Male motives for chastity

I don't have a keyholder, but I see chastity as a gateway to better self-discipline and self-improvement. Also, I enjoy it for being a wonderfully mentally stimulating kink.

 

In the beginning chastity was just curiosity and when reading about it. When I approached the Wife about it she was not interested and said it was weird to want to lock up my penis. And that was the end of that. Then one day she discovered me wanking in the shower. Well then she asked about that chastity device which I already had in our toy box. She asked me to lock myself up and hand her the keys. So I ended up locked up because of my own selfishness. That was about 3 years ago. Now I'm locked in complete devotion and happiness for my beautiful Wife/kh. Since that day in the shower she has never looked back and now calls my locked cock hers and hers alone.
If I may Mistress, why don't you put this question to your locked boy's and see what their answers might be?
It might be interesting to see what their motives are for wanting a long distance Mistress and key holder.
With humble regards....

 

I am not sure, do you?

 

Mistress then maybe you could post what their motives for chastity might be. I have a hard time understanding motives for chastity without intimacy and physical contact. That's just me though.

 

I'm a compulsive masterbator and porn watcher, I'm always trying to break the cycle of that. It is hard without a real life keyholder, though, and far too easy to fallback into old habits, just need more willpower I think!

 

My interest in chastity started because I wanted to extend my own fun. I always lost interest in all the kinky stuff when I came.
Now, that Princess Shelle has conditioned me, it's hard to say for whom I'm doing it. At first glance, I love being horny all the time, so one could say, I'm doing it for my self, but it was Princess, who made me love it so much that I gave up all control.
It pleases her to keep me horny and I love to please her. So in the end, it's something we both enjoy at lot.

 

It started as a sexy role play game before she wanted longer and longer lock ups. She doesn't like me wanking off when she is not around and I love to please her and see the longer sentences as a challenge. Well a very frustrating challenge.

 

Sounds great quality interactions with you but no selfish wanking. Love their devotion.

 

My motive was to focus all of my attention on my mistress. I was selfish for a very long time with porn and masturbation and I noticed that there was an intimacy gap growing between us and it was my fault. Although it's taken me a while to become a good sub and just do as I'm ordered, my devotion to my mistress has really paid off. We are both more in love with each other than ever before and I love elation I feel knowing that I am hers to do as she pleases. Now her motives are to keep me in chastity.

 

well i'm locked up cos Mistress says it makes me do all my chores better and it make me nicer as well.

 

For me it's kinda selfish to get locked up. It's what I want right now and I'm not sure how I will react when my mood changes and I really "need" to cum again, I freely admit that. Never had a well-fitting cage though so I can only speculate My gf knows I like orgasm denial but usually I initiate it and it's pretty on and off. So this is far less serious than most people here. But I just like it to be dominated occasionally - I get really aroused when somebody takes control over my "orgasm schedule", that's my motivation.

It might seem odd and wrong for many people here, but your partners body dressed in fine latex doesn't seem that special when you just masturbated 3 times. I like how I appreciate her so much more. It's not always possible to keep the denial for long periods of time, one of us loses interest or the circumstances don't allow it, but it the perks are definetely there.

 

I do it primarily because I am submissive and I like my partner to take deep control. Oddly it took me a very long time to realise that I was submissive! I am now sure I just seemed passive to my ex. I wanted her to take the lead - she wanted me to take the lead. We did not communicate. End of that relationship.

After some reflection I came to terms and understood my nature a lot better. I then discovered chastity (among other things). Back then it was a completely selfish kink in that it was me alone that got the thrill out of the thought of being denied. While that thrill still exists I have had the opportunity to share that with a partner since. She enjoyed the control - I enjoyed her taking control. There were no rewards or promises. It was what it was and I just enjoyed giving her something she wanted.

So - to conclude my long winded answer! Both really (for a partner or for my own needs / wants). However, they are in a way separable in that I would also be motivated solely to please my partner, but I am single right now and still spend extended times locked.

 

For me it was curiosity, I spotted a steel and leather cock cage, and thought that might be fun to try. It slowly evolved into me being the submissive, and realizing that this is my place in life! Now I fell naked without being locked in a chastity device!

 

goddess lucy knows the inferior male psychology

 

Certainly from my view it was initially nothing more than to "spice things up". After plucking up the courage to speak about to Mrs Chaste, she readily agreed. I don't know why I was so worried really Mrs Chaste isn't the sort of lady who would say " ugh, you pervert". What is amazing is how the dynamic has developed. There was nothing wrong with our sex life it was just a bit predictable I suppose! Now Mrs Chaste is definitely in charge in the sex department and loves to keep me locked and orgasm free! For me I am truly grateful to her and get so much pleasure from pleasing her (not just sexually either). We are both approaching 60 years old and Mrs Chaste says "wish we'd discovered it earlier". It has enhanced our (already good) marriage in so many ways. I count myself so lucky to have married such a wonderful lady.

 

Took the words right out of my mouth. And repeated Mistress's. Or said them for me. Or whatever. Total agreement.

 

My motives started out as just a kink however over time I've realized that it's benifial for a number of reasons.
- I am more focused on My Loves needs, not sexual needs but emotional needs. A back rub to take the days tensions away, helping with housework to get them done so She can relax, etc..
- I no longer get upset when I'm needing relief and She says "No".
- By no longer masturbating I am always "ready" when My Love requires relief.
- I thoroughly enjoy the "high" of numerous days of edging and denial, there is no greater feeling of needing approval to orgasm.

 

to make me a better person. Better focused, better aware, more thoughtful. Better.

 

Super vanilla wife to start. I surrendered sex to her control some months ago. We do not have a lot of sex, and getting shot down constantly was getting harder to take. I vowed to not ask anymore because it is easier to take mentally than constant rejection. Since she was already controlling that, it was not much of a change.

 

For me personally it was very much about the fact that, realistically, my wife can't ever really take control away from me physically. We've role played her being in control and stronger, but I always know in the back of my head I can overpower her.

With chastity she has actual control. I'm still stronger than her but that won't find the key. If I want free I have to do what she says which is an absolute thrill for someone as big as me.

 

I think that most of them may have Portnoy's complaint.