How Many of You Actually Struggle with Male Chastity or Orgasm Denial?

Of course it’s frustrating. Cried… nope.

 

I'll never let myself cry over it. I asked for this. Once the fantasy part fades and reality kicks in. You either suck it up or take the keys back call it quits.

 

No tears here yet, couple times I was close though. My Wife is good about keeping things interesting even if she’s not going to grant a release. I try to keep in mind I asked for this, for her to take it seriously and be strict, and that the times of freedom I used to get years ago, after a few days and cumming multiple times, that I was depressed and had the blahs and was ready to be locked and denied again. So I know this is the best way to live for the both of us, and when it gets really tough, just get through that day and maybe tomorrow will be easier

 

There are days I just want my porn back and the ability to masturbate, but it's not what my wife wants. I led us into this, we agreed to this, I will continue as long as she wishes despite my occasional misgivings. The good outweighs the bad.

 

I wouldn't say im hardcore but I enjoy the horny frustration 99.9% of the time, I really dont find it hard in any way. However im usually locked for 2-4 weeks so thats possibly the reason

 

It is difficult, but, perhaps perversely, I get pleasure from being denied and she also loves it, which is wonderful.

 

IMO that's the most important part because I could probably pick the lock or otherwise remove the cage, since I am a man with tools, but I choose not to because we both love the lifestyle we have carved out.

 

Crying myself to sleep would be more like losing a family member, not for dealing with sexual frustration.

I have had mild depression from it though. Nothing earth shattering, just a funk. Something isn’t right. This usually occurs when there are long periods of inactivity, or interaction with my wife. Add on the foreseeable future looks as it will continue and a sense of indifference sets in.

Learning how to get back on track before it becomes an issue is important. Learning how to cope with the down times is important as well.

 

I am in a constant internal battle with this crazy fetish. I ask myself every day why on earth would I want to NOT get a blowjob? Or NOT have PiV? Or, for goodness sake - NOT have an orgasm? It sounds absurd.

No one lies on their deathbed, reviewing their life, and thinks: "boy, I wish I had a lot less blowjobs and sex during my life.

There is something seriously wrong with us, lol.

 

Same for us. Denial is my pleasure

 

I’ve not ever cried myself to sleep, however I have had moments where my wife has reminded me that this is what I asked for and that she could never go back to how it was before. I am locked and orgasm free by default. For us it is a submission of control to her she does not play the days game so I never know when my next unlocking will be. These number games would mean that the game is in control not her. I try to spend my energy pleasing her with house work, home improvement projects etc not just sexually. I am locked with her in control so I can focus on being a better husband for her. If you are spend energy on crying from lack of sexual relief then how can you be focusing your energy on your wife?

 

I’m not assuming anything and I don’t know what you are or aren’t doing. It’s a reply based off your own post asking how others deal with this. If anything, it’s merely meant to be a self reflecting/rhetorical question posed for anyone reading and to be quite honest what I use personally as motivation when I’m at odds with not getting things my way.

Read and reflect or ignore and move on, YMMV.

 

I also get my doubts, going through one right now. My wife unlocked me for washing and I didn’t bother wearing the cage afterwards. She simply asked me “where’s the cage” a couple of hours later followed by “I told you I want you to wear it” and that was the end of the matter. I dutifully obeyed. I’m now reflecting on why did I introduce her to this?..,

 

I never want go back.
Yes, sometimes I feel horny and want to remove it and masturbate and cum but no. I don’t want for few seconds of temporary satisfaction to loose the pleasure of denial of any relief.
I am on 62 day of no relief and and I want go as far as possible