Have you ever used your safe word?

I have not gone that long but I have had similar feelings in the past. Just stay calm, 10 more days will seem like nothing compared to the month you just did. And when you finally get what you want when you go on your trip it will make the experience more enjoyable and special for the both of you. If you complain to her that you want out it will probably just make her think you’re not ready to play along and she may take less interest in the future. I could be completely wrong, but that’s just my view on it

 

Never used a safe word. Don't even have one now. We used to create a one off word when we try out something new.

I don't understand how being anxious and getting the sweats can be related to warning a cage.

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A long time ago when we started we had a safe word, though neither of us ever used it. It's good to have when you're experimenting.

We've been at this for a long time, now it's purely Femdom and there's no safe word.

 

I used a safe word once during my spanking. She was hitting my buttocks severely with a wooden hair brush. It stung really bad. After a few whacks I had tears. After a few more I lost it and said the safe word.

 

No I've never needed a safe word (yet)

 

Any true sub would only use the safe phrase 'dont stop'

 

I believe safe word isn't necessary for me. I am able to say if something isn't right. You should be able to openly and honestly communicate what is going on with you.

 

We have a safe word not that I have ever used it but it's there just in case
If playing with a gag I'm given a small bell to hold and drop as a safety backup

 

Once during a beating. My wife sent me off to a friend for some severe discipline and after three hours I used yellow.

 

We don't have a safeword, that's for play.

Instead we're adults and we have an open and honest conservation along the lines of;
Me: "The horniness is killing me and I really want an erection. It's all I can think of."
Her: "That's okay, it will pass. Meditate, or do something manual like building the fence you said you would build, or moving the compost bins you said you would move, or just go for a powerwalk for an hour. If that doesn't help we'll talk about it tomorrow morning and see if you feel the same way."
Me: "..."

Me, two hours later, feeling fine and under control: "Thanks babes, for helping me get my wild mind back under control."
Her, looking smug: "I know"

You are feeling loss, and you are feeling withdrawal symptoms. It will pass, I promise, and it does get easier.

If you stop now you will regret it, and will need to start over when you realise you enjoyed giving her control.

We never remember the small hills we climb, but we do the remember the mountains.

 

We only have a safe word for play sessions, there is no escape from chastity.

 

Sounds great, well done.

Only 9 days to go

 

No safe word for chastity. It's not like you are in danger!

 

I’ve used it once before chastity (one of our first attempts at prostate stimulation, I was overwhelmed) but never since. My wife has been honest that if I use it the cage will come off but she doubts she’d ever go back to it, so I need to be sure.

 

i think that safe word is use by men that go and see Ladys that smack them and they pay the Lady to do it and that then the Lady ask them what the safe word is so that they know when to stop smack them.

 

Sweats and heart rate sound more like anxiety than good old fashioned male horniness. Do you have anxiety as a challenge when you're not caged?

I'm pretty even-keeled but when we first started playing with chastity and she answered my call to lock up my cock, it became very real, very fast. I had to remind myself...

• I'm not trapped - I'm free to move about
• She would really unlock me if I asked her to do so
• I'm under no threat of harm
• No one over the age of 16 has died of blue balls
• I asked for this

When she did unlock me for fun, I actually had issues getting an erection simply because I was so wound up and stuck in my own head that I couldn't relax and have fun. I'm at the age where E.D. isn't uncommon and we all experience it at various times; mine was completely self-induced.

Keep in mind that orgasm and sex is always a want, never a need. Males are designed to have much higher sex drive so we see it as essential as eating food which is why we're so easily controlled by women. As I read accounts of people going months, years or even more permanently chaste, I assumed it was masturbation fodder. The longer I am kept chaste, as my releases become further apart, I can absolutely see the time where we move to an annual schedule or more. Not what I expected when we started for sure.

We enjoyed sex last night but her instructions were simply, "I get licked, you stay locked." Be careful what you wish for.

 

What is this concept? ‘Safe word??’

 

I've had to use my safe word on the past but usually where there's a physical problem. If it's your longest run it can be tough and you might find you get the odd down week where you're constantly frustrated and others where you're fine.
I'm sure she won't hold it against you. That's what it's there for and it's supposed to be a bit of fun at the end of the day.

 

Exactly!

I got covid, temperature over 40, worst man-flu I have ever had.

2nd day I said; I think the cage is adding to the stress of being so unwell. She said; I'll take it off so you can focus on getting well.

 

Have a safe word just in case. To force a pause and serous conversation. But it’s not really needed. The answer is communication. Communication. Communication.

 

Glad to read you are doing better!

In my experience and view, safe words usually get used when a party comes to a "dealbreaker" moment when then cannot physically or mentally take it anymore or if there are issues with safety and someone's well-being, so on and so forth.


I'm not in the state that you are in so which could be a big factor but for me Anxiety, high blood pressure, and sense of loss could be all related and normal. I usually need to get to the root of their reasons and once I know why they are happening I'm more or less am able to control them.
Talking with the other person about them has proven to be helpful in most cases.
You also mentioned that you recently started again and that could be strenuous. I'd watch my symptoms and make sure that they are not going to interfere in a truly bad way with my responsibilities. So much is happening to your body, and sometimes getting used to the new can be very hard on a person.

Need and Want can be a tricky one. Specially when lines start to blur. I always think about that saying" you only need water, air and food" which is outdated, and I think a bunch of other items could make it on that list, but the point is that makes me take a look at the big picture. In the case of prolong horniness and lack of cumming I know that if I really need to, my body will take care of it for me and that is a big help in relaxing and also pushing myself.

Congratulations on breaking your record and Good luck!

 

I never used the safe word for releasing my cage, only during session,s like when she gets too hard. I am in now for over 2 weeks. SHE moved out of town, but still in control. I begged her for a release few days back, and it was a clear NO. I am waiting HER orders.

 

No safe word here either, long lockups for me are in the 30+ day range with 55 being my longest. When I feel I’m going to break and start to whine or beg a little, my Wife usually will pull me in tight to her chest and tell me I’m going to be ok, and occasionally she’ll say something like, “let’s see how you’re doing tmrw night and maybe I’ll give you a ruin”. And usually what happens is I’ll calm down and I’ll come down from that “need” to cum and can keep going till whenever she’s ready to give me my orgasm at her time. Once in a while she just has to tell me NO in a more serious tone and give me the look, and I know to not push my luck.
There were times early on in chastity that I’d get a claustrophobic feeling when wearing the cage longer and longer periods, but I don’t think I’ve had one of those episodes for the last couple years now. I’d just have to do something to take my mind off of it, and if it was while laying in bed and my Wife was asleep, I’d put earbuds in and listen to music a while till it passed.