My boy and I attempted to do a 2 week lockup (would've been our longest to date) and I was chomping at the bit by day 4. I made it 8 days until I made him cum inside me. He gave me several orgasms daily and we had sex almost every night and I still couldn't do it. So, how do you kh's do it? How do you go that long without sharing in that with your partner??
One thing I have noticed is that many people start this type of lifestyle later on in their lives when sex for either partner isn't quite as much of a pressure valve as it was earlier. I wish I had started this in my mid to late thirties but I cannot imagine doing this in my twenties. By mid mid forties I was noticing that masturbation just wasn't as fun as it used to be so it was easier to give up than it would have been ten years earlier. Also some women have less of a desire for penetrative sex than others. I have read that a good percentage of women never experince an orgasm that way so for them lots of wonderful oral sex is enough. The issue is another percentage never orgasm from oral sex, so that is a problem. Finally the one very obvious thing from reading various members posts is there is a massive difference in the sexual needs of some women. There are those with a very low libido where sex a few times a month or even less is enough. My Wife was like this. Others want sex a few times a week. I once had a friend who wanted it a few times a night. She terrified me! Thankfully she never fancied me, she would have destroyed me. The thing is chastity for me has made my orgasms special again and my Wife now gets a few orgasms per week rather than per month. I also get lots more intimate contact that doesn't rely on orgasms so the net result is I am having more 'sex' now than I have in a long time. This is what I mean when I say that not having sex is the best sex I have ever had.
My mistress and I had a lot of PIV sex in our first 6 months of chastity. It was after that things started changing a bit for her and what she liked to do me. She is mostly just interested in controlling my orgasms versus me getting her off. She'd rather tease me when I'm not around and text me pictures of her using her vibrator on herself to drive me nuts. My point being is over the course of a year her desires for what she wanted changed and I think chastity is an ever evolving process that grows with your relationship. So just have fun and go with whatever you want to do. Don't punish yourself just because you both want to see how long he can go with no release. Enjoy the sex and do what you generally want to do and as time goes on, desires and goals will change the longer you both play this game.
A good sex drive and plenty of fun is no bad thing . Possibly heresy on CM lol. Not long ago there was a study and the couples that had regular sex lived longer !! So keep chastity for fun and enjoy life . Xx Wendy
Thanks for all your input! We are having lots of fun and enjoying our journey. I love having control of all his orgasms (and he loves me having the control) so I guess that's more important than being concerned with how long he goes without one.
@FlaMistress Hi, I think you are right. Everyone (and every couple) is different. And every couple needs to work out what works for them. From your message, the important aspect for you guys is that you have control over his orgasms. But you don't want to get into a situation where denying him is frustrating you. You can still control his orgasms but let him have an orgasm when you want to satisfy your needs. Have fun
@FlaMistress The rules of chastity are not set in stone. It's up to you how you choose to use him. If you need him then unlock him and enjoy your property. When you've had enough of him, relock him until he's needed again.
I never thought I would enjoy being a possession. I love belong to my Mistress more and more each day.
It's weird isn't it. For decades now 'society' has been telling us that the absolute worst thing to do is to treat anyone, specifically women, as a possession. So much so that I am programmed to be uncomfortable with the idea of treating my Wife like one, even though I am totally happy with being the possession. I have seen many Women on Tumblr being kept as either subs or slaves by men, and are ridiculously happy with that arrangement but almost all have to keep it secret. Even their families cannot know because of the weight of disapproval. Obviously if someone is not happy being a possession then it absolutely should not be tolerated. But if they actively seek it out? Screw you society. Screw you.
I think that being treated as a possession unwillingly would be probably one of the worst feelings ever. Having said that, wanting to be possessed by someone that loves and cares about you is wonderful. Someone that cares a enough about you and thinks about your needs on a daily basis is someone that truly loves you and when it comes to chastity it's even better!! Being locked up takes my focus away from my libido and while I'm horny all the time all I think about is my Mistress. When I see a pretty girl I think of her. When I get turned on by something locked or unlocked I think of her!! My Mistress has become my focus!! I no longer masterbate, even with permission. There is no need because I either have permission to be with her or I'm locked up. It's a win win!! I'm sry I'm Sunday drunk rambling!! Cheers and have a great week!!!
Drunk rambling is dangerous! Sometimes you let your guard down and some real truths slip out. I am totally the same. I told my Wife last night that porn no longer turns me on, yet she can just stroke my ear and it sets me on fire. She was understandably pleased!
Dang, what Mistress B wrote is hot, "@FlaMistress The rules of chastity are not set in stone. It's up to you how you choose to use him. If you need him then unlock him and enjoy your property. When you've had enough of him, relock him until he's needed again."
Mistress has just said her needs have changed. We are married as she is not bothered If I orgasm. But her needs are fingers, wand, rabbit and tongue. She likes to torment me with the wand in my cage and gets off on that totally. She said the lack of piv is totally outweighted with everything else
Mrs Edge prefers PIV so for a while I just had to learn how to hold it back. Eventually we started experimenting with me wearing a strapon for her, although we went through several before we found the very lifelike (expensive, but we'll worth it!) Vixskin line. She used to enjoy me coming inside her because it feels intimate. However, over the last few years I've learned how to come in my cage; not just leaking or ruined, she can give me what feels like a full on orgasm. That allows her to maintain the sense of womanly intimacy she enjoyed, without the need to unlock me.