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    #51 Ak Geena, May 28, 2023
    Aren't you an narcissistic ass. The person gave their opinion and yo
    You're a narcissistic a hole. My opinion is mine and just that. Learn to respect others as no one likes a jerk, that's you incase that went over your head. I'll just block you so I don't have to see your judgemental homophobic nonsense but hope you think before condemning others who simply give their opinion.
     
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    #52 Elfman, May 28, 2023
    Geting fucked isn't the end of the world. Humiliating for you, yes, especially if you stay locked, but if you're not being sensual with the dude that's a different thing. Bending over and taking it is very different from kissing/stroking/sucking/eye contact, etc. You could even have your face buried between her legs while it happens, or you could get into the same room and immediately stop the scene.

    That being said, you should ask yourself if it's a hard limit, and why, and respect that.
     
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    #53 NowIveDoneIt, May 28, 2023
    You sound completely unhinged...
     
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    #54 Drews, May 28, 2023
    Thanks for your response. I am hoping that my posts did not come across as homophobic. I am not in the least and have a number of gay and lesbian friends including the guy my wife has asked. My wife has discussed this with me quite extensively since she first brought it up. She in no way wants to humiliate me or hurt me. She has shared that this has been a fantasy of hers for over thirty years and gave me examples of situations where she wished it had happened over the years. She always thought it was not possible and never intended to ever discuss it with me. The only reason she shared it with me was because I have asked her continually to let me know your fantasies and we can see if we can make it happen. That is where I messed up getting upset when she shared it with me. I no longer think she would have me locked if I agree to go along but it would be her fantasy so she would decide. This was definitely a hard limit of something I would never do but after thinking about it and understanding her thoughts which I basically initiated I am leaning to maybe. I am not concerned at all about it making me gay or bi nothing wrong with that it is just not me. I need more time to think but appreciate the advice and opinions.
     
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    #55 Chaz69, May 28, 2023
    Here's another way to look at it. The difference between gay and straight men is mental, not physical. So if gay men like receiving bottom sex, they like it because it feels good, not because they're gay. In other words, we all have the same plumbing. So, if you can detach any feelings of "does it make me gay", I would say you should go for it. Worst case, you don't like it and you don't do it again, but best case you might discover it's the best thing in the world and want to do it lots more times, just ask @LockedRandy.

    But as others have said, it's not something where you should instantly go from 0-100, you need to break yourself in. Your wife pegging you is a good start, but you should also use a dildo on yourself a few times, where you can be in control.
     
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    #56 IB-Chaste, May 28, 2023
    Personally, I think you will know whether this is a hard limit or not when it is actually occurring. As you say you have become more accustomed to the idea the more you think about it.

    As much as I don’t agree that you should do something you are uncomfortable with just for your partners sake, I imagine at times you (and most of us here) have allowed our partners to do something for our benefit at some stage.

    Additionally, I would also think that in her fantasy you would enjoy the act.

    So, with those things in mind, my advice on this one would be to set up a play session with this gentleman. Absolutely make it clear that you don’t want to commit to anything other than something you know won’t be too much of an issue to you. Eg. Both naked, mild stroking, handjob etc.

    After that you may be a bit clearer about where you want to go with this.
    That may be that you found it exciting. You were really happy seeing how pleased you wife was. You may want to take it further there and then…
    Or, it could be the opposite, but if your wife sees that it is something you’ve tried but really can’t enjoy, she may accept that it will remain in the realms of fantasy. As with anything she has done just for you, it’s no fun if she isn’t actually enjoying it.
     
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    #57 Drews, May 28, 2023
    I appreciate your thoughts. You definitely gave me some other things to think about. I am imagining me and the gentleman are really not going to have much touching of each other until he would enter me. I like the idea of having the option of saying no if it is not something I can do. I am still not ready to agree to set anything up at this time but, I have moved much closer to the thought after processing things and having more discussions with my wife.
     
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    #58 Drews, May 29, 2023
    Your message made me think more about my wives thoughts of how I reacted if we played out her fantasy. I actually have not even thought about that until I read your message. You were correct, she does not want me to miserable and be in pain. Her fantasy is that I will be enjoying it as she is doing hot things to me to keep me excited. She also does not want me to intimate with the guy but also does not want me to be uncomfortable if our bodies touch in any way. Thanks for giving me the idea to ask questions that are focused on my wife not me in her fantasy. Sounds like the first things I should have asked but honestly the last thing I thought about. Still processing the thought before I commit to anything.
     
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    #59 tomf_22033, May 29, 2023
    The “funny” thing is hard limits change over time. This is stuff that was hard Red Hell No, No F*ing way but now I enjoy.

    Hence my comments to OP are to be true to themself. To take time to reflect and to be ok where they are now. Do this at regular intervals and adjust as needed.

    IMHO life is a journey. And as long as we are ok where we are now then it’s good. So enjoy life. Try new things when you’re ready but not when you’re not!
     
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    #60 Drews, Jun 1, 2023
    After many long discussions with my wife and the many thoughts shared in all of the responses I have decided to give my wife the fantasy that she has thought about for years. This went from a hard no and never to something I cannot believe that I am agreeing to do. The peggings no longer hurt so I am pretty sure I can handle the real thing. I have thought about it a lot and I do not think it will bother me that I actually did it afterwards. I do think I might have some regrets if I do it or if I do not do it for my wife. She is hoping this is something we can both enjoy together and has agreed to stop if it is really bothering me. I have also talked to the guy that has agreed to give her the fantasy and he agreed if he sees something wrong he will stop it. I have been locked now almost two weeks and she decided I should stay locked until this happens on Saturday. I really hope this is something I can do for my wife.She is so excited and cannot believe that this thought she has had for so many years is really going to happen. I hope I can go through with it. Thanks again for all the help that has helped me make this decision.
     
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    #61 Chaz69, Jun 1, 2023
    Good for you, I think you are making the right decision.
     
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    #62 Fisherman, Jun 1, 2023
    If you want to make it memorable...

    1. You are caged, of course.
    2. You are restrained, no backing out.
    3. Your wife fluffs him in front of you.
    4. Your wife masturbates with a dildo while he takes you from behind.

    Enjoy.
     
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    #63 Drews, Jun 1, 2023
    Thanks for your thoughts but this is my wife's fantasy and she has ideas of how it is going to happen. I doubt my wife would want to fluff him and he would definitely not be into her doing it.
     
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    #64 spider203, Jun 1, 2023
    I do know how you can make sure it is the right decision but I hope you can live with the choice you have made.
     
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    #65 tomf_22033, Jun 1, 2023
    Wow congrats to both of you. And please share when you are ready afterwards.

    Please also be very kind to yourself afterwards. This is intense and will scramble your head for awhile. So don’t fight the random thoughts and such.

    Finally relax, enjoy and have fun. You’re doing something special few have the guts to do!
     
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    #66 Mtzlplik, Jun 22, 2023
    Kinda would love an update. I said this would be a hard no, but now thinking it would be fun, with the right circumstances
     
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    #67 Drews, Jun 26, 2023
    Thanks for asking about an update, things have been busy so I have not had a chance. We did go through with it and luckily it turned out to be a positive experience. First the guy was incredibly understanding and really was into my wives fantasy. My wife really let loose and had an amazing time. She was so excited about watching him inside of me it actually got me excited. I have to say it felt a lot better than getting pegged and I actually came since the whole situation was so intense. I was worried about how I would feel afterwards but it did not bother me at all. I am very secure in my sexuality and know it was nothing more than fulfilling a fantasy for my wife. My wife has been amazing ever since. I always wanted her to let loose in her desires and this definitely changed things. She keeps me locked all the time except when she wants sex. We have had way more PIV then in a long time. I also have been waking up with her in my face wanting oral while I remain locked. She has asked if I would ever do it again. I would do it again in the right situation. She has not pegged me since and explained she really does not enjoy it and I really do not like it either.
     
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    #68 Mtzlplik, Jun 26, 2023
    So glad you were able to face the situation. After reading your story, got me thinking, I don’t think I am Bi, not interested in men, but if I were in your situation, I think I would ask to be restrained, so that in my mind I am being forced, and raped. I really think at least once in my life I’d like to feel a cock cumming in my ass, and my mouth. I’ve sucked and fucked enough dildo from my wife, but so curious to feel a throb and swell, and feel a hit load shot into me. Easy to say now, here, not sure I could man up to go through with it, hence the “forced” aspect. I guess that’s why I like reading about bimbo rubber doll porn. You don’t know if it us a man or woman, and you don’t care,
     
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    #69 Drews, Jun 26, 2023
    This sounds like it is a fantasy of yours where my situation was my wife's fantasy. My wife would not have wanted me to be restrained and I would not have done it if I did not have control to stop if it was not working out. As I said in the previous message, it did feel better than the strap on and it was very interesting when he came inside of me with a condom of course. If I did not know him and trust him, I could have never gone through with it. My wife did ask about me sucking first and I declined. Part of me wonders if I should of tried it but I have no urge to do it. I have seen him a couple times since and luckily nothing feels weird since it was an understanding that this was my wife's fantasy and nothing else.
     
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    #70 flip__26, Jun 26, 2023
    that's excellent that it worked out so well for you. you say you'd be open to doing it again in the right situation - anything you'd change next time around?
     
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    #71 SlaveBoy73, Jun 26, 2023
    Congratulat
    congrats on pleasing your wife.

    Obeying her is always going to be a turn-on for you. it is how you are wired
     
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    #72 Drews, Jun 26, 2023
    If she ever wants to do it again it has to be her fantasy again. I have no desire to do the act but I got really turned on because I saw her have so much fun. It would also need to be the same guy or someone else I knew that would be safe and respectful. The only thing I might do differently is try to suck if my wife asks me again. Not that I have any desire to suck a dick but now that I know what a penis feels like inside me and what it feels like for a guy to cum in me I guess it makes me wonder what it would feel like to suck. I have no desire to suck but I am lucky that my wife loves sucking me, I just wonder what it is like and why she enjoys it so much. I am mostly just glad I got to see my wife live out something that gave her so much enjoyment.
     
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    #73 Drews, Jun 26, 2023
    If she ever wants to do it again it has to be her fantasy again. I have no desire to do the act but I got really turned on because I saw her have so much fun. It would also need to be the same guy or someone else I knew that would be safe and respectful. The only thing I might do differently is try to suck if my wife asks me again. Not that I have any desire to suck a dick but now that I know what a penis feels like inside me and what it feels like for a guy to cum in me I guess it makes me wonder what it would feel like to suck. I have no desire to suck but I am lucky that my wife loves sucking me, I just wonder what it is like and why she enjoys it so much. I am mostly just glad I got to see my wife live out something that gave her so much enjoyment.
     
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    #74 tomf_22033, Jun 27, 2023
    Thank yiu for the update.
    And congrats!

    I’m happy for everyone who was involved.

    As for you, what a great attitude. And I hope your brain doesn’t play games with you. I know I said it before, but you may suddenly have all sorts of thoughts on this. If you do, please don’t fight them, instead please work through them.

    Otherwise, I hope you and your wife continue to explore and find new and interesting things to make both of you happy.

    Finally, if you don’t do so, one day why not bring her some flowers just to say you love her.
     
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    #75 Open2njoy, Jul 1, 2023
    Congratulations on fulfilling your wife’s favorite fantasy! I know you went through a lot of soul searching and were on the fence about doing it. In the end it turned out to be a positive and intense experience. Your wife obviously put in a lot of effort to assure you had a good time with someone you could trust. That alone should have taught you she has your best interests at heart.
     
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