Hi all! I am a 31 year old male and my lovely wife is 33. We just started on our chastity journey 3 days ago and I came to the site hoping to find support and feedback as well as to have a place to document our experiences in an authentic manner. (more on that when i create the journey thread) I discovered this site and chastity about 10 years ago but never plugged in past lurking but that is over now! I have had one keyholder before, but it was not a very long journey as our relationship was rocky and it was not the right situation to have such a relationship IMO. I am beyond excited to have the privilege of a second chance with someone who truly, deeply cares about me and who I can feel safe being vulnerable with. My goal on this journey is to simply grow intimacy with the love of my life. More on her/us If anyone is familiar with personality profiles, my wife and i are both very dominant/red/leader traits so we both have strong opinions and this causes a good amount of friction in our marriage as we both vie for control in situations. I share this to just help give a picture of us and that I have seen time and time again, that when given the chance she is a very dynamic leader and more than capable of handling any situation. This is a key factor into where i desire (hopefully) for us to grow in our journey. I want to allow her room to exercise this natural part of her not just inside the bedroom, but in everyday decision making as i know i can be stifling in this manner of our marriage. as far as sexual interests/kinks I am very adventurous and am interested in a ton of things and closed off to very few. My wife has shown some interest in a good amount as well but her current struggle is feeling okay exploring them as she was taught to be very very conservative growing up and anything past vanilla interaction discouraged. Oh yeah on the flip side she has determined that she likes being called domina and i am her bitch boy I hope that was enough of an intro and i am going to start on our journey post soon and hopefully it will be up today. I am very open minded and really do receive other peoples perspectives and ideas well so please do not be afraid to ask anything or reach out. I would love to hear or meet you and i am about as open as a book as you can be and have no problem sharing. -Bitch Boy
Welcome! I can relate somewhat to your “red” personality…I’m a very gregarious fire sign type too, an Enneagram 7 if that’s your jam…that craving for adventure, excitement, and variety, I think, is a big part of why I’m drawn to the daily dance of chastity. On the other hand, I’m quite opinionated and in touch with my own desires, so relinquishing control and prioritizing her satisfaction over mine is a very stimulating mental and emotional exercise. My wife, on the other hand, is not someone who feels naturally dominant or authoritative, so she first had to play along with some things I wanted to try, then discover some new parts of herself. It’s been a really valuable experience for us both.
Thank you all for being welcoming! @Open2njoy it is this guy https://www.amazon.com/TERNENCE-Erg...ice&qid=1624456404&rnid=3760901&s=hpc&sr=1-31 but with the cage swapped out for the same one without the curve so the rings of the cage are just plain straight circles. That way i get the comfort of the curvy base ring and the security of the cage without curves so the gap between the cage and base ring is smaller making it fit better. It definitely works for long term wear
@dominasbichboy It looks like you have all the bases covered - so to speak. Comfort, security, and ease of cleaning are critical especially if it might be worn for more than a few days. By the time you’ve been in it for a week, she should begin to notice a difference in how helpful you are. That’s when it starts to get real.
@Open2njoy I really hope she can wait that long. I have made it a month before and i remember how insanely good that felt but i know she has needs as well. Balancing those two will be a challenge i think
thanks @SmallRyan ! I started a journal in the journals section titled "dominasBitchBoy journey into chastity" and i am almost all caught up
Then you’re well aware of how intense it feels. The big difference is with her as your key holder, she calls the shots. She can always release you if she wants PIV but order you not to orgasm. That takes it up to another level. Or she can have you use toys on her. Pegging can also be incredibly intense for her with the right strap on. It also helps cements her Dominance especially when you’ve been caged for a while.