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Rectrix · Feb 25, 2020

PouchPantyLover said: ↑

I really think the point I was trying to make with this thread wasn't clear. What I was trying to say is that I am working on letting go of expectations. Both her expectations of me and mine of her. Yes, I believe a sub can have expectations. ... What I've come to realize through dialogue with my Mistress is that if I'm doing my job for the most part very well and I commit some minor infraction, she doesn't like punishing me. Similarly she doesn't like me being judgemental of her enforcement of discipline. Thus I came up with this 80% concept. The main point is if I'm doing a good job pleasing her and she is happy that is what's important. ... It's less about the minutiae and more about the overall experience. This seems to be working better for us.
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Seems you've crossed a major improvement threshold, seeing the big picture and over-thinking the details. Another way to look at it, though, is that by thinking about the details and having detailed expectations you were micro-managing her and your FLR. And by stopping that you're letting her lead more. A happy 80% is better than a frustrated unhappy 99%.

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