A Tipping Point or A Point of No Return?

Interesting question.

 

Good point of discussion

 

No tipping point at this end, but I got a similar feeling when my emlalock session was unexpectedly adopted last week. I know I'm still paddling in the shallow end, but I did realise I'd reached a new critical point.

 

After 5.5 years of I guess you would call 'playing" she wanted me to get a full
belt. Shortly after that She locked it for the first time with quite a grin and I have
had no key since then. It was a chilling feeling watching Her. I felt like Oh what's
up now. I learned a lot in the next 121 days of not being released. It was scary
and wonderful at the same time. That was the beginning of what you would call
serious. I would never want to go back.

 

Years of topping her in bed or her reluctantly topping me. She's been doing kinky stuff for me the whole time with mild to no interest in it herself. We get into chastity and a bit later, she's totally into being the boss.

The tipping points are little things all over. Making me bend over and swatting my ass if i do or say something wrong, telling me im in trouble if i stay unlocked after PIV, chiding me for my attitude after PIV and threatening to not bother unlocking me.

I keep having one of these tipping point moments but she always seems one-up the moment after a while so it actually gets hard to remember them all.

 

Nice. It just takes the right approach

 

We were chatting about her being a bit jealous, I was going to a high school reunion while I was on vacation. She had a run of terrible luck with partners, and we hadn’t really been dating that long. It wasn’t a matter of trust, it was more of a matter of not wanting to feel that way again.

I joked with her that my dick was locked in an inescapable steel cage. She said “yeah but you could just use your emergency key”. I told her that she would know if I did. She said “it just doesn’t seem like control if you can get out of it any time YOU want.”

I could see her point and from then on she held all the keys. That was a pretty serious “we’re not playing around anymore” moment.

Another moment, that sticks with me, came from her change of heart. A long time ago we were discussing what she would do if I cheated my chastity. We had just started chastity and I think the topic came from a thread here. Her response was that she would hand the key back and be done with all of it. Then one day out of the blue probably a year later, she said “If you came without permission I wouldn’t give your key back, I think you wouldn’t cum for a year and you would have one very red ass!” I laughed, and she said “I’m serious, we are never going back, and it would be at least a year.” That’s when it hit me that the cage would be part of my life forever.

 

we had one of them fly trap plants but it died after a bit and I dint like it very much really. I like tipping point on the telly. I think as well that if you love and trust the one thats got your keys it dont matter really dose it.

 

I am patiently, quietly and gently pushing my love toward where you are now at, so I am behind you on your path a bit. @Nicoftime is past that point. I am already thinking about my reaction when something like your situation occurs. Obviously I don't know you, or P - but I know my better-half. It would be exactly that make or break moment that you are clearly aware of... Say 'yes' and you're down the road to chastity, and perhaps an FLR, being a long-term part of your lives. Say 'no' and you'll break things for a bit, but it is likely to be recoverable.

The issue that I see here is that if you comply, the more time that passes, the harder it will be on your relationship if you decide it is not for you. If you bail on it now, you'll have some patching up to do, some possible anger and resentment, "I thought you wanted this!" but I think it would be easier to recover now than when it becomes more deeply ingrained.

Consider your options well. Yes, there's the thrill, the butterflies and the excitement you felt when you first made love to her. But, there are consequences from here on out. Be mindful of both. I know I will have to be. Good luck!

 

I think you answered your own questions.... Congratulations!!!

 

It was indeed. And yes, yes it was. Totally unexpected and very very scary. I recall just going dry-mouthed and my eyes widened at the thought - especially as I was expecting the session to end on that day or the next - and then it was rapidly up to two weeks and beyond. I shivered thinking about it and went through the day in a bit of a daze. But it somehow felt... right. My heart didn't just flutter, it pounded for the rest of the day.

It did a similar thing when the Holder suggested a second session then offered it and I accepted it. Suddenly realising that after a week and four days on Emlalock, itself three days after I locked myself up for a four day try-out, I was straight back in and locked for another two week starting session but with no way of keeping track of duration. I'm three days in as of tonight (or near as dammit) and my heart hasn't really stopped pounding when I think of it.

A bit of a plunge!

Reading the rest of these posts is fascinating too.

 

in my case, the minute She Said "yes" when I begged her to take me into Her chastity. She never spoke about release - it became abundantly clear it was 'forever'. that was a revelation - to be Wanted in that way, so personally, so completely. 3.5 months so far. a simply remarkable ride. : )

 

well: I still feel like my own man. and, like any commitment, it must renew itself daily to maintain its power to influence one's thoughts and feelings. so I can't characterize Her as my life preserver. could certainly say She was a lighthouse, though. : )

 

our lives become analogy and metaphor in the chastity game, do they not? : )

good stuff. : )~

 

Several, over time. Usually when my wife has made one of her rare utterances about our relationship:

"Would you consider always doing sex this way?" - that took me by surprise and I fluffed it.

"I can't imagine living any other way" that was two years into our FLR and I agreed.

"Deal with it, Giles!" when I complained that a 1 month adventure in permanent chastity seemed to have changed into actual permanent chastity. I was turned on utterly.

In hindsight, each change happened after I managed to hand Xena real power with little or no overhead. With regards to chastity in particular, as soon as the device was 100% practical and required no responsible decision making from Xena, she suddenly became very firm about the device staying on.

 

Basically, if there's any doubt about practicality, then the keyholder has the burden of making practical decisions around her partner's welfare, and possibly your joint economic security. Most people, no matter how dominant, don't welcome extra responsibility (though some people do!).

So much as Xena liked me in chastity, she was always a bit irritated by responsibility of being a keyholder, and also second guessed herself, which was again irritating.

Once I had demonstrated that I could wear the device 24/7 for weeks on end, with no issues building up (i.e. things like chafing that was OK, but needed a break to heal), and no problem functioning professionally, then the that freed her to do whatever suited her, which turned out to be to seal me in indefinitely.

I strongly suspect that where there's a momentum towards FLR, most bottlenecks are practical like that. For example, Xena was very happy to take charge once she understood that I'd still mostly behave like a normal husband, and any protocol would enhance rather than complicate her life.

 

Yes-that's how it began for me-if you achieve everything you have summarised above then you may quickly be in the 'be careful what you wish for' phase!