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    #1 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 24, 2023
    I have a history of some obsessive anxiety. I've done therapy and taken medications but some days I just feel, well, off. Yesterday was one of those days. I've had these days before and I usually just try to get through it but other things (like my cage) kind of get put on hold until I can lift myself out of the funk.

    So I'm 7 days locked up and the wife said I won't be cumming anymore this year. She says that frequently but we usually get into the space where we want to have sex or one of these moods hits me. Yesterday at lunch I told her that I could tell I was feeling down and I even thought about ending cage play for the time being.

    "Oh hun... I'm here for you, but we're not stopping cage play. You'll feel better about it tomorrow"

    That's what she said. Of course, before the end of her sentence I was straining, but it's awesome to be where we're at. It feels like all the lead-ups to this point have been false starts with best intentions. Apparently it's a little different now.

    Anyway, just thought I'd share.
     
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    #2 Lazlo Toth, Feb 24, 2023
    I really like these stories. The real ones. No flash. No “night of a thousand bulls”. Just an honest sharing of a conversation.

    Thanks for sharing your powerful story. By saying very little, you said a lot.

    I hope you take the time to tell us how it is going this year.
     
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    IB-Chaste Chastity Superman.

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    #3 IB-Chaste, Feb 24, 2023
    I think this could make anyone seem a little depressed!

    But more seriously, thinking about when I was struggling with… well, life in general I wish I had a partner that loved me enough to keep me caged.
    I think that would have changed my perceptions entirely. So, when you’re feeling off, don’t think the cage as being a problem, allow it to be a reminder of the special people you have around you.
     
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    #4 Lazlo Toth, Feb 24, 2023
    IB says it well. He’s like “the Solomon of chastity” for me.

    And The Mansion seems to continue its rise in the quality of discourse.
     
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    #5 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 24, 2023
    I really appreciate looking at it this way. I guess I didn't look at it as a problem, It was more self depricating like "this is stupid and my wife is just going along with it because she loves me" and more negative self talk. Thanks for your insight!
     
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    #6 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 24, 2023
    Yeah, I think I've shared in the captions thing that the mean mistress and the humiliation with bulls was never really my thing, nor my wife's. But I fully understand this fetish means different things to different people, even if some of the posts come off as a little more fantasy than reality.
     
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    #7 Caged for life, Feb 24, 2023
    I also suffer from severe anxiety and have medication that I took myself off of due to the side Effects, so I feel your pain as far as your wife goes congratulations her telling you that you are staying locked is hot, not so sure about not cumming for the rest of the year though lol good luck.
     
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    #8 Chaz69, Feb 24, 2023
    Not cumming can be addictive in of itself. The longer you go, the less you want to throw your current streak away, and after you have ended a streak a few times and felt the emptiness that follows a full O, the less you want to go through that again.
     
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    #9 IB-Chaste, Feb 24, 2023
    He was renowned for his wealth, wisdom, abundance of wives and concubines.
    This Solomon guy sounds nothing like me at all :confused:

    I don’t know. I think around 6-9 months you really start wanting to orgasm again!
     
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    #10 knightly, Feb 24, 2023
    I want to get to that point. As @Chaz69 describes, that's where I am. And I want to be pushed to the point where I am absolutely going crazy to have an O and must have it.

    The built up sexual tension is tremendous fun and delicious.
     
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    #11 Chaz69, Feb 24, 2023
    When I first did a 3-month denial stint, I was desperate for an O at the end, the next long stint was 4 months, and yeah, I was ready for some relief at the end. I'm currently at about 2.5 months and I was offered an O yesterday but declined, so I'm not ready for one yet, but who knows in a month or two.
     
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    #12 IB-Chaste, Feb 24, 2023
    That’s the anticipation. You know after 3 months it’s coming (pardon the pun) and so you’re building it up.
    Next you need to break that.
    I don’t think you’ll be wanting one until you’ve matched your record.

    Think back to when it started. 2 weeks and you’re going out of your mind!
     
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    #13 JaySaysYes, Feb 24, 2023
    Yup!

    It's crazy to think about it now.

    I don't know how I managed to not cut the cage off.
     
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    #14 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 24, 2023
    ha
    hahaha, thank for the encouragement!
     
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    #15 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 24, 2023
    I think that's part and parcel of chastity play, lol
     
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    #16 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 24, 2023
    I don't know when I'll hit my breaking point, but I'm sure my wife doesn't care too much right now.
     
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    #17 madams-sissysub, Feb 24, 2023
    Congratulations! There is only one way your going now!
     
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    #18 nikkel, Feb 24, 2023
    I have the same mood swings .My Queen ,my KH does not live with me. I'm her errand boy, driver, and house cleaner. Before being caged I'd loose interest in being her sissy ,and not reply to her texts .I'd stay away for over a month or 2. Once I got my cage it kept me horny ,like constant foreplay. When I did start to feel a bit lose of interest ,one word to my Queen and I was back full of interest .
    Sadly ,my Queen decided to remove my cage so she could see my erection and laugh at me because I never was allowed an orgasm in her presence ,
     
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    #19 bondinchas, Feb 25, 2023
    As they say... "Chastity doesn't start until you want out!"
     
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    #20 appropriatelypermanent, Feb 25, 2023
    Hahahaha, never heard that but I guess it makes sense!
     
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    #21 Chaste J., Feb 25, 2023
    Your so right there! It's very counterintuitive, but very true!
     
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    #22 SlaveBoy73, Feb 25, 2023
    have you tried ashwaganda for anxiety? It’s an old Ayurvedic medicinal herb. You can get them at drugstores.

    maybe it might be useful…but check with your doctor and pharmacist first
     
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    #23 captain midnight, Feb 25, 2023
    It's great that you have found a supportive partner who is there for you during your down days. It can be challenging to manage obsessive anxiety, and it's commendable that you have sought therapy and taken medication to help with your symptoms.
    It's also wonderful to hear that your cage play has become a positive outlet for you and your partner. The commitment to not cumming for the year can be challenging, but it's clear that the dynamic between you and your partner is strong enough to weather any potential obstacles.
     
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    #24 nikkel, Feb 25, 2023
    I would rather have the caged "foreplay" Meaning it keeps me horny 24/7 ,and like you said ,the big O is such a let down, that when caged I never wanted one.
     
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    #25 captain midnight, Feb 25, 2023
    It can be challenging to maintain interest in a dynamic like this, especially when your partner is not physically present. But it sounds like you have found a way to keep things exciting and engaging, which is fantastic. I can relate though. not in the mood all the times, but it is normal i think.
     
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