Help change their Fantasy to their Reality

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    Thank you for further proving my point.

    Iso.
     
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    What's your point that you think has been proven?

    Am I one of those whom you've banished for not being "real?" (I'm not)

    So what's your point?
     
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    You are too angry to see it.
    You are too jaded to comprehend it.
    You are too convinced in your own self righteousness to understand it.

    I no longer wish to spend my time, my energy nor my crayons reasoning with you Husband X. For it will change nothing.

    I wish you luck on your journey.

    Iso.
     
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    That makes two. You're on my ignore list. Bye.
     
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    Some things that I automatically view as a mistake is when someone I don't know speaks to me in chat and simply assumes I'm here to speak to them. Which is incorrect because I'm likely here chatting to friends. I don't speak to people I don't know unless they have the right approach.

    Building on that is when someone does start a conversation they often don't make themselves interesting or appealing. A simple "hello, how r u?" looks lazy to me, I'd rather someone said "Hello, you don't know me but I found your post about "insert subject" very helpful." That forms the basis of intelligent conversation and I get the benefit of feeling I actually helped someone out.

    Projecting fantasies on to others comes under "walking kink dispenser". This one is really obvious when someone says "Oh your shoes are so sexy". In other words "your shoes turn me on because I'm a foot fetishist and more interested in your attire than you as a person". I'm afraid that's an instant yuck moment to me and I don't find it at all sexy.
     
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    Ms. Joanne,

    Thank you.

    This is precisely the type of information I was hoping to get.

    The ability to properly communicate between two people has become a lost art and the rules and more importantly etiquette, have been completely forgotten.

    Iso.
     
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    The first argument my wife (now my KH) and I got into, I stopped when things started to get heated and said "remember that we are setting precedence for how we handle conflicts in this relationship". That has been my most prescient moment thus far. It has also served to make our relationship extremely constructive! We tend to not say things that hurt and damage our relationship unless they are absolutely true and not just an emotional response.

    My advice would be to always slow the emotional and make sure that the "first" establish constructive outcomes. Don't overload on the fantasy. Instead look at the life it can build for both partners. At the end of the day, that is what gives value to our efforts, what we make, create or build.
    Good luck and enjoy!
     
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