Hello everyone, I don’t know how to post that. My partner is switch and get some partners too particularly in rope play (I cannot bottom because I am not maso and I don’t like this so much). i let him having some partner if he needs that. He is locked in chastity and I don’t bottom but I really feel jealous... also I am for happiness of my partners. He can tell me what how much I am important for him but it does nothing... I have few partners too but I really feel insecure and I perceive sometimes things are breaking in me. I love to feel myself as a queen and that’s not the case there. Does anyone play like this ?
Sounds like you still need to work on honest communication with your partner. I understand your desire to let him experience things that excite him, but if it is causing you distress then that should be more important.
If you allow him to play, maybe you should always be there to direct it and be in charge? And I wouldn’t let him orgasm with anyone but you. He should (in my opinion) rely 100% on you for orgasms.
I don’t want to be there when he play, I don’t want to control this part of his life. he is free for me. He cannot orgasm without me anyway.
I did not really understand if your partner is only doing bondage only with other women or why why you would call your kind of realtionship "poly" (to me the definition of poly always has been if someone loves more than one person). But in the end none of this matters... If you tried to open a relationship and someone got any sort of problem it is time to stop it immediately and completely (your partners as well) and talk it through ! It is hard to advise anything from the outside as this is a quite emotional topic that everyone experiences in different ways, but continuing without some solution would be the worst solution in the long term.
I ask this question just in order to know if someone else live that kind of situation. I need to speak about that with other persons. I have others play partner too but I am not sub. And I have one principe that is : one and only person could never bring you everything you need whatever he does. I cannot forbid him to play. I don’t want somebody unhappy. But thankyou for your answer and advice.
We know a couple who are in a similar situation as you are, but that in itself will not help you as they do not have the same problem you have. If you will not find another solurion and / or can not come to terms with the situation you could and you should forbid it. Selfsacrifice is no solution.
@Divine67, he always comes back to you, right? I think that is your answer. I hope that over time, your jealousy will abate.