Couldn‘t stand the humiliation

Good luck

 

Sounds like a fun night to me

 

I have to say I am with you. The big humiliation would be a definite no in my book.
being forced to drss by your woman, That would be amazing to me.

Maybe an alternative would be she could force you to dress and make a wondereful dinner at home for her and some friends of her choice. The humiliation would be limited then.
Just a thought.

 

Why would looking or dressing like a woman be humiliating?

 

I'm certain I'd feel the same way you did under those circumstances. I think you did right to back away from that if you're really not ready for that experience.

 

I think he meant, for him. It would be humiliating for him to dress as a Woman. I didn’t get the impression that he was making a blanket statement with an idea that applies to everyone.
His story is just specific to his situation.
Others will have different experiences.

 

Because not everyone in chasity is into sissification or being feminized. While I have nothing against it. I can definitely say it's a hard boundary for me and am glad my kh has no interest in it.

 

You'd agree if you had reassignment procedure wouldn't you. Then you'd be dressing gender appropriate.

 

Either you enjoy the humiliation and accept that you like it, and it turns you on, or it sounds too coercive in my opinion and not a good place to be for your mental health. I hope everything works out to the satisfaction of you both. If this is you then own it and try not to feel this as a humiliation.

 

Or you don't see it as humiliation. It's a costume (like everything we wear every day -- we're creating an image, presenting as *something*. An unusual costume -- that's fun. It's playtime. If others don't enjoy it, that's their problem.

 

Give it time, early days, giggles.

 

Sounds like fun to me!

 

I think it's great you've shared this @Andrea_NL

It sounds like you've got something wonderful going with your Wife! And the fact She is interested in growing your boundaries is admirable, imho as a submissive sissy i think it is lovely to be challenged from time to time! Only one life to live here, as i know of anyway.

As i am not able to see things how you do, i might be projecting my point of view, so i hope you won't see it as a judgement of your choices;

But for me the word "Humiliation" would not be applicable in this setting, especially when your Wife said She wanted you to look beautiful when going out. Assuming one is to be dressed tastefully:

Yes, i'd feel insecure and maybe a bit embarred, as i'd worry if i would "pass" enough as a Woman and feel judged by other people in the restaurant.
The reality though, is that most people simply do not care (as long as your not offending or hurting anyone- eg.; having your locked dicklet isn't hanging out lol).
Some may even admire your your Wife's courage to express yourselves (i know i would).
On top of that, also consider your Wife is there with you all the way, willing and happy to be associated with a pretty dolled up sissy like you. I am sure it is quite a big step for Her too, wanting to be there for you, broadening both your horizons and deepen that connection.

I am wondering what your wonderful Wife thinks and felt, and how other Women on the forum think of this? Would You take your feminized husband out for dinner, how would that go?

x

 

I guess the humiliation aspect depends on where you stand on cross dressing. I would find it humiliating because I'm not one. And it would be a humiliation I wouldn't enjoy (there are plenty I would) because it's just not my kink. There's plenty on here who would love the opportunity.

 

Bit too much fantasy going on here for me.

I commit fully to my wife (KH) and trust her never to put me in a situation that might be quite so openly disappoved of.

 

I’m amazed how many ppl here see humiliation and coersion as something to disapprove of. My entire sexuality is about humiliation. And it has to be real, not some playacting that doesn’t take me out of my safety zone. So as a consequence it also has to be coersive, otherwise I wouldn’t expose myself to it. When I recollect all the really intense sexual experiences I’ve had, I couldn’t have had half of them if I’d been offered the possibility of escape.

I’m not criticising anyone who doesn’t want that for themselves, but why the apparent judgement of others’ needs and preferences?

 

Because consent and boundaries are important for most. If anything else for safety reasons. If cnc is your thing great but for many including myself it's a hard no.

 

The title of the thread would suggest something else, and there was no judgement in what I said.

 

It’s not just in the arena of sexuality. So many experiences are facilitated by coercion. For example I wouldn’t have my lifelong appreciation of Shakespeare and the King James Bible if they hadn’t been drummed into me by rote as a child. And I had an amazing out of body experience once whilst having the sh*t kicked out of me by cops. Just saying…

 

Fair enough but I suppose I’m hypersensitive to the whiff of disapproval since the desire to have choice denied is so central to my sexual identity.

 

Yeah but public humiliation by cross dressing is abit different then being forced to read or beaten up against your will.

 

But my point was they can all be enriching.
Or not… they could be horrific. You never know til after.

 

Perhaps I'll never know. I have a handful of hard boundaries I won't ever cross. A few soft ones I might dabble with it ever arises.