I am new to work of chastity as can see from my previous posts. I’m in and out of cages at the moment. But I am asked daily or every other day to put it back on. I get there is a power shift but she’s started to talk about it more and more. I’ve asked her why she loves the idea and she doesn’t know herself but it’s becoming more prominent from her side. can anyone explain?
Could be lots of things! I know some women hate the idea of men pleasuring themselves watching porn. Perhaps she really likes it from a kinky point of view? Or that you pay her more attention... or it really is a ‘power’ thing! I’d find it a massive turn on if our roles where reversed... to see my wife with a locked, steel belt that was totally escape proof, seeing her begging with frustration to be touched... Back to the subject! You say she keeps asking you to put it back on...? Why is it off??
Just keep talking about it as you do it. i think the two of you will find out why it is so appealing to her.
I totally agree with @MissyB. I have never had such an important part of my life than this lifestyle which has caused a relationship to have so much communication. I know for me, the more sir is uncomfortable, the more I love it and it turns me on. Getting in and out of a car and he makes a noise from pain, mmm. Knowing when W/we ride the motorcycle and his cage is up against the tank and he makes a noise from pain, mmm. I never used to have him wear pantyhose, leggins, or panties, but knowing that they are uncomfortable, mmm. Something else wonderful is knowing that he wakes up with a hard on from his dreams and is in pain, mmm. Once you're in for a while, and yes, at first a while might be a night, a couple days, a couple weeks, or even a couple months (I know that is long term at this point), you will realize that your KH is in total control. She has the say so when you are released from your cage, or not. She has the say so when you get to have a release, or not. If she's not in the mood, She can just roll over and say good night all while you're laying there wondering when She might be gracious enough to free you. It will begin playing with your mind. your dreams will start to play out scenes that you fantasize about. you will be in so much pain because of what you desire while you're sleeping both in your dreams and subconsciously. you will at that point begin doing anything for Her. you will begin doing things for Her that you never dreamed about. Letting Her explore where She and you never thought about going with this lifestyle. you will think about Her, what She wants, needs, likes, and desires. you will soon realize, it IS ALL about Her. Hopefully, your KH becomes verified. I enjoy having others to chat with. Good luck with everything. You'll find there are so many areas to explore on this site. And, last but not least, welcome to Chastity Mansion!
What an amazing response, @Mistress2U! You really answered it well and everything You said jives with what i hear from my Keyholder Wife. She enjoys the control of my climaxes and the knowledge that sex is up to Her. My service submission makes Her life easier and She doesn't do any cleaning or housework. And She enjoys the "cred" She gets from our friends, especially the ones who know about our dynamic. asa
My wife likes how compliant and thoughtful I become. It took quite a few years of off and on, but she figured out the more she keeps my head in the submissive mode, the more obedient I am.
Whilst my Lady has admitted she enjoys both the control she has and the sense of ownership she has she has not really divulged anything else. I did ask her what she gets out of TTTWD and she just said you asked me once before and I did not respond now I'm telling you I am exercising my right to not respond. My motivation was to hopefully put me in aninformed position so that I could perhaps strive to enhance her experience. But unless she reveals something more tome I have to accept that it is her wish that I'll never know.
I can explain....you are one of the lucky ones!! Enjoy the ride and watch in wonder how your girlfriend finds herself and you find yourself as well!!
My GF loves the way I look at her, embrace her, caress her. Shortly after locking I start to change and she senses it before I do. It happens regardless of how recent we have had sex. I blame it on Oxytocin but she has learned how to work the controls very well. I've tried my best to act the same when unlocked but the emotion is just not there. She misses that, and her power over me, and gets upset even when she wants to reward me with some freedom. Its only been a year but I cant see how we (she) could go backwards now.
Thank you for all the responses. I’ve been in an out of chastity with trying Metal cages but the slippage was too much. She likes to tease a lot so in the end I was kind of still able to get an erection so it kept pulling the cage down. I now have a smaller plastic cage which seems much better all round. Especially comfort wise. The longest I’ve been inside it is 2 days. But whenever I have to take it off to either readjust etc I usually don’t end up putting it back on. She is always horny so I know I’ll never be inside it long. But if I am to be locked I would like it to be for a longer period to really experience it.