IDEAS FOR FLR

Keeping him caged with some encouragement is pretty maintaince free. Housework needs done anyway he could take charge of that. It doesn't all have to be wild kinky shit lol.

 

My wife and I can certainly understand your situation we’ve got two little ones as well

realistically chastity play is a fairly easy low maintenance one to just bring the vibe up a little higher. Establish some simple rules for him to follow. Domestic service is beneficial and you can make it fun. Require a nightly foot massage or back rub. It doesn’t always have to be fully sexual. It’s a dynamic where he should eagerly serve regardless of task

 

Well nothing says I’m in charge like direct orders. Verbal communication is non invasive, takes no time, and is easy to fit in.

Try getting rid of some of the normal etiquette and instruct instead of ask.
Rub my feet
Rub my shoulders
Run my bath
Paint my toes
Show me your cage
Etc

You can even manage a bit of sexual teasing without lifting a finger if you wanted. Give him the key and tell him to edge x amount of times, no cumming, then lock up. You could give yourself a quick orgasm with toy (or however you normally do it) while he watches. Hand him the toy to put away and say goodnight.

At least for me, her being vocal about her needs or wants, and being ordered to do them gets me into subbie space rather quickly. It doesn’t take much to keep everything going if you just remember to try occasionally. It’s easy to let it fall away to the curb when you have so many other things going on.

 

Correct. For us FLR is our lifestyle. We go about our normal lives. I just try to make sure her life is a little easier and more comfortable at home. Cook, clean etc. It’s easier for her to have time for me if she doesn’t have to get off work and start dinner and laundry. We still have 3 children at home. All teenagers now but it’s still possible to keep things interesting with a little one in the house.

 

My advice is to incorporate FLR into your daily life so that it becomes natural and not just for play time or sex or chastity. After a while it will just flow.

 

Stay locked. It will become normal and flow. Sorry wrong thread…

 

It took years for me and my Goddess Wife to truly get into a FLR.
I was the one who made it happen.
I constantly told her I wanted her to have complete control and I wanted to serve her.
Talk is cheap, so I started really focusing on not just her pleasure but doing everything to make her life easier.
She realized I was serious about this, and realized what I needed.
Over the next few years she completely changed, and took total control.
She joined femdom groups and researched every thing to do with it.
Our life now is a femdom marriage and chastity/orgasm denial is the most important part of it.
I’m there for her sexual pleasure only, and I take care of all her needs.
I couldn’t be happier.

 

Hope it works well for you and congratulations on the new baby. Like the others have said keeping him locked is the best first step

 

Hope it works for you!

 

Are you breast feeding? If so then that’s very demanding for you and he ought genuinely to be running around serving you like a queen, FLR or not!
But main reason I ask is that breastfeeding our firstborn didn’t work out and his mum took to having me suckle whilst in bondage - she reading a good book and with the other hand alternately stroking and pinching my cock. It induced a very powerful feeling of submission and dependency…!

 

To be honest its really hard to maintain that dynamic especially with chastity, because wearing a chastity cage while feeding or washing baby bottles or going to a baby music class just feels wrong. Kink and real life don't mix well especially at this stage.

I think as hard as it is to make time, your baby is very young so plan one or two evenings a week where despite how tired you are, you peg/tease/dominate/bust etc and use that as your time to connect.

I won't wear my cage when my kids are around as frankly it just feels weird.

 

Can’t quite grasp this “feels weird” thing. Adults are sexual beings, and the worlds of sexuality and parenting exist side by side without touching. That’s true with conventional sexuality so don’t see why it wouldn’t be with chastity/FLR

 

No it isn't because with 'conventional sexuality' as you call it, people aren't 24/7 reminded of that sexuality. A chastity cage is there, it needs adjusting, it stops you being able to pee standing up - it interferes and isn't a positive. It stops movement in certain ways, and if a kids touches it/sits on your lap with it. That's not appropriate.

I don't know if you're a parent but if you are I'm deeply concerned that you don't see the difference.

 

Well my kids are all adults and when they were small I wasn’t in chastity so that question didn’t arise. But I can’t see why it would because when you wear a cage 24/7 you forget it’s on. And unless it’s some massive contraption it’s not going to be detected by anyone else.
Thing is, when I was with my kids I was never aroused or even thinking about sex. It’s a totally different headspace, I kind of assume that’s universal. Two different realms, unless you have serious issues.

 

Maybe in your case the way you use a chastity cage is just during a “kink session” rather than part of ordinary life. And yeah, you wouldn’t do some sort of sex play with kids around, obviously! I take for granted we’re all sane and responsible people on here, not freaks. But the OP is in a FLR so I took that into account.

 

Also if you read my post you WOULD know I’m a parent because I talked about when our first child was born and when you have a child that makes you a parent. A parent of three well adjusted and successful young adults, so no need for you to be “deeply concerned”!

 

So you’re talking about a period of time of which you have no relevant experience to voice an opinion.

Most couples first have a sex life properly after their first child when they decide it’s time
To have another. It is neither practical nor enjoyable to be in a chastity relationship with young kids.

 

Wow you’re quite abrasive and opinionated aren’t you. If your cage needs adjustment and impedes your movement it sounds like you need a better one and maybe that’s what’s making you so challenging.

 

To the OP @MissThick : so the consensus seems to be keep him locked and get him to treat you as you deserve! Try my suggestion if it appeals, but I imagine it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. Sorry about that little squabble on a thread you started!
And as others have said, congratulations!

 

Since you’re from Aus you now have a perfect excuse to enjoy the Wiggles. I saw them live with my daughter when we were both too old to have an excuse really, and was one of the most enjoyable gigs I ever went to. Captain Feathersword is my role model.

 

As everyone has stated. Keep him locked up. However, if I may suggest that you also check on his chastity from time to time. Make sure he is securely locked up. It just shows your taking time to pay some attention to him being locked up. It is simple but it will mean a lot to him as well. It just shows you are thinking of his chastity. My wife checks on my cage from time to time and I very much appreciate it.

 

As was part of the previous heated debate... you may or may not be comfortable with a chastity cage. But there's plenty in daily life you can incorporate. Most stuff has already been said, but some other things you can do include:

He must ask your direct permission to deviate from the usual daily routine (like seeing friends after work).

My wife pops her used underwear each night in to a wash bag under my sink. I am to hand wash, iron, fold and put them back in her drawer each day.

Opening doors and pulling out chairs.

Calling you Ma'am (or something else) when you are at home alone.

If I am present when she gets out the shower or bath I dry her off.

I pull the bed clothes back each evening on her side before bedtime and lay out her nightwear. If we go to bed together at the same time I undress and dress her.

Hope some of these help.

 

What’s with all the Jays????