The Future of Chastity - Real Talk...

I think the future of chastity has its greatest potential with more females learning about the benefits, and then wanting their boyfriend or husband to participate. Right now I believe most chastity play is male initiated. If the concept ever gains traction in the mainstream places where women get their relationship advice, look out.

 

I think your right.

It first needs to become more normalize and, more importantly, more "acceptable".

Once people hear about it, they will head to Google to find out more. Some will go right to a porn site (unfortunately) but a few, will be looking for more real information. Hopefully some will end up here...

It will grow, just not as fast as we think.

Iso.

 

When it comes to vanilla chastity I think because most of it is led by the guy, the tech is less important. He wants to be good for his wife. He doesnt want to cheat. He reassures her it's ok to take the lead. Maybe the younger generation will be more open about it. This isn't something we share with friends. The benefits of locking your husband. It could help so many couples. I know so many guys really frustrated, but in the wrong way.

 

I think no, and also "Virgos" ain't gonna stick so I think you need to let it go.

 

What we need is normality. It should be normal that a guy in a relationship mostly refrains from masturbating. That we not only give our hearts but our bodies to our spouse.

It took me 23 years to realise this truth. How he achieves this, either through good behaviour or by locking it up is beside the point. Or knowing that your man would struggle on the honour system, it would be perfectly normal to buy hubby a cage and insist he wear it for the good of the relationship, because... Well that's what the science says.

 

I think you are way off base. My sense is it has little to do with the gay community. There are two main groups of men that use it. Submissives, and men looking to control their sex drives. This site does not say "Gays need not participate", yet there are almost no gays. Sure, there are likely to be some, and they would be welcome, but it is not the main group using chastity in their relationhips. Seems to me you have established a hypothesis you wish to be true, and are writing an article to support that hypothesis, but it is not the truth. Good luck.

 

I haven't got empirical data, but there appear to be a few demographic drivers regarding many of the members of this site.

Maybe confirmation bias, but it appears the biggest contingent here are middle aged to early elderly men, who had failing, sexless marriages and stumbled upon chastity and rejuvenated their relationships with their significant other. I count myself in this group.

There's also younger men indulging fantasies while operating outside of an established relationship.

The last group I observed are some of us with significant religion induced guilt regarding their sexuality, masturbation and possibly fidelity.

 

Totally plausible. A salient feature of chastity is that it often makes the relationship better in many , many respects -- communication is better, the relationship is more intimate, the sex life is better, both partners learn more about each other. I could go on. We could all go on. Most people would feel these are good things. So, given that, why aren't most males caged? Perhaps because the society is still based to a considerable degree on male supremacy, and to cultures like that locking up your dick is very scary. But I get the feeling -- it is just a feeling -- that male supremacy is eroding, and quite possibly, as it erodes, more and more males will be willing to take the leap. Once that happens the culture will change in interesting ways.

 

There is a podcast "Chastity Pod" which is the perspective of two gay men who both like to wear chastity devices. They have had people in FLR on like Thumper from the Denying Thumper podcast. I thought it was good.
https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aH...2ahUKEwios5LFwdGCAxUCioQIHTkWC9QQ9sEGegQIARAC

 

I fully disagree. Men are sluts, gay men even more so. I think you see far more penetration (pun intended) with the desperate married man side who isn't getting nearly enough sex and hopes MC will liven things up...

 

I think it is good. It has been good for us and often encourage my girlfriend to recommend it. So yes I would post it.

 

The real future of chasity most likely is it'll remain a kink. Not any accepted mainstream thing. A femdom ruled society with all men in chasity serving women is purely literotica. It may gain some in popularity as men become more curious, women become more powered and technology advances. Some femdom ruled empire with men as servants is pure fantasy though. Just enjoy what you do why overthink it so much.

 

Overthinking is what got me into chastity in the first place

 

I mean good for you I guess. It's just alot of thought and guessing over the future of what will remain a minor kink in a big world of them. It'll never be some mainstream publicly endorsed all men in mandatory chasity thing. It's all kinda silly really. Enjoy your thing for what it is.

 

Do you think if we had a "50 Shades of Grey" type movie it would make Chastity more of a known kink?

Kind of like how "50 Shades of Grey" introduced more people to BDSM?


Iso.

 

There are a lot of gay men and chastity is used in at least half of gay BDSM these days. It's already normalized in the gay kink community.

 

I love making stats up, sadly I can only do it 27.5% of the time.

 

It's questionable whether any chastity device is truly "escape" proof, if "escape" equates to the ability to achieve an orgasm. Sure, with a PA, you can insure that someone can't remove a cage non-destructively, but they can destroy the lock or a part of the cage pretty easily to get out. Plus they can still achieve an orgasm using any number of techniques. A cage is simply a reminder. Little more. Still, a fun reminder, but I for one have discovered any number of ways to get what I want, even though locked up. A mind in need of an orgasm can solve many problems.

(PS. I heard that we cracked the Nazi's code during WWII by putting chastity devices on a bunch of mathematicians and told them that they would not be allowed to cum until they cracked the code. Two weeks later, the code was cracked. That story never got out)

An orgasm detector would be interesting, but detecting it is not as good as preventing it. I'm afraid the only real solutions would be medical (drugs, surgery, and the like).

 

Surely with the gay community, into BDSM and chastity you are already starting with a minority of a minority of a minority. I would say though that in M/F relationships there is more likely to be a mismatch of libidos leading to the man either cheating outside the home and/or with his own hand, leading to the need for something to help redress the balance. Chastity can help with bringing M/F relationships to a better place, so there is a need. Others are into chastity for other reasons, but the serious players always have good reason to make it a lifestyle thing rather than just a sex-toy. People feel they need it. Some are probably right. I can testify to the benefits. Not saying it's a golden egg, but things have never been better. I guess that partly why there is a longing for it to go mainstream.

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