As Sarah says be careful what you wish for.

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    Ann and my life are slowly being consumed with my chastity. I can now see her beginning to like it which is what I want, however at the same time, I'm nervous because I know there is a point she will cross where she will want this as much as I. When this happens it will be hard for me to put the brakes on should I change my mind because she will expect and not want to give up the benefits she is finding that she likes with this lifestyle. I don't know when she will cross that point, but watching her, I think it will be very soon.

    She is now to the point of wanting to take control but she is still feeling guilt and weirdness telling me no and she isn't unlocking me. Right now, she says just enough so I know she is denying me so she can feel the intensity of me holding her as I do when she denies me. We will probably start the dice game tonight (according to her) to help her get used to the control I have given her. I am going to push through allowing this to become permanent even with my nervousness and let her cross this line of no return. I know there will be times I will doubt I should have started this, but I know it is what most of me wants, and soon all of her will want.

    As Sarah now says, she never wants to go back to boring sex, and I think Ann my Wife will soon be to that point as any woman who gives male chastity an honest try with a man that needs it and has the courage to give it to her.
     
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    You need to let her take control on her own time. WARNING!!! Do not try to force her into this lifestyle . Baby steps . If she is enjoying it like you say , just let it happen . Losing control of your mind and body to her is scary at first, but I think you both will enjoy the benefits of this lifestyle .
     
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    Why should you put on the brakes?
    You gave her the oportunity to lead your boths lifes.

    Let her lead you. Fall back. Stop thinking too much.

    In the case of my wife and me it all started after we had a not so good time.
    I developed kinky interests, she was completely frustrated with usual sex.

    I once showed her a cockcage I bought to play with another woman, i met on the internet, and a site about FLR.

    Well. I gave her the opportunity. Showed her nothing less than this page and she started to evolve. Of course I give her hints, what I like and we talk about it.

    But the most important thing is, to let her evolve herself. Fulfill her own phantasies by herself. Not giving her a frame. Accepting her frame.

    If you let this happen you will have great times.
     
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    I am a newbie, what is FLR? Thanks
     
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    That stands for female led relationship
     
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    Thank you, that’s good to know!
     
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    @John&Ann whatever you guys decide to do, I am positive it will be in the best interest of your marriage long term. Best wishes.
     
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    Agree 100%
     
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    I agree, I'm sorry if I implied I wasn't. She is in charge of all if it.
     
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    She likes it.. she is just feeling a little guilty that you are being denied while she is having the best if not everything out of it. I dont think she will retreat.. Let her take her time.. unless you protest and show some dick.. what she has gained she will not give up.
     
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    Who is Sarah?
     
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    Hi John congrats on to where you are now.
     
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    Sarah Jameson I guess. She has written a book "Be careful what you wish for"
     
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    oh

    I wasn’t aware of that.
    I also am pretty sure it was a tagline used here for a long long time. And I’m almost certain Mistress Watchful wasn’t named Sarah.
     
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    Yes, it has been said for far longer than the age of her book and I dont think she "invented" the expression.
     
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    You’re right. The expression has been around a very very long time. I recall it being in common use when I was a kid. And I’m sure it was around way before that.
     
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    what have you been doing to keep your chastity?
     
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    My KH had been thinking about kink from the perspective of something that "got me off" so of course she struggled with the idea that I really wanted to be denied. I suspect she also felt guilty for 'getting hers' during a play session without reciprocating and allowing me to release.

    Wonderfull idea! The thing that finally easied my KH into taking full control was a 100 day challenge with no unlocks or sexual relief for me. I kept a positive attitude and poured my sexual energy into pleasing her, and since there was no possibility of reciprocation she was able to just enjoy it. She also learned that I could be happy and loving without release.

    Afterward she took full control of the keys, and put an end to all the games and manipulations I had been using to get locked up or get released.

    Good luck, and most of all have fun!
     
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    i agree!
     
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    An author that writes about this a lot for Vanilla people.
     
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    Well, Ann insisted on the dice this morning, she let me out last night and back in this morning. She even rolled the dice. She rolled a 3 and a 1 LOL. 4 days, she said she could still override that and make it longer. I replied and said yes you can, the rules are all yours. I fully expected a high number. Yes I know many play weeks and months, right now we are on days LOL
     
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    From what i heard the dice game can be used by her if it lands on a pre determine number(s) by her whether or not she lets you orgasm. THAT DOES NOT MEAN SHE WILL ALLOW YOU PIV SEX! It also could mean that she could immediately lock you back up after your cum.
     
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    Good response to her. You guys should play Locktober this year and you will get that longer lockup you crave. FYI . My Goddess had me going about 7 to 10 days BTW releases . After my first Locktober , my lockups became longer and longer . 30 days is the normal now, but I have been up to 42 days.
     
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    She didn't interpret the dice correctly. 3+1 isn't 4. That's 31!

    I'm glad you're having fun.
     
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    Good for both of you! It is a little ridiculous reading some of the replies here, but I really like how genuine this is between the two of you... and potentially how much this intimacy is helping your marriage. Well done sir, might I suggest you get a special beverage for you two to pop open for special occasions that line up with a special intimate night?
     
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