Hi, I have today off as I need to reduce overtime. My girlfriend/goddess is on her way to work and has given me the following tasks for the day: - make the bed - tidy up the apartment - dishes - clean the bathroom - Vacuuming the apartment - Mopping the apartment - Empty the mailbox - Take out the garbage - groceries shopping I definitely want to make her happy when she comes back late tonight, she's doing sports after work and is meeting two friends for dinner. I'll pay for her meal. Do you have any ideas what else I can do to make her happy? I already bought her flowers yesterday.
I'm learning it's not really that hard, just do the above without being asked. If dishes are dirty just do them, if floor needs sweeped or vacuuming just do it without being asked. Just do the things you know need done without being told to do so goes a long way. Only thing I'd add is change paper towels or toilet paper if it's low. Easier you make her life the more she'll likely embrace her new role and enjoy it.
I already do it often without being told to also the paper towels etc. I‘m just looking for more things to do for her
In that case leave her alone let her enjoy her day. If she needs anything else I'm sure she'll tell you right.
I’m not great at chores but as we’ve amped our roles in/out of the bedroom I’ve stepped up to please her more. This is what’s made a world of difference for me: - I don’t just do the task. I truly apply myself - Example: I thoroughly clean the bathroom, I don’t just wipe the counter off. I go the extra mile like removing everything off the counter, really scrub it down, and then cleaning each individual item before putting back. - I also downloaded a daily house cleaning chores list that I try to follow when I’m working from home or off that day. - Lastly, like mentioned above, if I see something that needs done, I take care of it immediately instead of putting it off. These simple things became a positive game changer in our relationship and dynamics.
Ask her about her day and let her do all the talking. Rub her while she talks and let her know how much you appreciate her giving the chore list and how much it makes you want to obey her and please her. Tell her it makes each chore a breeze getting the enjoyment of pleasing her wishes.
Greet her at the door and take care of her coat and bag. Also see her out if possible whenever she leaves.
I know this is a radical suggestion but you could just ask her. Incidentally, you can't make anyone happy. All you can do is help to create an environment where there is less opportunity for unhappiness. e.g. You can do everything possible but if she has had a bad day and returns in a foul mood then it doesn't matter what you did.