Chastity and the LLF problem

Hmm, I'm trying to imagine this, but I'm really a visual kind of person. I, and I'm sure others, would love to understand your situation better

 

Honestly, I’d love to share them! There’d be a few tight cages for sure.
But, she would kill me!

 

Yeah. But not, in so doing, letting her feel her insecurities are silly. They won’t shift just by your telling her she’s beautiful and has nothing to worry about.

 

Exactly. For instance, I’ve had conversations with my wife about her stretch marks, I mean, I’ve made the misfortunate error of tracing my fingers along them and highlighting their visibility.
(Honestly, they’re barely visible these days)
I wouldn’t tell her that I find them sexy, or they turn me on etc. That would be completely disingenuous. It wouldn’t change how much she hated them at the time. Instead, I was honest to her about the positive feelings I have towards them.
The pure trauma she had to go through to bring us to the life we have now. To give us the happiness and completeness within our lives…
(And that was some pregnancy journey for sure. I won’t bore you with it, but daily hospital visits during a pandemic and the potential choice between fatality or abortion are not to be trifled about).
I told her how much I loved her for putting her body through that and her marks are just a memory we went through to get what we have now.

However perfect her body may appear to me. It doesn’t to her. (She’s still wrong. Honeslty, if I could share pics ). The importance is that she knows I love her for all her imperfections.

I think my wife says it best, “I’m not a sex object for your satisfaction”
When I understand that and appreciate her for who she is, rather than how she looks or the acts she does. That’s when we get to Nirvana. When things are really good. When people question if my journal posts are completely made up!

 

Yeah, quite likely it would not end well for you, totally get it, but had to try!

 

Definitely ask @littleguy3 ... he was in your shoes (more or less) a few years ago.