She may be this way not to hurt your feelings and talking it out could certainly lead to bigger and better things

 

Explaining your desire for her to cage your dick up out of the blue is a big enough challenge as it is.

It sounds like she has no idea of your kinks, and she hasn’t shared hers. My advice for you since neither of you have discussed what turns you on, is to play a little game of knowledge. Tell her you are interested in knowing more about her desires, and have her know what turns u on. You each write an email and send to the other. You tell her you are sexually submissive and lost all the things that turn you on, things you think would be exciting for her to do, etc. Three columns to check from...fantasize about, want to try, need to try. Then list things that are your boundaries.

Note, I would not put cuckolding in the need to try column. That would qualify as a fantasy, and once it’s out there, she will do with it as she pleases. If you are serious about chastity, I would put it in the need to portion, and explain why.

Once you guys know each other, who knows what will happen.

 

I'm trying to understand what benefit his being caged would bring the wife. She's apparently not interested in intercourse, is orally serviced on a regular basis, and apparently doesn't care that he's masturbating. Just based on what has been described, she has little to no interest in sexually satisfying him.

 

It still won’t hurt the Op to talk about things with his wife. I agree with that . It took me a while to get through to my wife Dom kh. She was very closed off and opposed to kink bdsm stuff which I always had in my head. It took years but things have changed and we are much closer then ever before and every day she is growing more and really getting into being in control . There is hope . Also I would suggest like other people have stated. To go slow with it because some people here these things and it’s a lot to take on if they are not open sexually and into things but it does not by any means they won’t like it or love it. Just go slow and good luck!!

 

As with others, I'm concerned about the struggles of clapping with one hand. It is a challenge in a relationship if you hold back thoughts and desires from your other half. At the same time, you are very correct in being respectful of her. Certainly some of your desires could be deemed extreme by someone who is wholly vanilla.

Sounds like you need to open lines of dialogue about sex.

If you feel like you'd be on the submissive side of any equation, live that aspect and be supportive and respectful of her and how she might react. Take baby steps. She probably notices that you don't try to force yourself upon her for PIV sex, so, she probably already understands some of your demeanor/character.

Does she like to watch racy films at all? Does she like sex toys? What does she seem to like? Have you been thinking about what she wants or enjoys? Sometimes when we get too greedy for our own desires we tend to imprint thoughts and desires into the minds of our spouses, yet in reality we haven't considered what's already there?

The path together towards a new reality or relationship is always the best when you walk and explore together.

Romance? Do you give her enough of that? We men are fueled by sex, but not so the case with women. They value the time we spend investing in them and providing romance. Why am I mentioning this? Fill that part in her life and she will be more likely to be open to the idea of exploring different ideas with you on yours.

Time. Lots of time. Time. It can be more frustrating that a nice metal cage.

I wish you both luck and hope you can open a dialogue on sensuality with her as your relationship grows.

 

If you could get your doctor to prescribe 40mg/day of prozac/fluoxetine, it would solve your premature ejaculation problem and probably help with your kink obsessions. Have you even role played using toys that she is having a 3 some? Like her riding a dildo while giving you oral and pretending she is riding another man? If you can't at least get to that point, I wouldnt go talking cuckolding. I wouldnt even bring it up if you cant get past sharing her in a threesome or swinging.

 

Based on your several posts, she clearly knows you're submissive -- you service her orally several times a week, rim her, don't penetrate her, do the housework naked, etc. She's not dumb. Put cuckolding aside, especially since it appears she's not interested in PIV. Start with the cage. Explicitly affirm what you implicitly demonstrate, that you are submissive. Tell her you want to serve only her and that your masturbation distracts from your attention and submission to her, volunteer go wear the cage for her and ask her to hold the key. Then let it rest, shut up and serve her, let her see how good it is to have a submissive husband. And then let it grow, slowly, for a year or three.

 

Men buy dildos for their wives all the time. Look on Amazon for the double layer silicone which are really nice. They are about 8.5 inches long with a little over 6 inches insertable. That would be a good start. You can also explain to her that you think you masturbate too much and you think you have a solution and ask for her help. Show her some photos of what you have in mind. No way is she going to suggest that first so bite the bullet and ask her to try it. Things could progress in your favor once she gets a taste of the power of the key.

 

I'd suggest that you find a good stainless steel device that you can keep clean and wear without asking her to unlock. The last thing you want is to frustrate her with cage problems. If you frame it as asking for help because you masturbate too much, she is very likely to help you. Or say you have a new game to play to add some spice and it's to see who uses the key first to unlock you. Start as a short term game rather than some big chastity reveal. Don't make a big deal out of it or she will make a big deal out of it.

 

I strongly suggest to stay away from the birdlocked silicon device, a waste of money

 

Go steel.

 

Birdlocked is a waste and most plastics get stinky really fast. Stainless is the only way to go if you want to be locked for weeks or months or years.