Reviewing captions on Tumblr today and came across this quote from Ritemate, that really resonated: "It's the duality of male chastity; the constant fight between the biological urge to ejaculate, and the intellectual understanding that cumming is bad for your mood, and for your relationship. In my (shameful) experience, if I'm left uncaged, sooner or later, biology wins."
Agreed. If I am uncaged I will masturbate to orgasm, 100% certain of it. The duality is worse than that. I want her to lock my cock away, deny my erections and orgasms...and I don't, I want her to be firm and to stick to her plans of however long...and I don't, and I want her to use my desire for sex and her sexiness to motivate me...and I don't. I drive myself crazy haha.
I experience the same duality for BDSM that involves pain. This morning: Her: "Did you enjoy that?" Me: "Yes! Errr....no? I don't know, it's confusing!"
I wish she would use the crop on me.... Fucking hell! Why am I wanting her to do this... Afterglow... I wish she'd crop me again...
My recent discussions have gone like this: I told her if she ends our game I'm going to fuck her immediately "one way or another." I told her she hasn't broken me, I'm still a raging bronco. My desire for her is very high and the only thing holding me back is this male chastity game we're playing. I don't know how long it would take for her to "break" me like some of you guys have been broken, seemingly. I just don't know. I welcome her to try, but as for now she's on notice that if she terminates our game she's going to get fucked more than she wants and that's just how it is . Consequently, I was supposed to be out last Friday but she's extended this training session with no set end date mentioned .
Did she extend your time before or after you stated that she would get fucked relentlessly as often as you could.
Or... some part of his brain knows that cumming is bad for him (that "intellectual understanding" stated above) and he is just insuring he gets what he needs. I can actually understand this because I am much the same way. Chastity DOES make me a better husband and better lover. I love my wife, and I love to make her happy, and she is SOOO happy with me locked. Yet I know that if left unlocked it would not be very long before biology would take over. So I tell my Queen exactly that. Do I do it to shift the burden of "the choice" - perhaps. To sooth my male ego - certainly somewhat. Or because I know it is better for the 2 of us even though it will drive me nuts - for sure. So I think he is getting exactly what he wished for.
i completely agree - that is what makes it so hard (no pun intended) when Goddess asks if i want to cum. It’s a wonderful inner battle.
Has it always been that way for you? My hope is that @BigWoodsmanLittleWood can evolve to that point. I'd love to be able to reward him more for good behavior, but experience has taught me that too much generosity on my part only unwinds his training and makes both of us unhappy. (At this stage anyway.)
As I did, 415 days ago I suggested she just never let me cum again, I said it as a joke and she loved it. Day 415 of infinity