How much do you need your device?

I don't need it. It's a useful toy for teasing and that kind of play, but I don't masturbate with or without it.

 

When I’m working I don’t think about my device at all. My weakness is when I’m home by my self than I start to touch myselfa and get aroused. Miss Shelly has tried to leave me unlocked while I was at home by myself but I continued to fail her so now for the past few years I’ve be locked all the time when alone. It’s better that way, I don’t get disciplined as much.

 

For me the device is all about my KH having control over my erections and orgasms. So in that sense I "need" it all the time -- not because I would in fact masturbate madly without it (2-3 times a week was my norm before chastity), or even because stopping masturbation is the point. The point is being locked.

 

A lot! All the time! It is a little thing, but its a big thing. I am not, "playing" a game. I am hard core chaste and must be locked always. I didn't have a problem with P, or M. I just needed to be in a position of complete restriction from arousal. The cage was my saving grace. The feeling, with my device on, is much better experience emotionally and physically than with it off.

 

honestly i don0t need the cage, over time i loose my sexual needed; honestly i think anymore to my sexual pleasure (orgasm). But i like wear cage and i do more as a symbol of my submission to her.

 

It doesn’t. I’m on strict no touching rules.
I’m locked just over 50% of the time. Though it’s getting more and more with time.

I’ve my orgasms controlled since mid-2014, and haven’t had a relapse since I was locked in my piercing-secured custom Contender chastity cage.

The longest without orgasm has been just over 12 weeks. The longest between supervised masturbation has been over 15 months. I’m closing in on 12 months soon.

 

If I'm not locked, it's only a short time before I'll rub one out at an unsupervised moment. Part of why my Lady has committed us to a chaste FLR relationship is because she has found I'm a much better person and partner when I'm not allowed to come at will. Sadly, we have found that voluntary chastity is not possible for me. She is helping me learn new ways to be her husband and partner by being the one to decide when/if I come.

 

To me the device is a wedding ring, with a lock! I CAN be trusted without it, but I prefer to have no choice.

 

I need it regularly, both to control my masturbation and to affirm my submission to my wife. Like @Clean Living, without it I will masturbate, and it will be daily or more. That's destructive of my intimacy and closeness with my wife, and totally undermines my submission. Like @cshorts, I need her to be in control of my erections, the control being the goal in and of itself, in order to get to the level of submission I desire (although unlike him I am a compulsive masturbator, so the two objectives of controlling the erections and stopping the masturbation become the same), and so the cage is essential to giving her erection control. My wife has recognized that I am a better, more open, loving, calmer, better listening, more intimate and obedient husband when she controls and limits my erections and seems to be moving in the direction reducing or eliminating orgasms (from the previous 4-5 per year) as well.

 

I'm not sure I would say that I need it at all.

That being said, wearing my cage on a nearly continuious basis constantly reminds me of the lifestyle I have choosen, and the benefits and rewards, this lifestyle has brought to me.

 

We started chastity 9+ months ago because of my masturbation addiction. The first few months it was needed to control my ages. I am almost always locked but in those times I am uncaged masturbation does not even cross my mind. It is now a matter of honoring her trust in me and my love for her.

 

I don't *need* it in the sense that I can't be trusted. I once went with no orgasm for 15 months on the "honor system," and have regularly done several-month long stints. However, I have found that the device adds a dimension that is definitely lacking with the honor system. The actual, physical restraint adds a nice reminder, especially in the mornings, but at other times, too.

And even Mrs Edge prefers the device. The idea, for her, is that a device turns a "won't" cheat into a "can't" cheat scenario (cheating here being masturbating). While she knows that she can trust me, she also likes knowing that I can't do anything about it even if I wanted to.

 

Late at night, when I can't sleep, if I'm not wearing a cage, I'm not the "Master of my domain" as they put it on Seinfeld.

The cage is only a deterrent. Any cage can be escaped by some means, but adding the barrier seems to work so far. But I've only done short stints in the cage.

But there is something profound in the symbolism behind being under lock and key that also adds to general horniness. I'm more interested in sex when I'm locked, so in that sense, I think it's necessary to get my mind into a certain level of sexual need.

 

I need it...If not I would go right back to my bad habits...

 

Chastity is about Her control over me and my body. This was her choice and I submitted to it. I did masturbate too much. I think if She was asked, she would say that I need it.

I’ve been loved 24/7/365 for 15 months. I’ve had it removed weekly for cleaning. But I have not been allowed to actually touch it for 15 months. I have probably 12-15 orgasms in that same time period.
Prior to being locked, I would orgasm 3 times a day with my own hand. So I guess I needed it. Now, it’s a part of me and I’ve grown attached to it.

 

Very helpful for me to have it on, if I don't my hands wonder a bit, especially in the shower.

 

Okay, seriously, guys. All of you who say that you were compulsive wankers, how the bloody hell do you carve out enough time to have a go at it even once a day, let alone multiple times? Between work, kids, grandkids, and various social obligations, even when I'm not locked up I can't ever remember having that kind of time available.

 

I was on the honor system entirely for decades - so in that sense, I dont need a cage.

At work I am too busy - so there is no opportunity to 'play'.
At home I wear a cage when my temptation levels are getting high.

She doesnt make me wear the Lori's - in fact its more trouble for her to administer me being locked up than she wants.
She is a very practical person. Her approach is:
- she knows I won't lie
- she knows I know she wants all my orgasms to be in her presence
- she knows my kink is to pit my discipline against my increasing biological wants.
- she doesnt care if I 'play' as long as I orgasm (be my guest; drive yourself crazier).
- so, all she has to do is ask if I orgasmed without her.

I do not want to answer 'yes' to that question.
(which includes accidents and nocturnal emissions)

So in that sense - the cage comes in very handy.
After a few weeks my discipline can begin to wane.

Currently I have an orgasm about every 2 weeks - sometime only 1 per month.
The longest I have gone is 4 full months.
Into the 3rd month I got into a stride where I didnt even want to orgasm.
That was very strange for me.

I only saw one episode of that show ...
But I'll suspect that was the one - (the bet between the 3 of who would masturbate first). I just remember the next scene, the lanky guy slapped his $20 down on the table ... he lost that quick! There are times that would have been me.

Disciplining my mind is the Home Run.
Wearing the cage is only a Triple.

Great thread, this.

 

I would not.
At best, they are 1 per week.
Every 2 weeks is probably more accurate.
Never counted ... but I would say about 30-35 a year.
That might be a plethora to some.
It keeps me always wanting.

 

I could quickly rub one out in the AM before work and twice at work or once after work.

 

When I first started with chastity I thought it was a bit of a lark or just an amusing new kink to try. At the time I was heavily influenced by sissy stuff (audio hypnosis, literature and videos) and I really wanted to learn how to sissygasm. So it was more of a fun and sexy means to an end rather than something I needed to take too seriously.

Over time that opinion changed and I noticed how much calmer it made me in general. The more often I was locked up the better I felt and my penis was no longer influencing my actions. No more unsightly bulge in my skirt when I wanted to dress up to feel better. No more compulsion to play with Mrs Palm and her 5 lovely daughters. No more confusion over whether my dressing was gender expression or just some kind of fetish. Emasculation has been beneficial to me because I'm really certain a large part of my identity is in fact female. I know it might sound strange to anyone who doesn't have my perspective but chastity has become increasingly important because it helps keep my mind in balance, so yeah I need my device a lot. I still get horny of course but I feel far more in control of myself. Besides I'm not proud of the fact that I really was a chronic wanker in the past and in regard to another question here when you're a wanker believe me you find the time.