#1 reason

Miss and I have always had an incredible relationship and friendship, she really is my best friend. I felt that our relationship was suffering from lack of intimacy and a lot of that was my fault because I was selfish, masturbating way to much. Once I realized what I was doing to our relationship I asked her to place me in chastity, she agreed and we've been working from on our FLR from there. There's been a lot of ups and downs but this has been such a rewarding journey for us both and it keeps getting better.

 

beginning of November 2015 i asked my wife to be my KH to help me with a Porn and Masturbation addiction. Very happy I did and also happy she was on board. The most important ingredient was honesty, without it this wouldn't have worked.

 

I asked my Wife(KH now) if she would try it with me...She said yes and has loved it. Really right from the start. She enjoys the T&D sessions and having the power of when, where and if I will cum. I keep reading..."Better watch what you wish for"...I get it now...Thank-you KH...

 

We were married in 2008. We were one of those couples who were into the Christian “purity” thing and never did anything sexual prior to our wedding. So, obviously, we had no clues about any sexual difficulties that either of us might have. We were both virgins and had zero sexual experience (although I had masurbated frequently).

We quickly found out (on our wedding night) that my wife has a condition called vaginismus. And she has it very, very bad. Long story short, penetration is very painful and unpleasant for her. She developed a passionate hatred for sex over the coming years.

Meanwhile, since we almost never had sex, I began to masturbate more. Over the years it got to where I was doing it 2-3 times per day. I dabbled in porn on and off, but never found it that exciting.

In September of 2015, for some reason, I just felt idiotic for masturbating all the time. I just felt like a married man in thirties should have outgrown such a juvenile habit.

I knew nothing of chastity devices or the lifestyle associated with it. I was searching for ways to stop masturbating and found a site that advocated the use of chastity devices to stop masturbating. I thought it was worth a try and decided to ordered one.

In hindsight, I probably should have discussed it with my wife first (she didn’t even know about my masturbation habit). When I got it, I put it on and wore it for a few days. I found it frustrating not being able to masturbate, but at the same time felt kind of proud of myself for going several days in a row without doing it.

I decided to tell me wife about my habit and show her the chastity device. She was shocked and a little hurt that I had such nasty habit and had been hiding it from her for seven years. She looked at the chastity device (which I was wearing) and asked some questions about how it felt and if it would hurt me. I assured her it was comfortable and posed no danger to me. She spent more time than I expected touching it and examining it.

Life went on as usual for a couple of weeks, with the exception that I was wearing a chastity device and not masturbating. It had been a little over two weeks since I last masturbated and I was dying for an orgasm. One night I pestered the living crap out of my wife for sex. She said she was having her period, but suggested I could stay locked up and we could do “everything else”.

That night was our first experience with sex with me locked up. It was incredibly frustrating for me, touching and feeling my wife but not being able to have intercourse with her. But for her, it was a night that would change our sex life. Up to that point, she had never experienced an orgasm before. As we were playing around and I was touching her in her favorite places, she started getting a lot more aroused and “into it” than I had ever seen her. As I was touching her clitoris and stimulating her, she started getting really aroused rubbing herself against my hand (which she NEVER did before). She brought herself to her first ever orgasm.

I remember it so vividly because it was very confusing for me. She started crying. I thought I had hurt her and was really freaked out. Once she came down from the orgasm, she noticed I was scared and asked what wrong. I said I thought I had hurt her and wasn’t sure what was wrong. She leaned over and kissed me and said nothing was wrong. She said she had always wanted to know what an orgasm felt like and after so many years of not having one, she thought she would never experience one. She said it was so much stronger and better than she had imagined it would be and when it happened it just overwhelmed her emotionally.

That began our foray into the world of chastity as a lifestyle. She loved it, and really couldn’t enjoy sex without it. We spent many months experimenting with various lockup durations, with me always trying to negotiate for shorter lengths. But as time went on, I could notice a distinct lack of enthusiasm on her part when I was allowed intercourse. I knew she hated it. We had some discussions about her feelings and my chastity duration. I finally asked her, if she could have her way with no regard for my feelings, how long would she want me to stay locked. She said forever.

Over the past couple of years, since that conversation, we have worked toward long term chastity. There have been a few times she felt sorry for me and allowed me to penetrate her. Three times in 2016 (one of which resulted in a pregnancy), twice in 2017, and once this year in February (which also resulted in a pregnancy).

This latest pregnancy has been hard on her body and even her doctor has said she really needs several years without a pregnancy (this is our sixth pregnancy). We have discussed permanent chastity to prevent more pregnancies. My wife feels it is the direction we should go, but I have a hard time committing to never getting to penetrate her again (which I love doing and miss terribly already). We have tentatively agreed on five years of chastity to see how things go.

 

Thanks, @Blue Jay.

 

Actually I need to expand on this.
When I have a cage on I can touch this hard cylinder and it isn't part of me and by extension what it contains is also not part of me and so for a few seconds I can imagine that I no longer have a penis and am my preferred gender.

 

I have always been aroused at the idea of being owned. Vampire movies were a fetish for me in many ways for the idea of being under someone’s control. I have presented the keys to my wife, discussed the situation of how I feel and have truly told her that she can make anything she wants out of this. We will see where it goes but if there is one thing I have taken from this place, I am going to let her guide the process.

 

I'm new at this and still experimenting, but for me, it's pure kink. I've always been kinky. The mad doctor episode of Gilligan's Island where they all got chained up in the dungeon was always my favorite and that was when I was 5-6 years old. Over the years, I enjoyed many scenes of women in movies and TV shows being tied up or dominated in some way, but I gradually came to realize that my interest was more in being on the receiving end.

Unfortunately, I've never had the courage to tell anyone my fantasies, so they've remained fantasies. My only fun has been experimenting by myself and pretending that I was with a strong dominant woman. For reasons I won't go into, I've never gone to a professional or tried finding a like-minded partner on any match-making web sites.

I see chastity as another form of bondage and control. I like to imagine that a dominant woman is in control of me and dictates what I can and can't do, including when I'm allowed to have an orgasm. It seems a paradox that I want to use chastity and the idea of being denied as an erotic fantasy, but that's how I feel.

 

You and every other chaste guy in the Mansion.

Seems to me you need to accept your kinks as part of who you are and come out of the chastity closet, so to speak. You'll feel better about yourself when you finally tell the woman you're dating who you really are and what you need. I hid it for years before I finally told my wife; she said she'd already guessed something like that and didn't kick me out. And now we're doing Locktober.

 

As a trans woman, locking the penis away is a real plus. When I get to do PIV, I often imagine that my penis is just a strap on giving my mistress pleasure. I think chastity is appealing to many who have gender dysphoria.

 

Like others, I was very focused on porn and masturbating. It was overwhelming. I entered into chastity to bring that under control and the urges that go with it.