Why are you in chastity?

A little bit of #2 and a little bit of #3 for me.

 

Sort of the masturbation one but there is more. Another big reason and not on your list is simply:

I wish to learn how to serve my wife. Consider her needs in everything I do.

Masturbation is one aspect of that and perhaps the most tangible.

 

So for me its a some of #1 and some of #3. I find my self naturally submissive and feel serving Mistress/Wife and KH...as well as Dominant/FLR women is my proper role now. I think even if I wasnt with Mistress/Wife, and we have been together over 30 years, I would be a sub to a long term Dom(s) in some similar relationship

 

Soon after we started male chastity at my suggestion my mistress started to discover that she is generally more aroused with me like this, oral is more pleasurable knowing I'm caged, frustrated and can't cum and likes that I'm her sexual slave in private, this includes having an undemanding playmate for boardgames, etc., if and when the mood takes her. She also doesn't miss any form of penis-centric sex including a complete ban on PIV. My main reason is for how happy it makes her, that I promised her full control.... forever... and with no restrictions to this.

 

There is one missing from the list.
That being I like physically wearing a chastity device as a part of self bondage and BDSM play/ I enjoy the challenge of wearing one in differing scenarios.

 

I cannot fully explain it. I feel comfort in wearing my device. Like it makes me complete.

 

I have a beautiful female friend and confessed that I am in love with her. She does not return my romantic and sexual feelings. We’ve worked out an arrangement whereby she is comfortable to have me as an admirer provided I permanently renounce all sexual pleasure, be it solo or with anyone else. I’m effectively her eunuch. I’m permitted to express my adoration by giving her presents.

 

Aww man, that sounds like it sucks to me. Does she let you lick her feet or anywhere else for that matter?

 

Nooooo! She’s totally unattainable. We’re very close friends though.

 

Sounds tough

 

And lest you think she’s cruel, this is all completely at my suggestion, because I wanted to be faithful to her and not masturbate, because I’ve always felt it’s wrong to fantasies about a woman without her knowledge and approval. To me that’s a form of mental assault.

 

Yes very tough indeed. But after half a century I feel liberated from a burden of guilt and self-disgust.

 

Enjoy

 

Oh I do, thanks. If you’ve read some of my other contributions you’ll know I’ve devoted much of my life to extreme BDSM. It’s a relief to be done with that. It was a wild trip, but over now!

 

Not read that I know

 

I'm a bit of all actually !

 

How did she know about chastity?

 

I’ve always felt this way as well, like I was being disrespectful.

 

I explained it

 

I am a sissy and have no cock.
It’s to small to be a cock.

 

Mainly 3, but also as punishment for being a terrible lover.

 

It's much more complicated than a 5 point choice!
I like being sexually submissive but I can also switch, and often play both roles at the same time. (being physically dominant in bed while giving oral and still caged and denied for example)

My chastity play started as an extension of bondage play for me, a cage being just a specialized form of cock bondage, with no knowledge or understanding of what came next... Now, with more experience, it's much more about hormonal control, using denial to avoid the post orgasm blues and using the submissive behavior to bring out the dominant side of my wife and help me focus much more on her pleasure than just my own.
It's also about the lifestyle enjoyment, we're in our young 60's and after more than two decades together, our sex life is better than ever and still improving year by year, much of it due to me being in chastity for the majority of the last years.

 

My GF gets her rocks off by exerting dominance over her guy's sexual activities. So while I "let" her keep mine in a cage, she made it clear from the outset that if I wanted to be with her that was going to be a requirement. We're over 6 years now, and while I know what her pussy tastes like, my cock still has no idea what it feels like. We didn't start out with that as a goal, but it's just worked out that way.