A Tipping Point or A Point of No Return?

Ta-my wife understands the power of lingerie discipline and increasingly domestic discipline too so I have to make an effort!

 

Not quite, as I see it. More like: Remove the barriers to her benefiting from your chastity, including especially any unwanted emotional or practical labour, and any disruption to the parts of your relationship she likes.

For me, it's not about lulling her into accepting chastity as the new normal so much as lowering the cost to her so that she will cheerfully explore the benefits.

 

Make her life very comfortable

 

Protect her solitude

 

Power-exchange!

 

Lie-ins, fantastic dinners, clean house, chores done, no masturbation, kids happy, protected time for her, fantastic sexlife, oral worship, massages on demand. Lure her!

 

I could go on.....all now normal

 

And I'll be caned tonight for mild breaks of continuity

 

Also whilst my wife is a virtuoso on at least 3 instruments (piano, flute, bassoon, cello and more)her musical and cultural tastes have not been necessarily exposed to the degree that one might expect (the irony of studying music intensely at an elite instituition)-so music and culture are also excellent ways of providing a more harmonious and royal environment

 

Phew caning postponed-yes that's me in my pics/avatar!

 

As Giles has mentioned, early on in our journey the issues of the device fell into place easily. I feel much quicker and easily then most experience. So early on she did not have to worry about letting me out for problems. Lock it on, and leave it on until she wanted to take it off.

Due to this it did not take about a month of my default state to be locked once starting chastity. Once that happened I pushed a little to hard on a few things a few months later and topping from the bottom.

We / she resolved those issues with training. Shortly after that she told me, " I don't think we can ever go back, this has been too good for us. This is no longer playing, it's a life style change." At that point I kind of knew it was and will be for real for the time to come. Both exciting and scary at the same time.

Then to really drive it home, it's for real, just recently we had a difficult patch. Not in the way of marital problems, but life decision. Without to much detail, me switching jobs and a potential move. Several heated discussion and arguments over a few days as we worked everything out. After resolving and getting a path forward that worked for the both of us I asked her in bed, "the other night I almost asked for you to let me out as the situation at one point seemed to wierd to me having such a discussion with me being locked. Just felt like I needed to tap out for a bit. Would you have let me out?" She replied, " hell no. You would have just masterbated before going to bed, and that would not have helped anything!"

She wasn't wrong. And after hearing that from her, yup, we are over that point I would say.........

 

Fascinating isn't it? The boundary between kink and vanilla is an illusion.

 

I’d say that we’ve had two.

One when she took away my emergency key. Up until that point she was always worried that I would have some reason I’d need the key. But we got to the point I was wearing with no breaks over 2 months and her concern evaporated.

The second was when she moved all the spare keys out of the shared safety deposit box and into one she only has access to. This means there is zero possibility that I can remove the device without her and I have absolutely no choice in when I’m locked.

 

Wow. That is a serious defining moment.