Where are the younger generation FLR couples?

Young women want their men to lead (which is why young women are so often attracted to older men), older couples have experienced many of life's ups and downs and are more free, financially and mentally, to experiment with all manner of things, should they wish. With sex, it is often a matter of "been there, done that" once we get to 50. (unless you have led a shltered or repressed sex life)

As fun as it might be to project our current life onto our younger selves it simply doesn't make sense.

There is no chance my younger self would have been interested in having less sex, lol, nort would my partners have wanted it since they were also heravily interested in sex.

 

This is a fair statement. We're mid 40s and i know I'd have never opted for less sex 20 years ago. Being I've now done about everything I've ever wanted to sexually, this kink makes getting off worthwhile somehow.

 

Younger guy here I would categorize my relationship as a FLR granted it's not as intense as most. It's definitely not a common thing at younger ages. I would agree with the above comments that most younger women want someone who will take control. That's mostly based on what women I know have told me in regards to their dating life.

From a male perspective I think porn has some impact on things with males pretty much constantly being fed porn where the male is dominating the woman. Along with many male influencers pushing the whole "alpha" male bs. It creates a toxic sexual mindset in younger males.

As for how FLR looks for us it consists of me being locked or abstaining from masturbation when she is not around. She always cums first in the bedroom that is if I get to cum. When out with others she'll always have me do tasks she could do herself in front of them. If she drops something at her feet she asks me to pick it up things like that.

 

For me and my first wife, BDSM was something we discovered early on in our relationship. It was just weekend fun and play to enhance our already sexual life.
Ten years of that marriage never really became a FLM. I was always the Alpha back then after playing.
That was in our mid 20’s.
When we divorced and I meet my second wife, I knew I wanted a more femdom lifestyle. At 38 , and meeting a new woman. I wanted it to start out kinky and for me to be submissive. I opened up to her right away about what I wanted and needed. She was new to this and never really heard of a mistress/ sub lifestyle before. But we were so heed over heals for each other that she wanted to give it a try.
I could go on forever, but the rest is history.
So as far as your question goes, I think women younger want a Alpha male to take care of them, but later they realize that a submissive male is so much more rewarding.

 

those couples are out there, there's a wide variety of kink everywhere. i would think they don't care to chat about their lifestyle and prefer to just do ahead and live it. as i recall, one study suggested there's an income connection; another, social standing and class... probably safe to say a certain percentage of couples live this lifestyle. i personally wouldn't take the time to write about that much unless i were an exhibitiionist or something like that.

 

I don't think young women are programmed in today's society to start off as dominant. As much as we are all for equality and empowerment there is still a lot of social and physical factors that limit that equality early on. And as far as chastity goes, honestly- I feel terrible when a young guy expresses interest in this kink. I mean, when you are young use it! Bang, experiment and exhaust yourself while everything works like we all dream it would work. Once life and kids and careers and biology drag life down and your abilities aren't as spring as they used to be then switch things up.

 

Is it that some of the older guys, like myself see it as a way to be more submissive rather than coming from a place of submissiveness perhaps.

 

tytlive, "is political polarization in america threatening marriage?" insight into the apparent preferences of young Women in relationships.

 

Younger guy here. My gf and myself are in our mid twenties.

At the beginning of our relationship it was very even, but over time it has become clear that she is more organized, determined and disciplined. Both professionally and privately. Over the years, her self-confidence has increased and my girlfriend has become more dominant. In the meantime, our FLR is such that I take care of the entire household and she can simply relax. For example, she's out with friends right now and I'm allowed to clean the bathroom. I'm locked up but she doesn't want to take the keys yet, she doesn't really like the look of my cage but thinks it's ok if I wear it. Apart from that, she always has the last word, tells me what to do and what not to do, is dominant in bed and always comes first. She particularly likes tease & denial and shows me that she earns more money than I do. She also bosses me around in front of her friends and humiliates me. I can't imagine anything better. I have a very high sex drive but being locked up for her feels right. I'm looking forward to the next few years but I'm a bit scared of how things will develop. So yes, there are more young couples living in an FLR than you think

 

Im locked in my mid tweenties. I can promise you that we experiment a lot but chastity is also really interesting for myself. I don’t think that anyone in my age is permanently locked so it’s not holding us back. Chastity is just another additional sextoy to enhance our sexlife simple as that

 

Well, we are just around chastity but not FLR.

 

I’m early 40s and my wife is mid 30s. She permanently caged and pantied me almost 7 years ago, when I was 34 and she was 29.

So we’re out there.
Well, I mean…I’m actually in there, but you get my point.

 

We are mid 30 married 11yeaes to 2 kids.We been doing flr under a year but not extreme stuff.It has improved our relationship,she takes flr and chastity seriously and has getting more dominant.I say I am dominant before this and i believe she was a dominant too but see didn’t know it.Since I decided to submit to her it has worked out so well for us. We are vanilla in front of kids but they start to know that their mama is in charge now.She make more money and I do the house chores.I still working on being a perfect sub and we both growing into this.We am excited to see where it takes us.

 

IMO the younger generation is too busy with their TikToks to pay any attention to fetishes.

 

Older couple here, early 60s. We only started locking the cock a few years ago. I don’t think we’d have taken to Male Chastity when we were younger, with family, kids, work to worry about. Now, with children grown up we found Make chastity and Cages. There is no need for the male’s semen anymore, and I have found myself loving becoming the submissive to my loving wife.

 

Actually this is not true. Most young women choose men their own age, and those who choose older men often do so for financial reasons.
The last thing young women want is for someone to lead them.

 

I can confirm this 100%. My girlfriend (24) is the most independent women I have ever known and she tells me directly that if I even begin to undermine her independence or steer her in one direction, that she doesn't think much of it and if I don’t stop I will regret it

 

I think it really depends on the area in which you live. I live in Russia and in a big city. Young women here are very strong now, and I even heard a lot of femdom jokes at work, lol.
But if we talk about less developed or religious regions, then even young women there are very constrained by the boundaries of society.
But there is definitely progress, even in the last ten years.

 

I wish effective chastity devices had been available when I was in my 20s.

 

Yes, it feels great. My sex drive is pretty high and my girlfriend teases and denies me almost every day. The longest time without an orgasm was about 5 weeks with daily T&D, I was absolutely broken at the end and during this time I was completely reprogrammed by her. At my age, I can hardly imagine being locked up for several months or years. I was completely desperate and she took full advantage of that. I'm really excited to see how the next few years develop.

 

Yes, that would have happened to me.

 

My first girlfriend in college was willing to spank me. She indicated that she was willing to go further, but I backed away.

 

Sounds fun!
For us it was an evolution.. step by step.. and she is still not really comfortable with my cage but likes the effects of it.
I hope that in the future she will take full control but that’s my fantasy, I really hope that I will not regret it if it really happens.. cage, phone, financial and social control.. let’s see what happens