Hello. I'm new here. Long story short, I recently got back together with my girlfriend. We've played around with chastity and liked it. I felt focused and energetic and she said I seemed happier and "culddlier". We recently had a big argument while my device waa on. She told me it will come off in a month, minimum. I thought she was kidding, but I thought wrong. She's never used chastity as a punishment before and I'm not having much fun, to say the least. I'm on day three and losing my mind. I only sleep in twenty minute fits. I want out asap, so I don't dare say anything for fear of more time. She might be testing my devotion since we're just recently back together. My questions are: At what point does this get easier? What can I do to relax and distract myself in the meantime? Any advice would be welcomed.
It is all in your mind. Let me explain. I used to be lockedup for fun, just a couple of days. I went crazy just like you are. this time we spoke before locking that it would be at least for a full month (NO-vember). By knowing this before starting my mind seems to be accepting this longer lockup time and my body adapts very well. Only problem now is that I made a few mistakes and I will be locked at least six days longer than this whole month
Exactly! If this had been a set amount of time, or knew she was gong to do this, I could have mentally prepared. That's part of the thrill for her. Me, meh.
I find after three weeks of abstinence it levels off but as soon as I cum it resets the clock. So usually only have a week of leveledness before I get PIV and resets to horny.
It takes me about a week to acclimate but everyone is different. Keep your mind occupied with other things as best as you can and try some herbal tea to help you sleep. And welcome!
You will acclimate to be in long term lockup before too long and then, to keep yourself from going crazy, why not dedicate yourself to doing anything and everything to please Her or otherwise make Her life easier and more enjoyable. Done correctly, there is no way She can really punish you for doing this and it will serve to confirm your love and attention to Her. (This is what Mistress really want!) Think about washing Her car, cleaning up around the house, making an extra effort to please her. I am certain that it will help you keep your mind off of your penis and cage. In no time, our month will be up and your relationship magically improved. If She questions this, it might be a great opportunity for opening up the channels of communication, but do not mention your month long lockup.
Welcome. It might help if you focus this trapped energy on her, making her life easier, better, and showing her how much you appreciate her. One of the primary goals for many who use chastity here, is to convey to their keyholder how much they mean to you and that you are willing to sacrifice for them. Doing more household chores and assisting her to achieve her sexual goals while you delay yours are both ways to prove your devotion.
You actually made me tear up. I'm being a baby. Thirty days is nothing, considering that it was my own thoughtlessness that led to the argument that got me here. I intend to show her that. Thank you.
Welcome to the Mansion. Great answer @DonnaSue . I would imagine if you were already doing those things you wouldn't be in this position. The first thing you said was you going crazy. If you want to just think of yourself you can stay there. This is a good time to think about what @DonnaSue said and work on it. Hey, after 30 days she might just jump on you for thinking about her..... If she can wait that long. Think of it as adjusting your thinking instead of punishment and you won't have a problem. Just look at as a way of proving to her how important she is to you, and just think, she helped you with it.