Is it a Dealbreaker?

That would depend. Is it a new relationship? Or are you trying to introduce chastity to an established loving relationship? Is it you or her initiating?

 

Then it depends on whether you want to. Read up on it. Denial is addictive, fun, frustrating, amazing and more. But not for everyone. What is her plan for you? How often would you play. Are there limits that you won't do? You need to be open and communicate with her. If you're worried, talk

 

Most guys on here would say no. Go on a non chastity site and they'll tell you to run away. I love being in chastity, as it makes me.a better husband. More focused on her. I used to watch a lot of porn and masterbate. I'm a typical guy, and not submissive.

 

if I got in to a relationship and they wernt at least interested in chastity, kink and swinging etc I dont think it would go very far, limiting my options I know lol but I think now I have seen the positives at this point I would rather be single and self locked than in a chastity/kink free relationship

 

Same here... I locked myself in chastity to deal with a Jerking off habit and my family and the people I work with would react VERY negatively if they were to find out I'm in chastity, so it's best they don't know about it. I kinda have to stay single for now because my current situation is not suitable for a relationship. Not to mention the girls in my town are literally insane. They get jealous extremely easy and I see the results on the local news... It ain't pretty. I'll leave it at that.

Maybe some day, my situation will change, but for now it's best I stay single.

 

I think now i can control my sexual desires and PIV urges due to chastity, a vanilla relationship and sex life would be very boring and unfulfilling

 

I’m in the same boat as most. I can’t control my masterbating habits. My KH says my cage makes me a much nicer person. That’s a big indicator that she’s probably not going to stop with this anytime soon. Wouldn’t be deal breaker but would suck if she lost interest.

 

Would chastity alone be a deal breaker in a new relationship? Not necessarily. A lack of kink and / or Dynamics would. Vanilla only relationships are simply of no interest.

 

Sorry if I’m being dim… what exactly are you asking? Is this about whether you enter the relationship if and only if there’s strict chastity, or if and only if there isn’t? Cos the way you posed it is ambiguous to me.

 

If she is wanting you locked in chastity, how do you feel about that? If you're not sure then ask her if she has a device that you can try on at your leisure and on your own so that there is no pressure, see how you feel about it, it's nothing like any other kind of kink because wearing one and then weearing one without access to the key is a totally different thing. You need to be able to trust her initially, what is she offering? But like any kink where one person has control you need a safe word to escape the predicament. A good test is, if and only if you want it to go further just to see how it goes is to agree to say a 4 hour lock up but then ask for a release after an hour or two. If she refuses then you can use your safety key that you will at this point have easy access to. But I never realised how much I enjoyed chastity until I tried it and it does allow for the sexual element to go on and on and on.

 

Solid relationship first, sex toys much later.

 

chastity means different thing depending on the individual. to a ma'at a chastity device is one of many tools of control in a cnc relationship. a real deal breaker if puck had refused.

 

I posed a similar question once, if someone has been introduced to chastity and being a keyholder, if starting a new relationship would him being caged be nonnegotiable.

Im not a female nor a keyholder, but I would think that if it really interests them, they would find a partner that they think is open to that sort of thing. Probably not mentioned on the first date, but I’m sure her dominant tendencies would make an appearance and feeling out his reactions.

Of course there must be chemistry and all the other parts of finding someone that interests you, but compatibility is one of the things we fumble with at the beginning. I didn’t just blurt out I’m sexually submissive that needs to have someone else in charge of my needs. We chatted, we flirted, we talked about sexual stuff, and within a few months it was time to open up more about my desires. She could have ran, but my thoughts were that this is a real need of mine and I would rather her jump ship, than one or both of us being miserable because we couldn’t be honest. If people don’t want to be with someone because they see the real person, it’s probably better that they move on.