Do You Believe A Woman Has A higher Threshold For Pain Than Men

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    I would REALLY love to hear from the Ladies/Mistress' and KHs on this one.

    I have watched quite a bit of porn over the years. I tend to look for the amateur / home made type, that usually pertains to FLR, Cuckolding, BDSM, pain and punishment. After reading, "Are You Guys Really Afraid Of Your Wife KH's punishments" , it got me to thinking.

    In many of the videos I've watched, the male or Female giving punishment to the Female clips, the male or Female doms seem to most always be striking harder and the female subs, being able to take the "harsher" spanking, whipping, paddling ect., with relative ease.

    When watching movies where the Female Domme is giving the punishment to the male sub whether it be spanking, whipping, paddling ect., the Female Dommes (most of the time) seem to be holding back. The males ass, back, legs, cock and balls are (generally) no where near as stripped, red or bruised as the Women who are the subs.

    One site I used to watch a good bit was Elite Pain.com It has Women as the subs and it looks brutal! To the point that the eroticism for me is lost. The premise for most of the videos is money. They get paid for just showing up and getting naked, say $200 then they play a game. The two that come to mind is Wheel of Pain and Cards of Pain. In these the woman spins a wheel or draws a card revealing a body part. (arms, legs, butt, back, palms, soles, pussy.) Then they spin again to determine how many strokes and of what instruments. ( flogger, whip, cane, belt ect.) With each spin they get $500 once completed. If they tap out / say they safe word or stop they loose everything. I am beyond AMAZED at what some of these women endure to either make it to the end or tap out early.

    I can honestly say that I have never seen a video where a male sub has taken much punishment at all before tapping out or giving up the safe word. Most are jumping about and either almost or full on crying. (BTW The Women in the afore mentioned videos do scream out and cry but seem to gather themselves and soldier on)
    The men on the other hand just do not seem as resilient.

    So I ask, do Women ACTUALLY have a higher tolerance for pain? What are your thoughts?
     
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    ElitePain.com is a make-believe type of studio. Check Night24.com if you want the good stuff.

    As to your question - I believe it depends on an individual rather than sex. Strong willpower and physical fitness are principal factors.
     
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    Do women have a higher pain tolerance?

    Childbirth.

    /Endthread
     
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    I second that
     
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    Yep we have a winner. Childbirth tops them all.
     
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    I'll say it with sarcasm:
    Yeah men don't take childbirth very wel....
    Child birth is a good comparison because both sexes do it.
    It makes as much sense as saying warwounds.
    Also administered equally to both sexes.
     
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    Depends on the type of pain and circumstances. All of us can absorb a tremendous amount of pain but interpertation of pain is neurochemical. If your head is in the right place ( subspace?) you can reconfigure your brain.
     
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    I agree to! I’m sure it’s been proven somewhere to, but I cannot remember where.
     
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    Definitely yes.
    A man would never endure the pain and efforts required to deliver birth..

    Therefore men should pay high respect to women. A sub man should give trust to his Dome/wife when she give him pain training... she knows it well and will make you a better men...
     
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    Fact! My pain threshold is far higher than that of Mrs Chaste! Even she is amazed by how much I can withstand. I don't just mean in a kink way either! And yes she has experienced child birth! I don't mean that men could "cope" with it, in fact I don't think we could very well. And this is one of the many ways men and women are made differently!
     
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    Most women would abandon the process during natural childbirth if given the option. How many chose natural childbirth without any pain control more than once? The only options to extreme pain are to get through it or die. Kidney stones are supposed to be worse and they incapacitate both genders.
    https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-019-00895-3
     
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    #15 WannaLockCock, Apr 26, 2021
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    I have heard from several women who have had natural childbirth and kidney stones and said they would do natural childbirth any day to having a kidney stone.
    I have had MANY kidney stones. I am recovering from one right now (7mm) Had lithotripsy procedure Thursday. I'm still pissing blood and gravel. I cannot compare the two, being male, but I will tell you I have had them so bad I have thrown up my toenails and curled up on the living room floor crying like a baby (literally)!
     
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    I do know it is shot in a studio and at first didn't believe it was real but I've slowed some of the shots frame by frame and they are definitely getting hit. I do however think that some of the markings are painted on or however the studio does it to exaggerate the scene.

    I will check out the other site you mentioned
     
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    Sorry I didn't get the quote in on the previous reply. lol
     
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    Exactly.
     
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    I agree on what type of pain is been applied to the individual and how they can process the pain. However I have to agree that women can handle and process pain better than men.
    I watched my kh/wife go thru 2 natural child births with absolutely no drugs, kidney stones, surgery and she was up on her own doing the next day on all occasions.
    My leg was been crushed above my ankle for 25 minutes between 2 - 50ft concrete hydro poles on their sides near the bases of the poles not the tops of the poles. I couldn't handle the pain for 2 weeks.
    I wish I could have their high pain tolerance.
     
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    #20 TheMilkybarKid, Apr 26, 2021
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    I think this is slightly naive; a man does not have the choice whether or not to endure childbirth and so it is impossible to ascribe whether a male could or could not doing something given that he is physically incapable of doing so in the first place. It's akin to saying a female could never handle CBT. A female could never experience CBT in the first place, so whether or not they are more able to take the pain of CBT is completely irrelevant.

    However, to the subject of whether women or men are better at taking pain, specifically within the context of (straight) BDSM, I would say it depends far more on the cultural context than a person's biological sex. The examples given above about what men and women are open to receiving pain-wise are straight examples. So, I would agree that maybe heterosexual men are less used to the idea of needing to take pain and so they might be more likely to safeword more quickly (altho please note the qualifiers of maybe and might).

    But you should see some of the stuff I have seen with gay subs1. Maybe it is simply that, that within the straight community it is seen as more 'normal' for a female to be the subordinate partner, so the women who are into pain tend to have gotten more practice? But within the gay community, there is no such restriction. I have seen and experienced a heck of a lot of pain in such scenarios.

    Different parts of the body react differently to pain according to the biological gender of a person. So, men's nipples are often less sensitive than females, so more pain can be inflicted upon them. I have read that where a female is given breast torture, a male should be given testicular torture to inflict a broadly similar amount of pain. Granted the very vast majority of (straight) men wouldn't allow anyone to torture their crown jewels but this is again a cultural thing rather than a biological thing because it happens a lot between gay men who are into BDSM.

    But honestly, I think the whole question of "whether men or women are better taking pain" is extremely reductive. Some women may be better at taking pain than some men, but equally some men will be better at taking pain than some women. So there is not, in my opinion, a hard and fast answer.

    1. FWIW I don't consider myself either gay or straight because I try to disavow bourgeois notions about a correct or improper way of doing things. For me, it is about people rather than their bits. But having flitted between the two communities for a number of years you do begin to notice the conflicting positions of the two communities. Anyone trying to draw conclusions by just looking at their own community will thus miss points of contention owing to the 'normalcy' of their own preferred type of conduct.
     
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    My wife had two natural births without pain medication by choice. She was concerned about the health of the baby or that pain medication might lead to additional medical interventions (i.e in America, administration of an epidural is correlated with increased use of Pitocin which is correlated with increase c-section rates).

    But I would easily cede that my wife has a higher pain tolerance than I do.
     
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    My first wife had epidurals and said that three of them passed easily, despite the struggle, thanks to the pain killers.

    My wife has no tolerance for pain.

    Simply because someone has a painful experience does not mean they have a high tolerance to pain. Screaming in pain is not the same as placidly enduring and showing no emotion. The ability to experience pain and show nothing, is tolerance to pain. Screaming and crying out, is not. It's simply experiencing pain. Very few have a tolerance for pain.

    My own has altered from my younger years. There was a time when very little would have made me flinch. I've been stabbed and said nothing. When younger, I did not believe in showing a response, or an emotion. Today, I won't go to a dentist. I don't enjoy pain. I never did. I stuck a window breaker through my thumb a few days ago and jumped. I'll react to stepping on a cactus needle.

    A few weeks ago, I lay unclothed across a footstool in our living room one night, before departing on a trip. My wife declared her intent to apply 60 lashes. One of them landed across my kidney area, and I collapsed off the stool. She apologized profusely, but I got back on the stool and she finished, leaving marks that lasted a couple of days.

    Pain is relative. I do not enjoy it. I never have. The pain and artificial humiliation of submitting to a corporal punishment are cathartic, and often the best stress relief after a rough day. They center the mind, focus, clear the cobwebs.

    The source of pain makes the difference. I could whip my own butt and it would hurt. Perhaps more than if she does. In fact, she's told me to do it, when we're hemisphere's apart, and I have. But for her to administer a spanking, or some other punishment, is sexual and painful, personal, and intimate. It's the difference between masturbation and sex. A kidney stone is pain. A dentist is pain. A snake bite is pain. Bent over the bedside as she smacks my ass hurts, but the pleasure of knowing it's her, far exceeds the pain. It becomes...reward.
     
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    #23 LockitMan, Apr 27, 2021
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    Short answer I believe is yes, Women can better handle pain.

    However I think and it has been in my experience that Women have a lower initial threshold for pain and/or have more psychological stress from it (probably because they haven't been as banged up as men have been since we were roughhousing as kids, sports, fighting, and so simply aren't as used to it as stupid men are).

    But where Women seem to shine is in deep pain or similar prolonged physical suffering. And often with much less complaint. Especially when it's some kind of challenge to Her. To what She wants to accomplish or how She feels She needs to live. Then you'll see the fighter in Her come out and really block out that pain and push past it. Determination on tap! Especially for those She loves.

    So yes I think Women can take more pain than mere men, but it's not just a simple pain threshold.
     
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    If men had to give birth as of tomorrow, the human race would be extinct in a hundred years
     
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    I think the child birth thing needs to be taken off the table. Not to detract from the pain associated with child birth but remember women's bodies are designed to undergo child birth from the chemicals designed to stimulate dialation to endogenous pain killers produced by the stress of CB. Its not accurate to do the simulated "male childbirth" thing since the men don' have the natural hormonal assistance women have to make CB bearable. In terms of tolerance, I have seen a man with a broken arm and a bullet in his shoulder carry another man who had his lower leg shot off. I asked him about it since the pain had to be off the scale and his answer was " it didn't hurt that bad. It had to be done so I did it". I thought this was an great example of how your mind can overcome and control your body.
     
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