Humiliation can be very exciting. Everyone likes different fetishes. I'm personally into verbal humiliation mostly. Part of it can be considered SPH. When my girlfriend/Mistress whispers into my ear: It's shame he's locked. I could use him right now. But he's so small in that cage. And cute. It suits him. I guess I'll have to use bigger one [dildo]. In this moment I crave nothing more then fuck her. Spoiler alert. She won't let me So if you understand any type humiliation it's basically the same. Just different category. So my KH does it just because it's exciting for me. But not specifically SPH.
It’s the humiliation and degradation for us, madam loves to see me squirm and my face flush with embarrassment as she insults my manhood and also my ability as a lover. It also works as a behavioural enforcement to remind me why Madam had to cuckold me, and why I am locked.
The word humiliation what bothers my wife.we do cut up and joke about it and becoming a premature.I told her guess I it can be a fun tease and foreplay and not in a degrading way.That might change the way she look at it she seem like that a better way to look at it
For me it’s a way to role play my bitchy Domme persona. I feel it’s a low effort way to acknowledge my husbands submissive urges. I keep it reasonably good natured. It also a fun way to keep his ego in check.
Was this something you was into start off with or something that took some time and thought and what turn it around for you to try it
I think I am into many types of humiliation play. When I read a humiliation list, I'm amazed how many things I like (like chastity). Surprisingly, my wife likes the SPH the most it seems. She just plays with the idea, mentions it frequently. I think it fits into making her more powerful, and keeping me in my place, feeling submissive. It makes me wonder what I will get to do during each sex session with her. She likes to tease that cuckolding might make sense given her situation. (I strongly doubt she'd ever really want to do that). I guess she can tell that claiming it's small has some effect on me, and that's funny to her.
My wife has really gotten into sph lately. I think she saw my size anxiety when recently let out (I was almost 2" smaller) and finds it fun to push those buttons. Not sure if she was kidding or serious when she said "I really like the fact that it is so small and won't do anything unless I tell you - it's how I know your chastity is permanent. I don't even need the cage anymore because you know you can't satisfy another woman with that!". She also added that I would never be out of the cage long enough to find out if the length comes back, so I should just consider it permanent shrinkage. My logical brain thinks that is mean and not very loving of her. But my emotional brain, and my little head, get incredibly turned on, yet very submissive, when she brings this up. So like it or not, it works.
For a person who lived as an Alpha Male for most of my life, the humiliation of being locked up and under the total control of my Mistress, is what now makes me tick. She knows me very well and what things and feelings tend to humiliate me. She uses them all the time and reminds me of how much I seem to have shrunk since bring under Her spell and in the cage. Now, I tend to thrive on being embarrassed and humbled. It is a key part of our relationship and my submission to Her.
well i know im small and i always was so it dont bother me really now. and really as well i like it better now cos it easy for me to hide it away.
Basically it's easy. Just do what you both like. Or what she likes - It depends on what kind of relationship you have. My girlfriend didn't even know what BDSM means. She didn't know ehat chastity cage is. Now she's sometimes like professional. She knows what makes me "hard" and she knows what makes her wet. It's long run amd she doesn't have to like it right now. Just don't do it. It some time when you both will be more experienced you can change opinions. Maybe she'll love it. Give it time and try new ideas one by one. Get better it those you like. Chastity doesn't mean for her your humiliation. It's about her power. Go this way. Give her time to explore this the way she likes. After all you're the one who's locked
Non as far as I can see you either like it or don't I'm in to it but she was not but now she's always going on about it and turns me on every time
If you think SPH is bad, couple it with ED. I have reached the age where things started to slow down and when placed on blood pressure meds it only got worde. I had the average just about 6" cock (on a good occasion) and now not even achieving that goal plays into our activities time to time. If she does not give me my magic pills and takes off my cage, it will be to compare my penis to the 9" starpon she will place on me to ride until she is exhausted from her orgasms. Now when she does slip me a magic pill, I know I will be in for fun when I feel my cock struggle against my cage like old days and she will eventually let me out for some fun. This is why we switched to Cialis, take longer to take effect and the drug continues to work for over 24 hours.
It not a big deal If we do or don’t. I really only interested if she would get something out of it or an improvement or confidence or something like that.I haven’t suggested it or pressure her or ask for her to do it to me.Just see why other do it.