Once of the main precepts of chastity is that "we want out of the cage"... isn't that the reason being in the cage modifies our behavior? To get out and be free again - at least for a little while? But it's seems like over enough time you can reach a state of being where you would rather be locked than unlocked. Removing the cage leaves you with the feeling of abandonment or something similar. Maintaining a constant state of arousal over many years is likely impractical if not impossible. Of course, during play time or teasing or other heightened activities, the desire to get out and use your dick as it was intended is quite powerful... but during the day to day downtime, it's less of a motivator. So do you think reaching a "steady state" where being in chastity is the preferred state, and it's more about "staying in" rather than "getting out?" Have you reached that state?
Both of these are very true for me now. Staying in is the preferred state until I'm aroused by my wife and then I'm dying to get out. But afterwards, I'm glad she didn't let me out before it's time. Getting out too often spoils all of it.
I’ve been thinking about this as well. We’ve used a cage off and on for 3-4 years now but have been more consistent in the last 6 months. When I’m being teased or for a bit after I’ve cum, if that’s allowed, I am ok being free overnight or maybe the next day. After that I want to be locked up again. I miss the feeling of being confined and knowing that she controls my cock by the physical presence of the cage. It also helps push me back into submissiveness, which I crave more often now. I’ve not gone longer than 10 days straight in lockup so maybe things change for me after that point, we’ll see.
I guess I’m the outlier. I like the idea of being in chastity. I don’t enjoy the reality most of the time. Control is her thing. Sensation and strict bondage is my thing. Chastity is just another form of bondage. Once I’m in and initial excitement is over the struggle to get out begins.
I do prefer being caged than not now, I love craving an orgasm but would rather be denied and left hungry
My whole focof chastity is for me to focus on my wife, not myself. I'm not saying I don't care about myself but I'm putting her needs and desires above mine. Also I started this to stop satisfying myself it took my sensitivity away, now when I'm with her it's absolutely amazing again
Somehow I do crave the locked-but-want-to-get-out stage! It’s exciting and makes me feel horny all day! I also had this “long term goal” of wanting to be caged as long as possible. The thought of that made me even more excited! I managed quite well and got to about six weeks in one stretch some time ago to be my “then” best record. This is when my “steady state” kicked-in… Since that new record I reached, I feel more like feeling I miss something when uncaged. Not that horny at all anymore about “being caged”. It’s just becoming a part of my wearables. Like a watch or a ring. I feel the cage being a piece of jewelry since then! But indeed, during tease or playtime (or when reading arousing stories, being in arousing encounters or watching porn) it’s exciting to feel my dick strain in the cage! Plus every night, when in bed, cuddling and kissing the wife “good night” and in the morning, kissing the wife goodbye when going to work, I feel that pressure building!