I have been on this site for a while and I have read somethings that have ranged from a bit far fetched to somethings that are obviously pure fantasy. Here at the Mansion, we often call the writer out on it or move them to the Fiction section. Then the called out the poster will vigorously defend what they wrote, which further proves that it is indeed a fantasy. Those that are for real do not care what anyone else thinks. Then it just devolves into a battle of words between everyone. But this does little to stop it. I believe we are going about solving the problem the wrong way. If someone is looking for a Key Holder/Mistress/Mister etc., has anyone taken then time to help this person attain their goal? This is a male dominated way of life that has a lot more Males interested in it, than Females. So how do we as a group help someone who wants to take their Fantasy and make it their Reality? To make them more attractive to someone looking for the qualities that they possess. We help, we offer advice, we teach. This is the way of the Mansion. That is what I want this thread is to be about. I want our members to post advice, ideas, helpful facts and practices that will teach a person the skills necessary to attract what they are looking for. Not only that, I want these people to shine and standout amongst a sea of others. So fellow members, what advice can you offer someone who wants to attract their opposite number in this Way of Life? My advice is to get yourself together. If the Key Holder of your dreams walked in to your home what would they see? A disgusting mess or a well cleaned and organized home? If you are going to serve someone, you should be well practiced and ready. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Be a master at cleaning your place. It should be clean and free of clutter all the time. Not just when you are expecting company. Are all your clothes folded and put away? Are your shirts ironed and hanging neatly? How is your appearance? Are you clean and presentable or disshelved and dirty? You need to present a clean and put together image. If you shave, make sure you are clean shaven and groomed accordingly. Have a beard, make sure it is well kept and clean. How is your weight? If you could stand to lose a few pounds, begin exercising. My advice, start taking a Martial Art. I would suggest either Kenpo (my style) or Krav Maga. Not only will this get you in shape, but also boost your convenience. If you are going to serve a Queen, shouldn't a knight be able to defend her? What type of diet do you follow? Having fast food for dinner is not going to win anyone over. Can you cook? If not, you need to learn. Nothing can win someone over faster than a person who can cook. It worked for me. I made my Wife Lasagna when we first started dating and she was impressed. Really impressed. Guess who now does all the cooking at home? If you need some cooking ideas, shoot me a message and I will give you some of my best and easiest ones. How impressed will your future Key Holder be if you cook them a delicious meal? Can you maintain a car? Do you know how to change a tire, change your own oil, change a battery? Do you really think your future Key Holder will be doing that type of maintenance? Hit YouTube and start learning or post a question here either I or someone else will help. The Mansion is a safe haven for a lot of us, myself included. Those with experience in this Way of Life need to help and teach others, so that it may grow. If we want Chastity and FLRs to become more Mainstream, then we need to start teaching and helping those who want to be in this Way of Life. That is how we will grow, that is how we can make this more Mainstream. The more people we can introduce to this, the larger our numbers will become. So.... What advice do YOU have to share? Iso.