An Incongruent Epiphany (this may get me banned)

I am not sure that I understand you correctly. I am thinking from your post that English is not your first language (which is fine), so maybe that is the problem.

The main point I would make is that no one owes anyone attention by default. If people are ignoring you, perhaps you have not acted in a way that makes them inclined to interact with you.

I do not agree that the women on this site treat the men differently than men and women who are not personally acquainted treat each other in other situations.

 

Another point I would make is that relationships take time and effort to develop, and some people who you are interested in you may not reciprocate for a variety of reasons. You cannot force it.

Remember the adage: "There are many fish in the ocean."

 

I have been on this site for a long time now, and I have not observed what you are saying at all.

That having been said, do some people, both men and women act a bit heavy handed at times? Yes, but that is the exception. I don't see any chauvinism as an overriding theme.

What I do see is that the site owners expect members to be courteous to each other, and for men to behave and not bombard the women with unwanted attention.

 

You should keep in mind that the theme of the website involves: dominant women, female led relationships, male submission, etc. That is the theme, and if you don't like it, there are plenty of other sites out there to choose from.

It is also given that everything needs to be consensual, and in the case of long term relationships, it is to enhance the relationship for the overall and individual good of those involved.

Are there sometimes discussions about men serving women without an intimate relationship, and without a sexual exchange? Yes, but it is still consensual. Nobody is being forced to do anything. Everyone involved is getting something out of the interaction.

I myself do not believe in altruism. I believe that given consent, every person acts in a way by which they derive some satisfaction or pleasure. That is just how we are wired. All animals are like this, at least the higher ones like mammals.

 

@Alceste is right - if you want to be treated with respect you should give them the reason to respect you first. If you come out guns blazing, accusing people of being 'chauvinist pigs', and demanding answers to your (frankly, almost incomprehensible) questions you'll get ignored. That's a polite way of telling you to mind your language and your manners. If you don't understand something look for information first, then ask - but throwing about words like 'beasts' and 'chauvinist pigs' is not going to make anyone want to answer your questions.

 

So, why are you here? To tell the forum they got it wrong because it doesn't match your worldview?

 

I think you're missing the point of chastity. The relationship is consensual and based on mutual respect and desire to meet each other's needs. The needs change as the relationship evolves; some relationships become more overtly D/s, some remain on a more equitable level. There is no single recipe for a successful, singularly 'right' way of doing this - everyone's story is different to some extent.

 

There are as many different views on male chastity and D/s relationships here as there are individual members. While I may not personally relate to everyone's approach here, I respect their choices. I used the word "choice" because that is the foundation of consensual power exchange. Consider re-reading @Abstraction's comments. She has raised some very good things to think about.

 

What is the subject of the highlighted reference you made? Clarifying that might make it easier to discuss what concerns you.

 

Who is "The female dominant"? Do you mean Lucy, the owner?

 

Nobody is being defensive.

 

It's a mistake to assume that Lucy is representative of keyholders in general. It might be a mistake to assume that there even could be a representative keyholder. People do this for different reasons and using different methods.

 

You seem to be quoting memes and chastity captions that cater to male chastity kink. Very few women here or elsewhere would agree with the things you are referring to.

 

I;ve been on here for many years and totally agree with @Abstraction and @Alceste . D/s and FLR relationships are really unique to the specific people involved and how they communicate with, treat, and respect each other. Broad generalisations about any person or group of people and how they treat each other are not what this forum is all about. For me, it's far more about learning from each other's experiences and journey in chastity.

 

Not correct at all, incomprehensible.

 

Complex, beautiful sand castles can take a lot of time, practice, and dedication to create. If you don't like the sand castle, walk around it instead of walking through it. I hope that one day you are more interested in learning how to build sand castles than arguing that they should be there.