I have written in length about my best slave (he likes to be called slave), who has been locked on and off for nearly 2 years. During this time we have spoken many times a day. Around the same time that I locked him I locked someone else, but this one has never kept in contact with me. I am the one who always initiates contact, so I rarely bother anymore. He supplies a dated proof photo whenever I ask for one, but that's the only contact there is. I don't know what his reasons for locking himself are but he's certainly not doing it for me. The lock shows no sign of being tampered with. If he is lying about still being locked I don't know what his reasons for that would be. It's as if he has got his "figurehead" keyholder, and he no longer needs to be in contact. Please no comments about how online keyholding is pointless compared to a real life loving keyholder, we all know that
That is probably the most interesting lockee I've heard about. Goes to show that there is more to all this than meets the eye. He must have a purpose and a need being fulfilled just by the very act itself. I think it's very cool you still check on him.
This at first does seem a little strange , but if we look a little deeper maybe not so , Firstly his reasons for wanting to be locked could be anything , only he knows that but it dose not alter the fact that he is , and by you . Now this still holds benefits for him even if he has very little interaction with you , the main being he cannot gain access to the key and cannot cheat without your knowledge , he also knows that you could check on him at any point . This would be hard for him to achieve without involving someone in this case your good self , There are other ways he could find to place keys but most would leave him open to temptation this way does not .So it possibly is the case that he has all he needs , a trusted person to hold his key knowing he has no way to gain release without the whole thing ending and feels further interaction apart from random checks is not needed
Some of us don't think highly of online keyholding, online "relationships" or other virtual kinks. That said, it's not my place to judge someone who is into them. That said that if someone finds it to their liking, I'll do what I can to defend their right to do as they please as long as they're not harming others.
Perhaps he has been able to pull out and relieve himself while still keeping the device on then slip back in...
I'm guessing the thrill of having a beautiful keyholder's attention without all the frustration. That would explain the limited need for contact. I would think if he were really denied, he'd be more eagar to talk much more
The guy may just want to feel like he is not denying himself. I know that I would not enjoy chastity if I was not doing it for someone else. I think you have one man with a submissive personality. Needs to be submissive a lot. Then there are guys like me who just need to do things we want to do, but only if told to do them. That is like your other guy. He only wants to wear a chastity cage and feel like he is doing it because you told him to. His focus is on just chastity and not general submission. He does not need to be submissive to you frequently. He was told once and that is all he needed. He needed to feel that he was not locking himself up. I am that way. I am not generally sexually submissive. Tell me once and if I agree, I keep doing it. My wife told me to promise I would not masturbate and to remain locked without her having to supervise me. That was 4 years ago and we never felt the need to discuss it further and she does not feel the need to check if I am locked or ask me if I masturbated. However, unlike you, my KH is enjoying the benefits of my chastity. You are basically acting as the reason for the other guy to be locked up and not so much someone to feed his submission, if he even feels submission.
Hmm what an interesting situation. Maybe he can escape his cage and everyone you ask to see he just slips it back on? I don't know why he would want to continue his charade and not just tell you what's going on. Maybe it just fills a fantasy hole he has know that you are alwyas there if he needs you ? And a quote from a local goddess..... Dump him.
Of course, 99.9% of submissive males who approach me try to use me and manipulate me into doing what they want.
I don't have any ill feelings towards him, he hasn't cost me any time or money really. At least he didn't run away like the others
I think for many men trying chastity they have to feel that they are not self locking, there has to be some kind of justification in their minds that they are locking for someone else rather than themselves. There is a guy at club who is in chastity for me at the moment, he has been attending club for years and was desperate to try chastity but needed someone to give him the instruction to be chaste. As I was helping run the club I agreed that he should report to me once a week, no emails, no charge, no contact apart from once a week he checks in. Just a friend helping a friend and he is the happiest he has been in a long time according to him. It seems all he needed was someone to be chaste for rather than just abstaining.
So often the case. Just a wee bit of encouragement even just acknowledgement and approval can provide a lot of joy.
I think for some self locking, you can sometimes get desperate and easily disappoint yourself. If you know someone personally and have a relationship with, thats a little harder to disappoint. Not true in every case though. And yes encouragement and acknowledgment can make all the difference sometimes.
What? Men using women to get what they want? Unheard of. Sad to say that it goes the other way too. I know that from painful experience.
Of course men use women to get what they want. The difference with me is they say they are submissive and they say they want to serve me, blatant lies to get what they want.