Is there room on this forum for a alpha male? I've been reading watching and wondering...why are all the men submissive. Do women not like a man who's willing to take control but be controlled? I will 100 percent give what I get but it has to be a partnership for me. Not a one way road.
Welcome. You have fallen for the false dichotomy that says that <something> are either <this> or <this>. I'm chaste for my GF but I'm not submissive and if I was it would be a massive turn off for her.
Hello welcome! Alpha males are welcome, pretty much everyone is welcome. I think you’ll find a healthy mix of just about everything here. I’m an alpha male when it comes to work, I hold a high-level job with 6 figure income that I worked my up through a cutthroat corporate ladder to get. I own nice cars, a good home, I take care of my family and community. I’m an alpha everywhere except my relationship with my wife. She’s the alpha and I’m the beta. There is power in submitting and some KH’s recognize that in their subs. Enjoy your time here!
Not at all. Weak men don't lock up their dicks. It takes strength and character. We use chastity and denial to bring out my more submissive side..... Without it I'm not at all.
A lot of it I think is misused and misunderstood semantics. There are different reasons why men are or act "submissive'. Early childhood experiences where they feel literally inferior due to childhood trauma. Or the desire to be submissive to get out of the day to day Alpha mindset where they have to be in control of everything. I think in general, masculine wants to submit to feminine (and vice versa) for the characteristics and features each brings each other. Masculine is often harder and more rigid, whereas feminine tends to be more fluid and flowing. Logic vs emotions, that kind of thing. And masculine and feminine are not the same as male and female. We all have varying amounts of each, and their expression is fluid from thought to thought. Seeing a lot of stereotypical "submissive" men characteristics in conversation may just be how it's expressed, quantity of people posting about these things, or your propensity to see those topics more than others. Another way to look at dominance and submission is that dominance is the act of focusing your attention outwards, onto others. Submission is focusing inward. Chastity, for example, can be both at the same time. A man could be in chastity and being submissive in that they are focused inward on the experience by a "Dom' who is outwardly expressing their control to provide the sub the experience they are looking for. But at the same time, that same "sub" is acting very dominant...in day to day life like work, or in how they act dominant over their KH doing something they want while they are in a "submissive' state of inward focus receiving what they want. E.g. guy (sub) locked up, KH (dom) teasing and enforcing the chastity all the while he (now dom) is giving her (now sub) pleasure and she is inwardly focused on receiving it. But that's not all. Is he actually dominant now, or is he submissive in that he is submitting to her because he wants to and he is realizing his submissiveness (inward focus of attention) and enjoying the submissive experience he desires by pleasing and serving her. I don't think it's black and white...or at least maybe I'm confusing the hell out of it into a more complex thing. You say "willing to take control but be controlled". I think this is the key to the expression of the masculine and feminine roles together. Absolutely taking control and bringing our masculine energy to 'take' her, while also submitting to her and her control. Hopefully that wasn't too confusing or off the mark.
It could be said that this is the other way around. The dominant is focusing, and being encouraged to focus on themself and the submissive is encouraged to focus on thier dominant. Again, not black and white.
Do you want to say more about what you mean by Alpha? Do you mean in life in general or with respect to MC in particular? I think the former is very prevalent and many people not in strict FLR are (I think) referring specifically to being submissive with respect to MC only. My PH enjoys a little bit of being told what to do when it’s related to MC, but neither of us are interested in him being subservient in general.
Myth of the Alpha https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-the-alpha-wolf-idea-a-myth/ https://wolf.org/headlines/44265/
My wife loves the strength and authority that I show in the vanilla part of our lives. But she does love her complete authority in our bedroom. One quick jerk of the leash locked to my cage shows me who’s in charge.
In fact it's much like a joke. If you have to explain a joke it is not a joke, it is merely a statement.
I'm all for a strong man. But a strong man that finds joy in being kind, gentle in spirit and doing things to make me smile. I have no room for a man that thinks he gets to tell me what to do. However, I very much appreciate people in general that can take the lead. Finding that balance between strong and sweet has been a hard find for me.