How long is safe to stay caged?

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    Hey guys and Mistresses,
    I am really into being caged for my girlfriend and she's slowly getting into it more and more as well, however she gets a little nervous sometimes about it hurting me and affecting my ability to have kids one day.
    But we both want to try and keep me caged for longer periods of time.
    I own a steel chastity cage.
    If anyone has any advice or knowledge please share.
     
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    You are far from alone in asking this question. And I will be far from alone in the myriad ways to answer it.

    My take:

    You can remain "cum free" indefinitely. My urologist even recommends that I refrain from ejaculation since I do not intend to sire children.

    Erections are a different story. Some say no problem. I personally feel the occasional erection is needed for erectile health. However, the question becomes what is the need for erections at all?

    Well, that depends on the two of you.

    A few of us, like Rictrix and me, are generally denied both erections and ejaculations.
     
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    Thanks for the response.
    I enjoy being caged, but my girlfriend loves making me cum lol. We are working towards getting me to cum in the cage from pegging but it has not happened yet.
    I do want to be able to keep my erections strong especially when we decide to have kids.
     
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    Hello,

    you don´t need strong errections for having kids. Your cum can get on other ways into your wife when you want to get her pregnant.

    Good luck.
     
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    The safest way for you, then, is to be released for edging, then put back in frequently. You'd most likely have NOTHING to worry about.

    And as "Chasity" says above, you don't need an erection for your semen to be placed in your wife.
     
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    Lol yeah I know that but my girlfriend also loves feeling my hard cock inside her lol
     
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    Yes this is my ultimate fantasy is to be locked for long periods and only released for edging. But not quite what my girlfriend wants lol.
     
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    If she likes the regular penetration, you have ZERO worries. You'll never stay locked long enough to hurt you.
     
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    But I want to know whats a healthy length of time I can stay locked??
     
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    There are quite a few folks here who are in permanent/indefinite chastity, so I don't think there is any time limit to how long you can be locked. The main question is, can you clean yourself without taking your cage off, if you can do that, you can leave it on as long as you (or she) likes. But as Lazlo and others have said, if your routine includes regular releases for sexual activities, you have absolutely nothing to worry about.

    That being said, if your cage starts to cause you any sort of pain, that's another matter that you should address immediately.
     
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    I've done 10.5 months before, no issues with erections. I'm currently over a year in my current open ended session. I still get hard.
     
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    Thats amazing! The idea of permanent chastity turns me on like crazy but my girlfriend would never want that.
    She has often said she wants me to keep it on for long periods but she never lets me sleep with it cause she doesn't want it to hurt if I get an erection while I'm sleeping lol.
     
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    Thanks very much thats good to know. So if she has to keep me caged for a few days, everything would be okay down there??
     
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    It is an erotic thought, for sure, but for most people it will never be a reality, and for good reason. I mean, do you really want your reality to be that there will never be any human hands ever touching your dick ever again? It's much more fun to be locked up never knowing when you will be released, but knowing that you WILL be released at some point for some sexual play. The trick is to find a cage that you can keep yourself clean in, then you can keep it on for long periods without needing to take it off for cleanings.

    So you both need to adjust your thinking there, it's totally fine to sleep with a cage on, but it does take some getting used to. You really want to have your girlfriend become your keyholder, but you don't want to have to bother her for the key twice a day. You really want to get locked up and stay locked until she needs to play with it. If all she wants tonight is some oral, you can do that without being unlocked. That's chastity my friend!!!

    Here are some tips:
    • The smaller the cage the better (within reason). The less "room to grow" you have in there, the harder (sorry, not meant to be a pun) it is for the erections to get started.
    • When I feel a nighttime erection starting, I point my cage down so it ends up between my legs and then I sleep on my front, that really helps in stopping the erection in its tracks.
    • Another idea is to use a firm pillow (like a pillow sham), hold it between your knees and use it to hold your cage in position (tucked down, like in the hint above).
    I'm wearing my cage as close to 24/7 as possible, just coming out for play times and I have no problem getting an erection after being caged for a week or two.

    Absolutely fine. Let me let you in on a little secret, you really want to try staying locked for 2 weeks, with no orgasms. Then you'll start to feel what the magic feels like. So if you can get her onboard and go for it.
     
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    If I caught the detail correctly, and you are not wearing the device at night.....then there is ZERO issue. You could put the thing on every single morning for the rest of your life and take it off each night. You'd have absolutely zero issues with erections and baby making.
     
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    #16 Chaste J., Feb 16, 2022
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    We have evolved to 24/7 and as near to 365 as possible in the 9 years since starting my chastity. I am unlocked briefly every few months for cleaning of my cage. By unlocked briefly I mean that the cage and ring come off, I have a supervised shower. Mrs Chaste has a check of my penis after drying and I'm immediately put into another cage until Mrs Chaste decides it's time to change again. The "dirty" cage is thoroughly cleaned and disinfected over the course of 3 or 4 days and then put away ready for the next change. We used to use a Queens Keep but Mrs Chaste prefers the Cherry keeper, we have 3, all the same. I will say the "having kids" bit doesn't come into it for us as we are both 60! As we have evolved, Mrs Chaste has become very fond of my tongue, and her strap on. Last year we had piv twice. Apparently this year it won't be happening at all. Just plenty of teasing for me and an occasional "leak"! Funnily enough since we started Chastity, Mrs Chaste has a lot more multiple orgasms, so I think I can understand why my penis is no longer required.
     
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    It can stay in permanently never needs free
     
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    Thank you for all the tips. Will definitely put them to use.
    I aim to be caged longer and longer, and more often lol.
     
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    Lol yes but I want to start wearing it while I sleep too
     
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    Lol what a great story. I absolutely love it. Lol that's sex life goals right there!!
     
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    I think thats a good idea!!
     
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    Chastity is definitely a journey and yours will be a different to anyone you ask. My advice, experiment. Build up, set small goals that make you both happy. You may be surprised with the result.

    My Mistress and I started with weekends, then tried a couple of weeks when on holiday. Mistress was surprised by how much she enjoyed it and we ended up 24/7. It took maybe 6 months to get there, different cages and playing with sizing. Now I am unlocked weekly, shave/clean and maybe allowed to get hard, then locked straight up. I come around 3 or 4 time a year when Mistress chooses.

    Take time, you don't want to scare your girlfriend, communication is the key pardon the pun.
     
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    It depends on the device. You need something that fits well, is lightweight. Also, don't put use much lotion. You want the base ring to grip so erections don't drag the device away from the body creating a vulnerable "kink".

    If you gf is concerned, you could sleep wearing an athletic support to keep everything in place and safe.
     
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    It will definitely take me time to get to that point but sounds like I'm heading in the right direction. Thanks for the advice
     
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    Yeah I have a steel cage for now so its quite heavy, but she likes it cause it looks like my dick is "in jail" which is how she likes to see it.
    But will have to try the support for when I sleep and see if it helps.
     
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